An often overlooked social menace eating away into the fabric of contemporary Nigerian society, is the waning influence of parents over their wards. Children are growing up lately in a world utterly different from the world we used to know and a world changing with increasing rage, and many parents finds themselves at their wits end on how to tighten the moral and cultural noose around their wards.
In an age of mobile telephony; social media; the internet; Reality TV; You Tube; a booming entertainment industry dishing out illicit products; warts and all, parents are increasingly wielding the shorter end of the stick in terms of moral influence they have over their children and are fastly losing ground to the obtrusive influence of society funneled through the media, both new and old alike.
And so whereas the occasion of Children’s Day affords us an opportunity to celebrate children within childhood and youth, it is meet that we reassess once again, the quality of parenting that the children of this age and time are receiving. This is to find out whether we are actually in control of our wards, morally, socially, spiritually, psychologically and otherwise at a very critical moment of their lives.
I watched with trepidation recently the MTN Nigeria “perfect gift for your children” commercials which invited parents to buy a smart phone worth N 13, 000 for their wards to enjoy 3 months of data bonus. Apparently, a smart phone in the estimation of the influential telecomm giant, was the perfect gift for a child of say, 9, 10, 03 13 years. I am told many Nigerian parents fell for this, and the telecom outfit smiled to the bank from the commercial extravaganza.
Now, that supposed promo helps to put in context the extent to which many parents in Nigeria and elsewhere, are losing out on the control of their wards. It accentuates the rather cavalier attitude of parents to the upbringing of their wards hence the exploitation of this worrisome attitude by the business community to make rain. And we would not blame them, as there is no morality in trade and commerce.
I learnt recently to my befuddlement that many students in the primary and secondary schools between the ages of 9 and 14 are all owners of smart phones ( perhaps “perfect gifts” from their parents), and have been expending data clicking away their lives on ‘censored’ websites that add nothing to their all round development. Being incapable of any serious or rigorous thought at this very tender stage of their lives as has been proven by psychological science, these young lads spend time binging on pornographic contents that tend to feed the curiosity of the sudden discovery of their sexuality and the biological language of their bodies.
At this stage of life when these young ones ordinarily should spend time making the rounds on Shakespeare, Achebe, Ekwensi, Emecheta to keep the list short, in order to develop their literary and cognitive alertness, resort to musical sites to download poorly incubated sounds mistaken for artistic works become the object of choice. Many of these kids unfortunately have since become “science students” even without having lab coats, on account of undue exposure to a so-called entertainment industry that has elevated moral decadence to a craft.
At a time when extra-marital childbirth has become too fashionable and coming from a segment of the society that play role models to our wards; at a time when a young man who goes on National, nay global TV to engage in illicit sexual trade is honored by a certain state governor and decorated with the ‘epaulets’ of an education ambassador even when the showpiece struggles for educational utility; at a time when illicit show of ill-gotten wealth has become a rule of thumb made popular by the hush-puppies of this world; and all these in the full glare of our wards, we cannot help but shudder at the thought of what could be the multiplier effect on the minds of these young ones.
And so, it is all of these that parents on this occasion of the Children’s Day, must reflect upon to reassess themselves on how they have been faring in keeping their wards at arm’s length of this societal influence. That said, it must be conceded that never has the problem of bringing up a child been so complex and difficult as it is today. In a period of harsh economic reality that has seen many parents relegate their bounding duties of the psychological, social, moral and spiritual growth of the child to nannies, house-helps and care-givers all in a bid to meet up with financial needs of their wards, society has found itself grappling with the opportunity cost of the all round growth and development of the child that is often compromised in the mix.
But even then, the reality of the times should be the more reason why parents especially younger ones must be proactive in order not to lose their wards to the misleading standard often set by the media and entertainment industry. A sure way to start, is to monitor the access of their wards to smart phones and the T.V. as the twin tools of the disorientation of the young. One would have thought that interest groups in the all round growth and development of the child would have risen up in condemnation of the MTN commercials for being a tacit accomplice in the erosion of the moral codes of the young. For I am still struggling to wrap my head around how a smart phone could be the “perfect gift” for a child of say 14 years or thereabout.
Yes, it could be argued that we live in an age of information and technology, but such argument overlook the virtue of doing right things at the right time. We do not usually feed a new born, with a dish of yam porridge simply because they are hungry. As a father, I’d think that availing my wards everything from Chike and the River to Eze Goes to School; Things Fall Apart to I’ll Marry When I Want; Beggars Strike to Last Duty; The gods are Not to Blame down to This is Our Chance”, to name a few, would be the perfect gift for my child as against a smart phone. Not for a child still struggling to master his or her arithmetic table or one preparing for their mid-term examinations. That would be shabby parenting at the least.
