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5 Signs You’re In Love With A Man Who Doesn’t Have His Sh*t Together

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Run for the hills, ladies.

If you found your way to this article, it may be because you’re the type of woman who constantly finds herself trying to “fix” a man, or entering into a relationship with someone who isn’t quite on your level of maturity or emotional stability.

But that’s OK, because you’re going to change him and make him be better. Right?

I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had with women who found themselves in a situation like this and have become increasingly frustrated that he’s still facing the same struggles as months earlier when they first got together.

This is probably because, well, you can’t change someone. You may be their reason to want to change, which is a beautiful thing, but they have to do it themselves.

So, if you’ve found yourself in a pattern like this in the past and are unable to find a happy, healthy relationship because of it, how do you break the cycle?

1. You don’t pay attention to his past.

How a man has lived his life up until the point he met you, is a road taken that you cannot change. Similar to walking into the woods for 10 miles and expecting to be able to walk back out in 1 mile — it’s just not going to happen.

If he has a long history of short-lived negative relationships — perhaps a bad or nonexistent relationship with family, constantly revolving around him — or is always placing the blame on women for failed relationships, then I’m sorry to say, but willingly dating a man like this simply puts you in the middle of his destructive path.

Like the person who steps off of the tracks in the movie at the last second when the train is coming, it’s time to get out of the way.

2. You stay away from men who take you out of your comfort zone.

Being comfortable with the person you’re with is, of course, of the utmost importance. But that also depends on what kind of comfort it is. If you’re the type of woman who’s drawn to the wrong types of men, then familiarity isn’t necessarily a good thing.

If he reminds you of an ex or brings back the same hopeful feelings of being able to help him that you recognize from your past, turn around and walk away.

You’ve got to be honest and ask yourself how these scenarios have turned out for you before. If you were successful in helping someone change and lived happily ever after with him, then you wouldn’t be back out in the world looking for another project.

3. You fall for the kind of person he “could be.”

The right person for you will absolutely support and encourage you on your journey to become who you’d like to be, while still loving and accepting you as the way you are. But seeing potential in a man who doesn’t see it in himself and is doing nothing about it, is asking for trouble.

If you’re going to try to help him open his eyes to who he can be, and what he can become, you’re basically attempting to paint on a blank canvas. This is much different than a man who has his path in life carved out and is following after his dreams and ambitions.

If you feel that you need to be a mother figure to him and take care of him in order for him to get to where (you think) he should be, you’re setting yourself up for disaster.

4. You don’t understand that the lack of a challenge is a good thing.

If you’re a woman who falls into these patterns, you’re probably drawn to the challenge of changing a man. If he would just listen to your guidance and be driven by your love, he would finally become who he should be, after all of these years … wouldn’t he?

If this is the case, you probably shy away from men who don’t challenge you in this way. You may even find them boring because they don’t “need” you.

If you recognize this pattern in yourself, you can begin to recognize that someone who doesn’t need you is a good thing, and is probably exactly the type of man you should be dating instead. Because let’s face it, your current pattern hasn’t brought you the happiness you expected it to.

5. You ignore your intuition.

A woman’s intuition is a pretty amazing thing. Yet, so many choose to ignore it. There may be something that immediately draws you to a man in terms of his appearance, stature, personality, whatever it might be. But when you begin to know him on a deeper level you will find yourself having more thoughts than how well-tailored his suit is.

If you start finding yourself taking on more of a therapist role than you do as an equal in a relationship, it’s a clear and immediate sign that you’re choosing another “fixer-upper” who will, in the end, frustrate you and leave you wanting. Again.

Many people struggle in life and need support sometimes — myself included. We aren’t perfectly evolved and we all have our flaws, but it’s our responsibility as men and women to handle them ourselves and seek help in the right places, the best we can.

As someone’s significant other, this isn’t your role. Your role is to love and support them as an equal, but not to fix them.

Once you realize this, you’ll find yourself being drawn to healthier, more emotionally stable men who are able to give you the love and support you need in return, as well.

