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4 Reasons To Marry An Emotionally Complex Man

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Here’s what I mean:

1. He’s a listener.

If you ever meet a guy who can sit across from you at a dinner table or next to you in a bar and actually LISTEN to you speak, don’t let him go. Emotionally complex guys have arrived at a place in their lives when they realize that the most important thing they can ever offer a potential partner is to just sit there and listen closely when someone very important is speaking to them.

Answers, solutions, advice: those things are all well and good but in the end, most wise and sensitive fellas know that merely listening to the woman across from them is the coolest quality any man can ever possess. It’s also one of the rarest. So master it and you’re way ahead of the game, boys.

2. He’s hurt, been hurt, and owns it all.

Some people still think that it’s better for men to have very little happening when it comes to feelings and emotions. I know that may seem unbelievable in the 21st century, but le’s face it: there are a lot of humans walking around on this planet who are the intellectual equal to a low bank of yellow snow.

Men who feel things (and recognize that they feel things) instead of denying their own emotions are the kind of men who learn. And a learned man is a better man, trust me.

Men who move through life and own the things they’ve done wrong, as well as the things they’ve gotten right, are men with substance. Emotionally complex men actually learn from the ups and downs that life brings their way. All the loving and losing and hurting and trying again with hope in their hearts (and not just in their pants) actually means something.

Emotional men aren’t wussies or lame; they’re guys who understand that the very art of living is a precious and never-ending trip through a very rough but worthwhile wilderness. And those kind of men, as complex as they may become after decades of living through and pondering life’s ups and downs, are the kind of men who you probably want to end up with.

3. He stands for something.

Some guys go through life with a wishy-washy philosophy. They don’t get too worked up over matters of the heart. They just ‘go with the flow.’ And that might be perfect in some relationships but I wouldn’t want that for me. My most magnificent love affair was with an emotionally complex woman and so the fact that I was an emotionally complex man means that those two types really work together if they’re smart. (I wasn’t always. Ugh).

But emotionally complex men give a sh*t about stuff. They have strong attitudes and opinions about everything from politics and music and food to how important love and sex and respect and parenthood are to any good relationship.

Emotionally complex dudes don’t sit around biting their tongues or twiddling their damn thumbs. They speak up and get involved. And best of all? They spend a hell of a lot of time actually thinking about the things that matter in their lives – and especially in their relationships.

Because as soon as you stop thinking about your love affair and how you can work on it and make it better and sustain it with new breath and hot blood across years and decades, that’s when you’ll sit there on your couch and watch it die right before your eyes.

Emotionally complex men realize that the more they think and feel about the person they share their life with, the better they communicate with that person. And when communication lines are open and flowing, there’s nothing better in this world. But you’ll rarely get that from men who can’t be bothered to get in touch with their emotions.

4. He’s the best dad he can be.

Sure, being an emotionally complex man has it’s downsides. There are times when great thinkers and feelers tend to think or feel too much; it’s only natural. So it’s no surprise when certain guys run into walls at times because they’re confused by some cavalcade of musings swirling in their head or heart.

But check this out.

The upsides to loving a thinking, caring man far outweigh the small pains in the ass that usually waltz in the door alongside him. The kind of men I’m talking about make the very best dads in the galaxy. Why? It’s simple. Men who allow their brains and conscience and hearts to lead them are men who learn patience. Because they have to. Because they make a lot of mistakes when they’re young, jumping into things with fearlessness and insatiable desire.

Those kinds of things don’t always work out. Situations unfold and unravel and before you know it, a 30-year-old emotionally complex man has learned hard-ass lessons about living and loving.

And that’s exactly why he makes such a beautiful father. The emotionally complex man knows the true secret to embracing life is to wrap your arms tightly around the writhing, hissing poetry of the unknown. He understands that each and every day is built upon a foundation of mostly unexpected sucker-punches, with the occasional drop of joy dripped in for good measure.

They understand no child will ever be perfect (and who would want one that is anyway?) They know full well to expect that the youth of their children will hold amazing parallels to the youth they once lived through themselves. They know being a parent will be marked by sadness and fear and uncertainty as well as sublime happiness and eternal hope.

Think about that. How could a man that understands that concept, that very philosophy for living, not be the kind of man you’d want to raise a family with?

Emotionally complex men might need a really special emotionally complex person to love them to their fullest potential. But when it happens, and those two kinds collide and find a way to navigate the back alleys and rat trails of modern marriage, well, forget about it.

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Avoid These Nigerians Food To Burn Stubborn Belly Fat (Video)

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Being overweight or obese can be detrimental to your health. It is not advisable to have excess fat in the abdominal cavity because it can lead to some health issues. Getting your dream body will not be easy and you need to make some sacrifices to your diet. You will also need to turn a blind eye to some fatty foods.