The MTN commercials therefore is an evidence of how the influential media briefed by mercantilist interests utilize the Hypodermic Needle Theory of mass communication to distort long held societal values and moral codes all in a bid to make sales and grow their balance sheets as is true of every capitalist venture. Indeed nothing can be ridiculous than to trade a child’s all round development for 3 months of free data bundle.
On this occasion of the Children’s Day celebration 2018 therefore, parents must grid their loins and take the parenting of their wards even more serious. We live in an increasingly fast society spinning at a supersonic speed where every poor error of judgment made on the development of a child may not be repaired. Too many a Nigerian parent must look with askance at the duo of the media and entertainment industry─capitalist demagogueries of sorts who are out to steal the innocence of their wards for economic greed.
It was the 35th president of the United States of America, John F. Kennedy (1917-1963) who once observed that “a child miseducated, is a child lost”. But even more instructive are the words of scripture thus, train up a child in the way he should go, and when he grows up he’ll never depart from it.
Happy Children’s Day.
The writer, a legal practitioner and a public interest commentator wrote in from Lagos. Comments and reaction to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Who Will Explain Coronavirus To Buhari?
Coronavirus (COVID-19), an exorable doom, threatens life on the planet. It is exorable because it is conquerable. This explains why world leaders are taking the charge to combat this ominous apocalypse. It is a time for leadership from the fore-end; a time when citizens must hear their leaders speak to them; see them take action, making assurances and fulfilling those promises. The counsel, consolation and firm statement of a leader is imperative at this moment.
In Canada, Justin Trudeau, prime minister, despite being in self-isolation and his wife battling the virus after contracting it at a conference in the UK, is leading the fight against this dreaded disease from the fore. He is providing regular updates of the efforts of his government to roll back this scourge, listening and speaking to citizens.
In a popular broadcast on March 13, Justin spoke to citizens of Canada announcing measures to relieve the financial stress brought on by the pandemic on Canadians.
“We do not want any Canadian to have to worry about whether or not they’re going to be able to pay their rent, whether or not they’re going to be able to buy groceries, or care for their kids or elderly family members. We need to make sure that Canadians have the options and the ability to follow the best public health advice and keep themselves safe,” he said.
In the UK, Boris Johnson, prime minister, leads the struggle against coronavirus. He provides updates, alongside health experts, on the measures his government is taking to tackle the spread of the disease. And in the US, Donald Trump is not shying away from speaking to Americans on the virus.
As a matter of fact, President Muhammadu Buhari’s lapses are often easily dismissed by his supporters or by Nigerians who do not know better. Some of them say, ‘’ Why must the president speak when the minister of health and the NCDC DG are already doing that?” This is a contemptible rationalisation of incompetence. Are they suggesting the president lacks the capacitance to understand the issues?’’
Really, I surmise the president has been walled off the ‘’candid cameras’’ over the years by his handlers – not just now – because he lacks the intellectual propensity to understand and discuss incisive issues. The last presidential media chat he held was in 2015 and it was a woeful outing. Also, his non-choreographed media interviews have been abysmal to say the least.
The truth is the unfiltered Buhari is a vacuously gaffing one. On October 14, 2016, standing beside Angela Merkel, German chancellor, Buhari said his wife, Aisha, ‘’belonged in the kitchen and the other room’’, when he was asked to comment on the first lady’s criticism of his government.
On April 18, 2018, at the Commonwealth Business Forum in London, the president said the young citizens of the country he leads are lazy.
“More than 60 per cent of the population is below 30, a lot of them haven’t been to school and they are claiming that Nigeria is an oil producing country, therefore, they should sit and do nothing, and get housing, healthcare, education free,” he said during a panel appearance with world leaders at the forum.
In a February 2016 interview with UK Telegraph, Buhari dropped another clanger. He said the young citizens of his country have a knack for criminality and should not be granted asylum in the UK.
With the Buhari experience, it is indubitable that Nigerians must place a high premium on education — not just certificate – in choosing their leaders. The cost of electing leaders who do not have the intellectual grit to understand and handle matters is far too high.
The senate has asked the president to speak to citizens on this threat, and Nigerians are also asking the president to speak to them. This is an abnormality. Citizens must not beg to hear from their president. But because it is Buhari involved here, we have to beg and even excuse the crass inefficiency and vacuity.
Perhaps, the president is still trying to get a hang of it. I think he has ‘’capable handlers’’ who can break it down to him in ABC.
Mr President, speak to your citizens. The words of a leader are more resounding and assuring than the blandishment of proxies.
PS: Let’s follow all health protocol as advised by the NCDC.
• Wash your hands regularly with soap under running water.
