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Here’s Why Temi Otedola Is Not Having New Year Resolution In 2017



Temi Otedola, daughter of Nigerian billionaire oil magnate, Femi Otedola has explained the reason why she’s leaving New Year’s “Resolutions” in 2017 and focus on ‘Intentions’ instead.

In a piece shared on her blog, Temi wrote;

Here we go again. As I write this post on the final day of 2017, I think back to what this year held and what I’m hoping for in 2018. At the end of every year, I take about an hour or so looking back on my achievements, failures, lessons, and keep these in mind when considering what I would like to change at the start of the new calendar. But I have also found the conventional narrative of total-life-transformation at the start of every new year exhausting. A lot of us feel the pressure to completely metamorphose our lives. “This will be the year I cut all of the toxic people out of my life”, “this will be the year I loose 50 pounds”, “this will be the year I become financially independent”- the list goes on and on. For this New Year, I’m putting these overarching “resolutions” aside.

At the start of this year I made a list of about 5 things I wanted to change. They were the traditionally vague “resolutions”, and although 2017 was a crucial year for me, I can’t honestly say that many of these goals were wholly achieved. As I began to write this post, I also began to seriously question how useful resolutions truly are in the conventional sense… What does the term “resolution” even mean?



A firm decision to do or not to do something.
“she kept her resolution not to see Anne any more”

synonyms: intention, resolve, intent aim, aspiration, design, purpose, object, plan

I mulled over this definition for a while. I’m all for positive thinking and making decisive moves for greater outcomes, but the actual term “resolution” still left me feeling rather uninspired. Maybe there’s something overtly binary about choosing “to do, or not to do something”. The strict definition of “resolution” excludes contemplation, gradual progress, and all the other characteristics that make up the innate human flaws we face day to day. For example, if a resolution I had for 2018 was to posses more patience when dealing with others, it’s highly unlikely that I would be able to wake up tomorrow, on the 1st of January, and suddenly be able to have absolute patience in all situations. Wouldn’t it be more effective if we worked on smaller steps towards overall self-improvement?

Therefore, I will not have any New Year’s resolutions this year, only New Year’s intentions.



a thing intended; an aim or plan.
“she was full of good intentions”

synonyms: aim, purpose, intent, objective, object, goal target, end

There’s something about the word “intention” that seems much more fitting in facing the New Year. It’s a word loaded with potential, possibility, and attainability. Instead of overwhelming my hopes for 2018 with enormous statements that are daunting to tackle head on, I will set myself smaller, more tangible goals that can be confronted on a weekly or even daily basis. I truly believe that colossal, life-changing goals can be achieved from a combination of smaller actions. So, for example if my New Year’s intention was: “I want to run a marathon in 2018”, I wouldn’t immediately try to run all 26 miles, instead I would gradually increase the duration I run each week. Another example is if my New Year’s intention was: “I want to be healthy in 2018”, I could cut-out fizzy drinks in January, and then fast food in February. This method consistently includes new objectives as the year goes on, and so your continuously working towards an aim.

So, now it’s time to be completely honest with you. What are my 2018 intentions? You’ll see in the list below how specific I’m trying to be, as these larger goals will be broken down daily or weekly into smaller steps that I can start cultivating straight away.

So here it goes…

Temi’s 2018 Intentions

Start University deadlines in good time and get my degree!

Be more personal and thoughtful with content (starting with this)

Declutter/donate any unloved belongings

Devote more time and attention to my family

Continue to ignore the naysayers and any negativity on social media

I hope some of you will be inspired to join my newfound “intention” movement, taking daily/weekly steps to reach a larger goal. Remember, don’t let the New Year overwhelm, you got this, I got this, we all got this! Whether you decide to stick with resolutions or have decided tomorrow is a day just like any other, join me in starting 2018 on a positive note, giving special attention to who you care for the most. HAPPY NEW YEAR. Love, Temi.

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Singer Simi Pens Beautiful Letter To Her Daughter As She Turns 6 Months




Simi and her daughter, Adejare

Simi and her daughter, Adejare

Popular Nigerian singer and songwriter, Simi has penned a beautiful letter to her daughter, Adejare as she turns 6-months-old.

November 30 marked six months since the singer and her husband, Adekunle Gold welcomed their little platter of feet. Taking to her Instagram page, Simi posted an adorable photo of her herself and her daughter along with the lovely message.

The first time mum noted that she is excited for her daughter to grow up so they can do fun stuff together.

In her words;

“My baby. My daughter. The love of my life. This feisty little chocolate princess is 6 months old today. God is so great.

You make me giddy Adejare. You changed my life and turned my Spirit inside out. Giving you life (in collaboration with God and your daddy) gave me new life, and is the most spiritual thing I ever did in all my life. You’re everything to me. I’ve never felt a love so complete and thorough and protective and jealous and unconditional. They tell you you’re gonna love your baby so much, but you don’t know how much until you love your baby.

I’m emotional because you’re growing up too fast and some days I want time to freeze, so I can soak up more of these moments, but I’m also excited for you to grow up so we can have cute, silly conversations. So we can go on mommy/daughter dates. So we can have slumber parties. So you can confide in me. So we can pray together. You’re everything I asked for, and then so much more. You complete our little family. Thank you for your gummy smiles and for all the words you think you’re saying. I hear you. I love you too much Deja. Happy half birthday

– Mommy”

Read Also: Singer Simi Laments Over Men Having More Privileges Than Women

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Actress Lilian Afegbai Pens Motivational Quotes After Buying Birkin Bag Worth $22K



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Lilian Afegbai

Nigerian actress and film producer, Lilian Afegbai has taken to Instagram to show off her Hermès Birkin bag worth $22K.

The ex-Big Brother Africa housemate posted a photo of the pricey bag along with the receipt to clear all doubts. Afegbai also penned some words of encouragement to her social media followers as she urged them to be patient and keep pushing.

The actress captioned her post with the words;

“There’s time for everything, I got this for my birthday but it arrived late…
I remember when I could only afford an Aldo or Zara bag…. Now I can get myself a birkin

Enjoy the process, very soon you will get everything you want. It just takes time
More to come”

Read Also: Lilian Afegbai Returns To IG After Her Mum Was Dragged For Shooting UNIBEN Student

See her post below:

The actress' post

The actress’ post



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‘Why I’m Ready For Marriage’: BBNaija’s Leo Da Silva



Leo Da Silva

Leo Da Silva

Reality TV star, Leo Da Silva, has explained why he is ready for marriage. The former BBNaija ‘Double Wahala’ housemate took to his official Twitter page to reply a fan who came at him for saying he is ready for marriage shortly after tweeting that women should be feared.

You went from fearing women to now being ready to get married“, the Twitter user wrote.

Explaining his sudden change of heart, the 27-year-old Lagos-born entrepreneur wrote in response:

“Fear women, not fear woman.”

Read Also: ‘Women Cheat More Than Men’ – Leo Da Silva

The reality TV star has also made a case for men who demand that their potential partners be as financially capable as they are. According to him, no man wants a burden.

See his tweet below:

The reality TV star’s tweet

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