Tonto Dikeh has revealed her intentions to get married again in a new interview, she also disclosed that she is never again going to help her man grow because she is tired of being the moneybag in her relationships.
In an exclusive interview she had with Saturday Sun/The Sun TV crew in Abuja, the mum of one took a 360-degree view of her life and talked about her sex life, drugs use, cosmetic surgery, failed marriage and motherly love for her son. Enjoy the interesting excerpts below
Do you now live in Abuja?
Oh yes. I’m now an Abuja girl
Why did you relocate to Abuja?
In 2015 when I was pregnant with my son, King Andre Omodayo, I decided to have my baby, my motherly instincts kicked in , I decided to think of anything that would be better for my son , I love Lagos and I do know the effect it has had on me , I do know what I do not want for my child. So, I decided to check round the country to see where I could raise my son in the best way that I can and I found Abuja very soothing; education is great, I am not scared that my son will get corrupt either in school or with the neighbors, the neighbors are beautiful. As an actress or a public figure, there is nothing like adoring your privacy and they give me my privacy here in Abuja.
So you find Abuja as the perfect place?
Let us look at your family life, where you are coming from. Have you totally dropped those ugly experiences from your marriage?
Yes I have. Definitely at some point you heal, everybody heals at some point
You got healed quickly, so soon?
It’s a choice, if you want to stay down it’s your choice but strength is a woman’s thing and I have it.
How do you react to the drug allegations leveled against you?
While growing up, I did a lot of rough movies, I did a lot of movies that doing drugs had to be involved, a lot of movies that people had to form an opinion about me and so, that is where that opinion of drugs came out.
As a young girl growing up, I did make some mistakes with alcohol, cannabis and cigarettes but I’m older now and I’m above all of those things, I have a son now. I always tell people who ask me why I quit smoking “What if my son needs blood tomorrow, what will I say to myself that I can’t give my son blood because I still want to indulge in cannabis”. I know it’s one of those things I did quit by the grace of God because it is not easy to desist from.
The drug allegations from my ex-husband, Olakunle Churchill, was just a lie to cover up his domestic violence track, he felt that was a tool he could use to tarnish my image, but come to think of it, there are too many holes in that story.
It is impossible for a father who genuinely says he cares about your son to leave his son with a drug addict, if you had a drug addict at home, would you not fight for the custody of your son? I don’t joke with my son, so, if a father joked with his son in that way, he just lied to cover up the fact that he’s a woman beater.
That further separates your private life from your performance on screen.
Definitely! But the fans keep pushing it, in the past I used to get upset because of the negative perception they had about me. If you sit back and watch my movies you will discover that I’m a very good actress, I do it like it’s real and that is why I don’t really blame the fans for having that mindset.
I just want to appeal to the fans out there to understand that this is just entertainment, we are just entertaining you. This is our job, it’s like you going to the bank, office etc. and in the night you go home to be who you are. It is my job, that is not what I’m about in real life.
If I play the role of a prostitute very well, give me kudos and tell me I did well because I’m really not a prostitute in real life. As actors and actresses, we always have that conflict with our fans and I wish they could understand how much we love them and how much we put in to do this for them.
Let us talk about family a bit. Will you get married the second time?
Absolutely! I will, but for now I’m just trying to do so much and that’s why it’s not at the forefront.
Is there anyone in your life at the moment?
I do not talk personal life outside my home anymore, I’m sorry.
As a beautiful young lady, can you really take sex out of your life?
Well, I’m born again and I’m celibate.
How long will that last for you?
I don’t know how long that is going to last. Maybe till I get married.
Let’s talk about romance a little more.
Right now the only thing that can interest me in a man is his love for God and his love for my son, if you have any of them at 99% and not 100, then my answer is no.
You have to be financially stable, I am not going to help a man grow anymore. You have to be financially strong enough to take care of me; I’m tired of being the moneybag.
Do you still interact with your ex husband, to come and play a fatherly role to his son?
Recently, we just ended a court case which I did not publicise because I respect my son so much , anything that concerns my son I try as much as possible to keep it on the wraps. We just finished a custody battle case and a child support case.
And you won?
Yes I did. But those things are personal to me and also out of respect for my son, I’ll never talk about something that concerns him. If you want to talk about me and my ex-husband that’s different but I will not even glorify that because he’s eating off my energy and my stardom and I don’t want that anymore.
I don’t even think I was ever married because he was married to someone else while I was married to him.
Do you think your marriage was a mistake?
Yes, it was a huge mistake but then again how can a mistake produce such a wonderful gift, that is all I keep saying to myself. How it happened is something I have forgotten about. Part of the healing process is not going back to it. I’m done.
After you gave birth, we saw when Tonto Dikeh was on the big side, battling with her weight, today we are seeing a different person. Did you undergo any surgery or do any exercise?
Yes I did a cosmetic surgery but before my surgery I had lost all my baby weight. I was a little bit stressed out being a new mom, I started going back to work, I started to eat healthier, I stopped breastfeeding because it was the only thing that made me add weight. My body metabolism just went back to normal after that I had a so banging…
From your personal experience, why do you think marriages break up among youths and celebrities these days?
I cannot answer that, but I can say that sincerity and motivation in marriage is very important. People break up for different reasons, some people break up for something as little as toothpaste, so, we can never compare one breakup to another and I don’t think anybody is happy over a breakup.
If you were to do it again, what will you do differently?
Most especially I would not ignore those little signs that suggest that there is danger ahead. Like I said before I’m not going to talk about the signs, I’m done with that.
Are you truly happy at the moment?
At the moment, I’m extremely happy, my projects are going well, my son has good health, he goes to one of the best schools in Abuja and my son is going to be two, I have every reason to be happy.