• Cover your mouth and nose properly with handkerchief or tissue paper when sneezing and/or coughing. You may also cough into your elbow if a handkerchief is not available.
• Avoid close contact with anyone showing symptoms of respiratory illness such as coughing and sneezing.
• Avoid self-medication, report to the nearest health facility when you experience any of the above-mentioned symptoms.
Fredrick Nwabufo is a writer and journalist.
Sanusi: Once Upon An Emir, By Wole Olaoye
We are all potential Ex-es: ex-student, ex-director, ex-lecturer, ex-senator, ex-governor, ex-president, ex-oba, ex-emir…. The inimitable Zik famously reminded us when he had a spat with Ukpabi Asika that Ex was an inevitable prefix for any human being as was evidenced by the fact that a certain young man who would someday become an ex-Administrator, was the son of an ex-postmaster!
So, what’s so apocalyptic about Sanusi Lamido Sanusi joining the ranks of ex-potentates? Nothing? Everything! Don’t ever think that bell you are hearing is tolling for the former Emir of Kano. No. It could be signalling the beginning of a comprehensive demystification of traditional rulership by plebeians holding tenured political power. In centuries past, no plebeian messed with the traditional institution. The halo of nobility, the sheer vastness of a prince’s hereditary powers, rights and privileges, made the subject know his place.
Yesterday’s subjects are today’s political sovereign. They make no pretences to sophistication. They load a gun to kill a spider. When you dethrone a monarch and then deprive him of his liberty, forcefully banishing him to a place without electricity and potable water, you are playing god. If it was all a public relations Olympics, the calm dignity with which Sanusi handled the humiliation made people all over the world admire his chutzpa and hand him the gold medal. A
Life and its many puzzles! Why is it that for some men and women, “their sleep is taken away unless they cause some to fall”? What do you do about an ego that knows no satiation? As the Preacher in the Good Book timelessly says, “All the rivers flow into the sea, yet the sea is never full… The eye is not satisfied with seeing, nor the ear content with hearing… there is nothing new under the sun”.
The Yoruba have a poem that says just that. “The horse struts and frets and then dies. Being a veteran walker is no immunity to getting lost. Nothing new under the sun. I’ve seen kings reduced to slaves; and servants who mounted the throne. Haven’t my eyes beheld both river and sea? Haven’t I seen a hunchback on spindly legs, and a midget climbing a ladder to add condiment to the soup pot? Tell me, has anyone ever started a building from the roof?
The new Emir of Kano, Alhaji Aminu Ado Bayero, is a cousin of his predecessor. As royal intrigues go, when the dust is settled the sword will be sheathed and brother will embrace brother. That is the way of princes. Eventually, outsiders will realise that all they can ever be in palace politics is outsiders. Our very own Nobel prize winning Kongi was not amused by the scandalous extra-judicial detention of the former emir.
He put the emir’s travail down to his progressive stance: “Emir Sanusi was a one-man EFCC sanitisation squad in the banking system, taking on the powerful corrupters of that institution…. “Most important of all, and most pertinently for the nation, Sanusi was one of the early warning voices against religious extremism whose bitter fruits the nation is currently reaping….
The doors of enlightened society remain wide open to Muhammad Sanusi. As for his current crowing Nemesis, a different kind of gates remain yawning to receive him when, as must, the days of governorship immunity finally come to an end.” Support for Sanusi is not limited to radical voices.
Veteran technocrat Alhaji Ahmed Joda penned a panegyric in support of the ex-emir: “The purpose of this letter to you is not to commiserate with you, because I know that you must have known the likely consequences of the principled position you have taken. The reality we must face in Northern Nigeria is that the evil forces of feudalism that have kept us in bondage for so long are still there and fighting. You have been the only voice that has been telling us this truth….”
It is easy to kick a man given a pin-fall by fate, or piss on the grave of a fallen warrior. Dead men don’t bite. Real friends show up when you are in life’s valley. Say what you will, I would rather have a friend like Nasir el Rufai when the chips are down. In the midst of all the turmoil, conspiracy theories have surfaced to the effect that the dethronement is but a political sleight-of-hand to propel Sanusi to Nigeria’s presidency in 2023. Caution! Let’s separate the issues. Political succession is totally different from fundamental human rights. Sanusi is not my next president.
My views on power rotation are well documented. The ex-emir will go down in history as a champion for the rights of the poorest of the poor. He advocated for a new Northern Nigeria where old backward practices such as the almajiri system and irresponsible parenting will be abandoned. His was the voice crying out in the desert, lift my people up from the cesspit of penury. The attempt to demonise him after dethronement through various allegations, including one on religious fundamentalism, is dead on arrival. The same fate will befall the vilification of El Rufai on account of his loyalty to Sanusi. Please quote me: Modern challenges can never be resolved with a resort to medieval solutions.
