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17 Signs YOUR MAN Will Eventually Abuse You

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Abuse rarely starts from the very beginning; but once you are involved in an abusive relationship, it can seem impossible to escape. Pay close attention to your man. These early signs of abuse will save you later on.

If several of these signs fit your man — at least three or more — beware! (And if any of the last three on this list describe him – even if none of the others do – he is absolutely abusive.)

1. He jumps into the relationship quickly

Abusers want commitment quickly. They can be extremely charming at the beginning and claim they’ve never felt this way about anyone and they needyou. Try to slow things down a little and see if he respects it.

2. He bad-mouths his exes

Most people have at least a little anger toward their exes, but if he can’t let go of his bitterness, investigate further. And if he ever claims they tried to falsely accuse him of abuse – run. Most of those “false claims” turn out to be accurate.

3. He doesn’t respect your opinions

Does he ever belittle you for your beliefs? Or maliciously tease you around others? No man who really loves a woman would do that.

4. His happiness depends on you

Men who are abusive paint a picture where you are the only two that matter. He NEEDS you and you NEED him. Without each other, you can’t survive or will never be happy again.

5. Things are never his fault

Abusers are masters of being the victim. A healthy relationship should involve a man who can own up to when he makes a mistake. An abuser will always claim the world is out to get him even though he was an innocent bystander.

6. He thinks men are better than women (AKA he’s sexist)

If you catch glimpses of sexism when he lets his guard down, make sure you know how he really feels about women. Abusers tend to have strict views on gender rules.

Does he think he is smarter than his female colleagues? Is his career more important than your career? Does he think women aren’t able to function fully without a relationship? These are scary signs of sexism. Although he may tell you you’re different from other women, that will eventually change and soon you’ll find he thinks he’s better than you.

7. He limits your phone use

This lack of trust and desire to completely control you may be disguised as love and protection for you – it’s not.

8. Abuse is in his past (even if it didn’t happen to him)

Whether he was personally abused, or watched someone in his household be abused, there is an unfortunate, terrifying cycle that comes with abuse

9. He has low self-esteem

Abusers can hide behind a confident façade, but underneath it all, they only feel good about themselves when they put others down.

10. He is unkind to children

This is actually a huge red flag.

11. He puts you down

A man who really loves you would never tell you that you’re not pretty enough, thin enough, smart enough or talented enough.

12. He doesn’t like when you spend time with your family and friends

An essential part of abuse is pulling you away from your support group. It’s a way for him to have more control over you. If he won’t let you spend time with the people you love, he doesn’t have good intentions.

13. He’s easily jealous

Feeling wary of relationships you have with other men can be normal, but being constantly suspicious of any contact you have with any other man and accusing you incorrectly of flirting crosses a line of over-jealous.

14. His feelings get hurt easily and frequently

You shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells around your man. If his moods shift explosively, watch out.

These last three occur ONLY in abusers

15. He previously hurt a partner

If he’s ever abused someone in the past, don’t be with him any longer. No matter what reason he gives you for hurting them (alcohol, previous anger management problems, etc.), it’s not reason enough.

16. He threatens you in order to control you

An abuser will threaten a victim when the victim won’t do what he wants (or does something he doesn’t like). Don’t believe his lies – it’s NOT normal to talk that way to someone else.

17. You are frightened of him when he is angry

He is responsible for everything he does, even when he is angry. His anger should not be intimidating. If he shouts at you, punches walls, throws things, ruins your possessions to prove a point or gets so close it frightens you, you’re with an abuser.

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Avoid These Nigerians Food To Burn Stubborn Belly Fat (Video)

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Being overweight or obese can be detrimental to your health. It is not advisable to have excess fat in the abdominal cavity because it can lead to some health issues. Getting your dream body will not be easy and you need to make some sacrifices to your diet. You will also need to turn a blind eye to some fatty foods.

If you’re ready to get rid of the belly fat, then stay put as Information Nigeria brings you some important tips that will help.

1. Avoid sugar and carbonated drinks

Did you know that consuming sugary substances like coke, fanta can lead to weight gain and a number of health problems like high blood pressure?. This is due to the high fructose content found in added sugars. Taking sugar-filled drinks may slow your metabolism and this in turn can make it harder for your body to burn fat. Fructose can only be metabolized by your liver. When you consume too much, you push your liver to its limit and it becomes overloaded, then it turns the fructose into fat and it ends up getting stored in your belly. To avoid putting yourself from risk, you should cut back on foods and drinks that contain huge amounts of sugar.