If you’re ready to get rid of the belly fat, then stay put as Information Nigeria brings you some important tips that will help.

1. Avoid sugar and carbonated drinks

Did you know that consuming sugary substances like coke, fanta can lead to weight gain and a number of health problems like high blood pressure?. This is due to the high fructose content found in added sugars. Taking sugar-filled drinks may slow your metabolism and this in turn can make it harder for your body to burn fat. Fructose can only be metabolized by your liver. When you consume too much, you push your liver to its limit and it becomes overloaded, then it turns the fructose into fat and it ends up getting stored in your belly. To avoid putting yourself from risk, you should cut back on foods and drinks that contain huge amounts of sugar.

 

2. You also have to forgo junk foods like meat pie, cakes, rolls, candies, burgers, ice cream and cookies. You also need to do away with heavy foods like eba, akpu, pounded yam, rice among others. Switch up your eating habits and opt for a more balanced-diet if you want to burn your belly fat. Avoid consuming refined carbs like bread, pizza, potation chips etc. You should also stay away from processed and heavy foods because they contribute to stubborn belly fat. You should choose to eat proteinous foods like fish, eggs, and milk. starch contains fat, sugar and salt. They help a person feel fuller so you don’t end up looking for something to munch on after eating. It basically keeps hunger at bay.

3. Eat the right amount of fruits, vegetables, fibrous foods and whole grains – You can add vegetables, fruits and whole grains to your weight loss diet. They provide essential vitamins, minerals, fiber and other substances that are good for your body. Examples of fibre rich foods include; beans, broccoli, avocados, apples, oatmeal brown rice and whole grain bread.

4. Try to incorporate exercise into your daily or weekly routine – Exercise helps to speed up your metabolism and helps you shed weight. The bitter truth is that wearing just waist trainers and staying put in one position will not make you lose that stubborn belly fat. You should hit the gym.

5 Reduce alcohol intake – Excess intake of alcohol also leads to a host of health problems especially the build-up of fat in the belly area. Have you ever noticed that those who drink alcohol, especially men, often develop ‘pot-bellies’. Alcoholic drinks like beer provide your body with calories and very little nutrients. It can also increase your appetite. Replace the alcoholic drinks with water or alternate with low calorie, non-alcoholic beverages. Too much alcohol can cause liver damage and other serious health problems.

6. Try out apple cider vinegar – Apple cider vinegar is made in a two-step fermentation process. It is obtained from apples that have been crushed, distilled and fermented. Acetic acid is the main active component of apple cider vinegar. It is safe for consumption in small quantities and can be taken as a supplement. Do not also consume it straight from the bottle or in its pure form. Add 1 to 2 tablespoons to water before you drink. You can also add honey or lemon. It is best to drink it before your meals. Research shows it has many health benefits, such as lowering blood sugar levels.

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Williams Uchemba And His Wife Exchange Wedding Vows In Lagos (Video)

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Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Popular Nigerian actor, Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar have officially solemnized their union.

The couple finally exchanged their wedding vows at Dominion city church in Lagos state.

The beautiful wedding ceremony was reportedly officiated by the founder of the church, Dr. David Chukwudi Ogbueli alias Papa Eagle.

Celebrities, fans and well-wishers poured in congratulatory message for the couple after photos and videos from the ceremony hit the internet.

The actor wore a sleek tuxedo, while his bride,  wore a lovely white gown.

Read Also:Actor Williams Uchemba Set To Walk Down The Aisle With Mystery Woman

Watch the videos below:

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Actor, Model, Comedian, Philanthropist… Meet The Latest Groom, Williams Uchemba

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Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba, who was born on October 22, is an actor, motivational speaker, model, comedian, entrepreneur and philanthropist. The Abia-born thespian graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree in International Relation from the University of Nigeria, Nsukka in Enugu State.

Uchemba began his career in the early 2000s as a child actor and came into the limelight in 2001 after appearing in the Nollywood blockbuster movie, “The Journey of the Dead” along with Olu Jacobs, Ramsey Noah, and Pete Edochie.

Since then, the multi-talented actor never looked back as he has gone ahead to feature in more blockbuster movies like Sugar Rush (2019), Merry Men 2(2019) and Story Story: The African Rideshare (2018). He is the recipient of several awards.

The actor adopted an 18-year-old furniture maker in June and he promised to sponsor his education. He recently got married to his longtime girlfriend, Brunella Oscar at her hometown, Alor in Anambra state. The actor’s wife, Brunella opened up on their love story with Wedding Digest Naija and she disclosed that she made the first move. According to the English trained medical doctor, they both met on Facebook after she sent him a message.

 

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