Christopher Hitchens’ Q&A may someday apply to the ex-Kings College boy who’s now an ex-king.
Sanusi Dethronement: The North Only Beheads The Bearers Of Truth
By Fredrick Nwabufo
Northern Nigeria is prostrate. It is the axis of uglies – banditry, insurgency, kidnapping, diseases, ignorance, and drug abuse. Alas! The region’s elite are aware of the problems, but look away because the disequilibrious status quo sustains them. What is petrifying, however, is that they maul and clobber at anyone who spits the truth in their faces.
I think, this is the mortal sin of Muhammad Sanusi II, emir of Kano – beyond his politics with Abdullahi Ganduje, governor of Kano.
The World Bank says 87 percent of Nigeria’s poor are in the north. And that while poverty is plummeting in the south, it is rocketing in the upper region.
“Poverty in the northern regions of the country has been increasing especially in the north-west zone. Almost half of all poor lived in the north-west and the north accounts for 87 percent of all poor in the country in 2016,’’ the Bretton Woods institution said in its report entitled ‘Advancing social protection in a dynamic Nigeria’ in February 2020.
In August, 2019, the federal government revealed that 1,460 people were killed by bandits in seven months. And that the north-west is the worst-hit by this bloody enterprise. The killings have steadied, expanding in proportion and execution in the region.
In his accustomed manner, Sanusi recently vocalised these depressing figures of retrogression in the north – as regards the World Bank report — earning himself praise from progressive Nigerians and reprimand from the usual suspects — those stuck in the cesspit of bigotry.
Also, the gadfly emir of Kano, whom I regard as the John the Baptist of the north for his vociferous condemnation of this status quo, is alone in his advocacy against irresponsible polygamy, Al-majiri and child marriage – practices the northern elite espouse. He is the face of a progressive north; the northerner of the new age.
As a matter of fact, on different occasions he had complained about the northern elite whom he said wanted to silence him for speaking the truth about the region.
‘’Our colleagues and compatriots among the elite do not like statistics. Numbers are disturbing. I recently gave a speech in which I said the north-east and north-west of Nigeria are the poorest parts of the country. This simple statement of fact has generated so much heat; the noise has yet to die down. The response to this speech has been a barrage of personal attacks and insults aimed at silencing any voices that dare shine the light on the society to which we are saying Bring Back our Girls,’’ he said at a lecture held to commemorate the Chibok girls abduction.
And I guess they can only take the throne away from him but cannot take away his royalty in the community of decent humans. Really, I believe the emir would rather give up his throne than be gagged by the shareholders of iniquity.
To say the least, Sanusi’s dethroning was not unexpected. Ganduje had always shown his hand in this plot. Really, the emir of Kano never hid his dislike for him. But what is there to like about a governor who was allegedly caught on camera stuffing wads of dollars into his babariga? In the build-up to the 2019 governorship election in the state, the emir was not shy in expressing his disapproval to Ganduje’s candidature.
So, Ganduje, who considers Sanusi a ‘’loud mouth’’, plotted a bitter revenge after he was re-elected. He had moved to remove the emir in 2018 but for the intervention of some ‘’higher powers’’. However, he whittle-down the power of the emir by creating new emirates from his domain. He was not done though. He rustled-up allegations, set up probe panels – all in the desperation to embarrass Sanusi.
But Sanusi was still talking.
Really, one of the most abrasive places to exist is in the circle of non-progressives. You talk different, think different or act different, they will feel threatened. Even when you try to clown around; the aboriginal clowns will still feel threatened because you do not look the part.
I think, Emir Sanusi is light-years away from the people he is dealing with in Kano government. He is needed more at the top echelon of government where he can contribute more meaningfully to the development of Nigeria.
Northern Nigeria is not ready for an emir like Sanusi. He is ahead of his time.
Fredrick Nwabufo is a writer and journalist.
- Lifestyle13 hours ago
‘I Tested Positive To HIV After Gang Raped By 3 Men – Chef Ayomide
- Politics11 hours ago
Ganduje Reinstates Suspended Aide Who Attacked President Buhari
- News Feed21 hours ago
Lekki tollgate should be dismantled permanently: Bode George
- Education11 hours ago
BREAKING: Public, Private Schools Can Reopen Monday – Lagos Govt
- News Feed21 hours ago
Kunle Afolayan flaunts interior of his exquisite mansion (Photos)
- News Feed21 hours ago
Nigeria Air Force arrest officers for flogging curfew violators in Osun
- Sports10 hours ago
The potential for iGaming in Nigeria uncovered
- Education16 hours ago
FG, ASUU Disagree On Payment Platform