Someone who hasn’t yet fully formed themselves will never be able to be your teammate and true equal — and that’s exactly what you need.

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Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday

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An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.

Why stay at an exotic resort

Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:

Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.

Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.

Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand

The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf
courses.

The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.

Kurumba, Maldives

Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.

You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.

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Healthcare Workers To Receive Coca-Cola-Funded PPEs From Nigerian Red Cross

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Since the outbreak of the Coronavirus disease in Nigeria, our healthcare workers have continued to lead the charge against the disease. As the number of recorded COVID-19 cases in Nigeria began to increase, these healthcare workers rose to the challenge and fought tirelessly to protect the lives of Nigerians impacted by the disease.

Considering the risks these healthcare workers face, there is a crucial need for adequate protective equipment for these brave frontline workers.

Coca-Cola is excited that over 400,000 Personal Protective Equipment (PPEs) procured to support the intervention efforts of the Nigerian Government and other key stakeholders to fight the COVID 19 pandemic have arrived. We do believe that this will to provide succor to our healthcare workers on the frontlines

These PPEs comprise N95 respirators, surgical masks, examination gloves, face shields, medical gowns, no-touch thermometers, disposable aprons, heavy-duty rubber gloves, rubber boots, basic masks, disposable gloves, and hand sanitizers.

Since the first confirmed case of the disease in Nigeria reported in February, over 800 healthcare workers have contracted the disease. While Nigerians are encouraged to stay home where possible and practice social distancing, these healthcare workers are needed across the country in the continued fight against the disease.

This donation forms part of The Coca-Cola Foundation’s COVID-19 relief interventions in Nigeria. The Coca-Cola Foundation has provided $2.5m in grant to IFRC who seeks to directly impact the lives of 1.4 million people in Nigeria and across other countries in West and Central Africa under this partnership.

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Taking Care of Tomorrow’s Leaders Today – The itel, Lagos Food Bank Example

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Waking up to a special meal or choice gift is the best feeling ever. Hundreds of children in Mushin, mainland Lagos, had a filling taste of this feeling for the October 1 st celebrations. It’s an experience they will remember for a long time.

Being one of the most responsible corporate citizens around, celebrating Independence Day was always going to be on the radar for itel Mobile. To make this possible and memorable, the brand got to work in earnest. The focus of the work was picking the best way to commemorate the 60th independence anniversary of the most populous black nation on earth.

The efforts soon paid off through an impact-driven partnership with the Lagos Food Bank Initiative. With the arrangement, both partners considered a couple of activities capable of affecting communities positively and bringing smiles to people’s faces in Lagos. At the end of the exercise, taking care of children, the leaders of tomorrow, in the commercial city secured the highest votes.

With the decision, itel Mobile set about making this happen. Not surprisingly, the decision was
influenced by giving children the means to excel and prepare them for leadership and nation-building, for them to enjoy better life. For the good of their immediate family, community and the Nigerian society.

Idiko, Mushin, a suburb of mainland Lagos, was chosen as the benefiting community. And the partners strategically reached out to the beneficiaries, children and families, with gifts of love, care, happiness and support made possible by the itel Love Always On CSR initiative.

Over 1,000 families benefited from the gesture as well as 600 children, and each one of them received food packages to celebrate Nigeria’s 60 th Independence Day commemoration.

Speaking on the event and itel’s Love Always On CSR Initiative, Oke Umurhohwo, itel’s Marketing Manager said, ‘We wanted to mark this year’s Independence Day celebrations differently, and that is why we did something so momentous for our children. Children are the backbone of any longstanding community, and as such, we are proud to be able to give back and support them on their journey as leaders of tomorrow and for a better life.’

To meet the demands of the memorable event, 30 volunteers joined the customer-centric brand and the Lagos-based NGO to share smiles, and to convey just how important it is to love and take care of today’s children who will ultimately become leaders of tomorrow.

With the thoughtful activity, there are insights for everyone, from the government to citizens, on partnerships that are capable of making life better for children. Indeed, itel Mobile and the Lagos Food Bank Initiative have offered a great template on bringing this to reality.

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