You’re about to get loved … hard.
When someone asks me what I’m looking for in a future partner, the first thing that always comes to mind is a big heart. It seems like a pretty simple, expected and straight-forward quality that likely, most people in your life have.
But when you get right down to the nitty-gritty parts of finding someone to share your life with, I’m often surprised by how few men have that so-called heart of gold I’m looking for.
And maybe the reason why that loving, kind and positive nature is so important to me is based on my own personality. If you asked my friends or family, they’d tell you the only thing larger than my booty is my heart, and that when it comes to helping people, I’m the first to volunteer to plan a party or remember their birthday (and send a snail mail card!).
It’s those type of manners and that thoughtfulness that my Southern upbringing taught me, and maybe, just the way I was born. More than anything else, I want people to feel loved, and when you date someone with a heart as big as mine, there are a few things to remember:
1. We’ve already been writing letters to you … and we’ve never met.
Remember those cards I mentioned? I’ve been writing letters to my future husband for, well, a decade. It was an idea I got when I was wondering what he was like and when I’d meet him, and instead of wondering, I decided I just do what I do best: write to him.
I have dozens of cards, from all different life stages and adventures, addressed to this mystery man. Before ever meeting you, you’re already a big part of my heart.
2. We take everything to heart, even when we know better.
I try my best to keep with sarcasm and I can even fake it sometimes. When I crack a semi-sassy joke, my friends are always surprised. (Most) other times, I’m pretty sensitive and have to constantly remind myself that not every little thing means something, and that sometimes, things are just things people say without thinking. I’ll try my best to remind myself when we meet.
3. We remember every tiny detail you tell us.
One of my ex’s was a big Teddy Roosevelt fan and he had a deep-rooted interest in politics. So, for his birthday, I managed to win a bidding war on eBay for an original campaign pin from when Teddy became president. Did he cry when he opened it? Nah, but he came close. Whatever you tell me, I’ll remember — and it’ll be my goal to shock you with the details.
4. We need constant words of affection.
If you haven’t read The Five Love Languages, book mark this article and come back later after you’ve read it. You’ll figure out how you like to love and what kind of love you need in return, and for me, most important are words of affection … quickly followed by physical touch.
When we’re together, I want you to tell me you love me; that I’m awesome; that you want me, like now. The best part? I’ll always return the favor.
5. We want (and need) to do nice things for you.
No, but seriously. I’m actually looking forward to steaming your shirts before a big presentation. Or throwing you a surprise 40th birthday celebration. Or doing something ridiculously sweet for your first Father’s Day.
It makes me feel good that the people in my life feel appreciated, loved, and cared for. You’ll have to let me take care of you … if only just a little.
6. Our big heart comes with big fears.
The thing about having a big heart is that it comes with pretty deep-rooted emotions, and unfortunately, some fears, too. I have to constantly talk myself down off the edge of an imaginary cliff where I see all of my hopes, dreams, and future plans crashing down around me.
I’m afraid I’ll never get married. That I can’t have children. That I’ll never publish a book. So every once in awhile, you might have to give me a pep talk, or at least a Xanax.
7. We’re used to taking care of other people, but not being taken care of.
As much as I like doing nice things for folks, I have a hard time letting people take the lead and do something for me. I’m terrible at letting people surprise me. I often plan the week ahead without leaving room for spontaneity.
I once busted open a can of pasta sauce with a hammer because I refused to walk down the hall to ask a dude to do it for me. So when you start to be my partner and truly support me — emotionally, physically, in everyday life — it might take a while for me to let you.
8. We sometimes give too much, so you need to make an effort to give more.
I don’t give to get something in return, but I sure would like it. I won’t resent you, but I will start to wonder if you care as much as I do. It can be as simple as a sticky-note that says “I love you,” or keeping almond milk in the fridge for my morning coffee. Those things go a long way for this girl.
9. We can be idealistic about romance.
I know as well as my friends, my parents, my co-workers and my dog that I can be a little unrealistic about romance. In my gut, I know that I’ll meet someone pretty incredible, but that he won’t be exactly how I’ve pictured him. As much as I want a big romantic gesture from a big handsome man to fulfill my big ‘ole heart, I’ll keep my expectations in check.
10. More than anything, we truly believe in love.
The best thing about a big heart? Its ability to love. I’ll always believe in the love that surrounds us, the people in our life who love us, the love we see through strangers, and the love we have together. It doesn’t have to be perfect — because love never is — it just always has to be there. Otherwise, what’s the point in your heart, anyway?
Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post
Nigerian actress, Osas Ighodaro penned an emotional note via Instagram as she clocked 30-years-old on Monday.
To mark her birthday, the single mother of one posted a monochrome photo of herself as she wished for people to continue praying for those who lost their lives during these turbulent period.
“Thank God for another year. Happy Birthday to me. If you know me, you know I absolutely love birthdays but this year it certainly hits different. I’m overwhelming grateful for life and thankful to God to be able to see another birthday bc unfortunately many haven’t and won’t have that opportunity.
I am hopeful for better days for myself, those that I love and hold dear and most certainly for my country Nigeria. I pray for unity, peace, harmony and togetherness. We all deserve it.
My birthday wish is to please continue to pray for those innocent lives lost. Please remain hopeful and focused because I truly believe better days are soon ahead by God’s grace.
Peace, Love and Blessings.”
See her post below:
Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday
An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.
Why stay at an exotic resort
Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:
Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.
Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.
Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand
The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf
The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.
Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.
You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.
Healthcare Workers To Receive Coca-Cola-Funded PPEs From Nigerian Red Cross
Since the outbreak of the Coronavirus disease in Nigeria, our healthcare workers have continued to lead the charge against the disease. As the number of recorded COVID-19 cases in Nigeria began to increase, these healthcare workers rose to the challenge and fought tirelessly to protect the lives of Nigerians impacted by the disease.
Considering the risks these healthcare workers face, there is a crucial need for adequate protective equipment for these brave frontline workers.
Coca-Cola is excited that over 400,000 Personal Protective Equipment (PPEs) procured to support the intervention efforts of the Nigerian Government and other key stakeholders to fight the COVID 19 pandemic have arrived. We do believe that this will to provide succor to our healthcare workers on the frontlines
These PPEs comprise N95 respirators, surgical masks, examination gloves, face shields, medical gowns, no-touch thermometers, disposable aprons, heavy-duty rubber gloves, rubber boots, basic masks, disposable gloves, and hand sanitizers.
Since the first confirmed case of the disease in Nigeria reported in February, over 800 healthcare workers have contracted the disease. While Nigerians are encouraged to stay home where possible and practice social distancing, these healthcare workers are needed across the country in the continued fight against the disease.
This donation forms part of The Coca-Cola Foundation’s COVID-19 relief interventions in Nigeria. The Coca-Cola Foundation has provided $2.5m in grant to IFRC who seeks to directly impact the lives of 1.4 million people in Nigeria and across other countries in West and Central Africa under this partnership.
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