 

2. You also have to forgo junk foods like meat pie, cakes, rolls, candies, burgers, ice cream and cookies. You also need to do away with heavy foods like eba, akpu, pounded yam, rice among others. Switch up your eating habits and opt for a more balanced-diet if you want to burn your belly fat. Avoid consuming refined carbs like bread, pizza, potation chips etc. You should also stay away from processed and heavy foods because they contribute to stubborn belly fat. You should choose to eat proteinous foods like fish, eggs, and milk. starch contains fat, sugar and salt. They help a person feel fuller so you don’t end up looking for something to munch on after eating. It basically keeps hunger at bay.

3. Eat the right amount of fruits, vegetables, fibrous foods and whole grains – You can add vegetables, fruits and whole grains to your weight loss diet. They provide essential vitamins, minerals, fiber and other substances that are good for your body. Examples of fibre rich foods include; beans, broccoli, avocados, apples, oatmeal brown rice and whole grain bread.

4. Try to incorporate exercise into your daily or weekly routine – Exercise helps to speed up your metabolism and helps you shed weight. The bitter truth is that wearing just waist trainers and staying put in one position will not make you lose that stubborn belly fat. You should hit the gym.

5 Reduce alcohol intake – Excess intake of alcohol also leads to a host of health problems especially the build-up of fat in the belly area. Have you ever noticed that those who drink alcohol, especially men, often develop ‘pot-bellies’. Alcoholic drinks like beer provide your body with calories and very little nutrients. It can also increase your appetite. Replace the alcoholic drinks with water or alternate with low calorie, non-alcoholic beverages. Too much alcohol can cause liver damage and other serious health problems.

6. Try out apple cider vinegar – Apple cider vinegar is made in a two-step fermentation process. It is obtained from apples that have been crushed, distilled and fermented. Acetic acid is the main active component of apple cider vinegar. It is safe for consumption in small quantities and can be taken as a supplement. Do not also consume it straight from the bottle or in its pure form. Add 1 to 2 tablespoons to water before you drink. You can also add honey or lemon. It is best to drink it before your meals. Research shows it has many health benefits, such as lowering blood sugar levels.

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Williams Uchemba And His Wife Exchange Wedding Vows In Lagos (Video)

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Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Popular Nigerian actor, Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar have officially solemnized their union.

The couple finally exchanged their wedding vows at Dominion city church in Lagos state.

The beautiful wedding ceremony was reportedly officiated by the founder of the church, Dr. David Chukwudi Ogbueli alias Papa Eagle.

Celebrities, fans and well-wishers poured in congratulatory message for the couple after photos and videos from the ceremony hit the internet.

The actor wore a sleek tuxedo, while his bride,  wore a lovely white gown.

Read Also:Actor Williams Uchemba Set To Walk Down The Aisle With Mystery Woman

Watch the videos below:

https://twitter.com/gregorogholi/status/1330121905387540483?s=21

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Actor, Model, Comedian, Philanthropist… Meet The Latest Groom, Williams Uchemba

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Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba, who was born on October 22, is an actor, motivational speaker, model, comedian, entrepreneur and philanthropist. The Abia-born thespian graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree in International Relation from the University of Nigeria, Nsukka in Enugu State.

Uchemba began his career in the early 2000s as a child actor and came into the limelight in 2001 after appearing in the Nollywood blockbuster movie, “The Journey of the Dead” along with Olu Jacobs, Ramsey Noah, and Pete Edochie.

Since then, the multi-talented actor never looked back as he has gone ahead to feature in more blockbuster movies like Sugar Rush (2019), Merry Men 2(2019) and Story Story: The African Rideshare (2018). He is the recipient of several awards.

The actor adopted an 18-year-old furniture maker in June and he promised to sponsor his education. He recently got married to his longtime girlfriend, Brunella Oscar at her hometown, Alor in Anambra state. The actor’s wife, Brunella opened up on their love story with Wedding Digest Naija and she disclosed that she made the first move. According to the English trained medical doctor, they both met on Facebook after she sent him a message.

 

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