A Nigerian relationship coach who got pregnant at 19-years-old, reluctantly married her baby-daddy at 20 and divorced him at 23, has shared the inspiring story of how she found love again.
A young Nigerian lady identified as Biola Makanjuola, a relationship coach based in Canada, who got pregnant at 19 and married her baby daddy at age 20, has shared the inspiring story of how she found love again after facing abuse.
Makanjuola who shared her story expressed that she had to marry the father of her child and their marriage became toxic, adding that she finally decided to divorce her husband at age 23 after going through an abortion and STD.
Speaking further, she said that her confidence and belief had already been damaged during her toxic marriage and all she could do was get involved in more toxic relationships, adding that she finally found her way and realized that she had a story to tell.
The young relationship coach further explained that she decided to start teaching young women not to fall victim to their own fear and start believing in themselves.
Read her story in full below:
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“Got pregnant at the age of 19, was zero’d out, condemned, alone and lost. Became a mother & thought it best to make it official with my son’s dad attheageof 20
Got into unhealthy patterns in our relationship that led to emotional abuse and toxicity for the most part. Finally got the courage to separate at the age of 23 after going through an abortion and STD.
This started my downward spiral into involving myself in multiple toxic relationships between the ages of 24 – 27
Confused, lost, dark, toxic relationships was my drug of choice. Felt unworthy, self-esteem dragging on the floor begging to be picked up, had little or no confidence, gave up my power to define who I was to other people because I just hated the woman I had become. I constantly questioned why I was so different and abnormal.
My body defined my worth. I clearly had nothing to offer. My single motherhood didn’t even help. They said I couldn’t do any better because of my baggage. I agreed with them and gave them my power. It was their word over mine.
Finally got tired of engaging in this toxic cycle and decided to embrace my difference. At this point, I was tired! I was sick! I was done! I found my light towards the end of 2016.
Found the love I had been seeking the whole time in myself. Things started clicking. I found my purpose. I realized I had a story to tell and was determined to share. I was worthy and enough the whole time and didn’t even know it. I finally found my voice and I promised myself to speak my truth.
I promised God that if he took me out of my misery and showed me the way, I will spend the rest of my life serving.
Currently serving and growing a tribe of women who believe in their power to create their stories and would do anything to make it happen.”
Source: Tori
