Your mother-in-law is just a regular mum with regular issues like everyone one of us. She’s got hopes and ambitions for her sons and will get frustrated if those aren’t met. Like every relationship, the people involved have to learn to understand and manage their expectations for a healthy relationship to thrive. When conflicts arise, let’s try to get to the bottom of matter and define the root cause, it will help us identify the triggers and manage the symptoms in a better way. So next time, a conflict ensues, these are the five secrets she wish you knew.
You Didn’t Quite Fit The Mental Image of the lady she thought her son should get married to – Every mum has a mental image of who their son’s wife should be. They think about it every now and then especially when it’s that time when they expect them to share the ‘good news’ they are seeing someone. They even try to suggest to their kids the characteristics of who that person should be by citing examples and looking down on others who chose differently. Most times, those from very wealthy or educated background are under immense pressure to marry those who have similar status. When someone that doesn’t quite fit this mental image comes along, the mother-in-law war begins and for no just cause, conflicts ensue, hatred degenerates to bitterness and resentment and an innocent relationship which could have flourished becomes the worst of its kind.
She’s Insecure And Still Wants To Be In Control of her son and his family – Most domineering parents are very insecure. They do not think their kids will ever be responsible. From the day the baby is in the cradle to the day he walks down the aisle they want to make every decision for them. Their suggestions are instructions, they are critical and always think their idea is the best. So even after their son leaves home and tries to cleave to his wife, they delay the cleaving process because they get in the way. They not only plan the wedding, they want to pick them up at the airport when they return from honeymoon, they want to hire a maid for them and the list goes on. On the other hand, a bride who went to a boarding school, lived overseas on her own while in university and has grown to be responsible will see these control freaks as a threat and then trouble begins. Many parents don’t prepare their sons for the challenges of life and still want to continue to ‘help’ them manage life after they are grown.
She Can’t Bear The Shame Of Your Infertility and miss the opportunity of being called a grandma – Many more ladies are struggling with infertility issues compared to a half a century ago. Even after all the medical interventions, there are still unexplained issues. It’s even worse when your mother-in-law doesn’t like you and you’ve got no children, the relationship just takes another awful dimension. Especially if she’s the outgoing, extroverted, party-going lady, she can’t seem to explain to her buddies what’s going on considering she’s harassed others or attended their naming ceremonies. You won’t be in her good books and she’ll be on your case till that baby drops. In our society, when a woman can’t have kids, the older generations is already shortlisting in their minds probable causes or people who might have inflicted this irrespective of what your gynaecologist says.
She’s Had Her Fair Share Of Raising Her Kids and not interested in having sleeping nights while you do your business – When you think of a woman who’s raised her eight kids with little or no hands-on-support from her husband, she’s exhausted and probably didn’t enjoy it. When her son has a baby and his wife is getting agitated why his mum can’t come over to help, she picks a fight not knowing her mother-in-law has had her fair share of sleepless nights and washing reusable nappies for years and doesn’t want to go that route again not even in her dreams. Even if she’s available, she wants to do others things. It’s better to hire and pay a nanny than expect free service from a bitter and exhausted mother-in-law. She might just come around to play with the kids but expect her to raise your kids, stop dreaming and wake up!
She’s Expecting Her Dividends In Old Age – Every parent is investing in their kids by giving them a good education hoping they will develop skills that will earn them a job but many more have high expectations that like every investment, their kids will also pay their bills when they can no longer work. So when your mother-in-law calls her son every now and then asking for money to pay her house rent or buy a new car, his wife gets upsets especially when they’ve got a mortgage to repay and school fees to pay. Some couples don’t even have a house of their own but are sending large sums of cash to their parents monthly without thinking of the consequences. While engaged just before you walk down the aisle, it would have been great to discuss these money issues regarding supporting both parents so no conflicts pop up down the line. It’s never too late to draw a line on this financial exposure.
Relaxation Of CBD In NFL – An Insight
There has been a lot of buzz around CBD in recent years, especially in the health and wellness industry.
Many sports associations and players around the world have also recognized CBD as a pro sports
However, one of the most coveted associations- the National Football League, more popularly known as
the NBD had been quite strict in its ban of cannabis related products, including CBD. But in recent times,
there seems to be some good news in store both for eh players and every CBD shop as the association is
considering lifting the blanket ban and allowing players to use CBD, which has become popular for its
What Is CBD?
Before we proceed to understand the decision of the NFL, it is important to understand what CBD is and
how it is different from the other cannabis product. CBD or cannabidiol is one of the primary chemicals
found in the cannabis plant, the other being THC. However, contrary to common beliefs, CBD is not
psychoactive in nature. It does not cause the user to feel ‘high.’ This is because high quality CBD does
not contain even trace amounts of THC, which is responsible for these reactions.
In fact, many recent studies indicate that CBD is an excellent medicine to cure several physical and
mental conditions, including chronic pain, anxiety, inflammation, and depression.
Why Do Sportspersons Recommend CBD Use?
If you are into sports and athletics, avoiding injuries is almost impossible. While painkillers may be
helpful in managing the pain, they have numerous side effects on the other organs of the body. That is
why many players and athletes are now in favor of using CBD to manage their pains and injuries.
Sourced from organically grown hemp, CBD helps in alleviating the pain without injuring any other
organs of the body. It is no wonder that players are in favor of using CBD in place of the synthetic drugs
that are available in the market.
CBD For Sleep
For your body to perform its best, it is important for it to be well-rested and rejuvenated. This can only
happen through sound sleep. For many players, who suffer from muscle cramps and injuries, getting
proper sleep becomes a challenge. CBD can be very helpful in those circumstances as well. By soothing
the nerves, CBD helps the body to fall asleep faster and also the quality sleep that it needs.
Good sleep can also help the body in replenishing its worn and torn tissues faster.
The Changes Anticipated In NFL
The NFL, which has one of the strictest policies regarding drug testing, is now considering changing its
policies, especially the ones that are related to CBD. The players who test positive for cannabis will not
be directly suspended from the team. Rather a fine will be imposed on them as per the number of times
that they test positive.
The threshold for testing has also been changed as the players now will only be tested during the first
two weeks of the training camp, in place of the April- August testing policy that was followed earlier.
These progressive changes seem to be a direct result of the changed perception that most people have
regarding CBD today.
It is also worthy to note here that CBD is legal in all the American states, with minor restrictions on the
amount and the concentration of the product. Players are the happiest with this new move as they are
of the opinion that CBD works much better and is far less addictive than the painkillers that are given on
prescription. Even the sports associations around the world are also likely to reconsider their policy on
CBD after this change.
Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post
Nigerian actress, Osas Ighodaro penned an emotional note via Instagram as she clocked 30-years-old on Monday.
To mark her birthday, the single mother of one posted a monochrome photo of herself as she wished for people to continue praying for those who lost their lives during these turbulent period.
“Thank God for another year. Happy Birthday to me. If you know me, you know I absolutely love birthdays but this year it certainly hits different. I’m overwhelming grateful for life and thankful to God to be able to see another birthday bc unfortunately many haven’t and won’t have that opportunity.
I am hopeful for better days for myself, those that I love and hold dear and most certainly for my country Nigeria. I pray for unity, peace, harmony and togetherness. We all deserve it.
My birthday wish is to please continue to pray for those innocent lives lost. Please remain hopeful and focused because I truly believe better days are soon ahead by God’s grace.
Peace, Love and Blessings.”
See her post below:
Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday
An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.
Why stay at an exotic resort
Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:
Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.
Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.
Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand
The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf
The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.
Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.
You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.
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