Most people have read articles that tell them to communicate with their spouses, never to go to bed angry, etc. But being a stellar spouse takes a lot more than controlling anger and talking through issues. There are many other more important traits needed to be a stellar spouse. Here are five:
1. Listen — without judgment
Did you know that babies with more affectionate caretakers have better temperaments and are even more resilient to certain health challenges? It’s true. As humans, we all thrive when we know we are cared for. Even as adults, we thrive when we know we are cared for. In marriage, we thrive when we know we are safe in our relationships and that our spouses love us no matter what. But every time you get angry at your spouse for saying something embarrassing, every time you make fun of your spouse, it sends him or her a message: “you’re not safe with me.” Judgment makes our spouses wonder if we truly accept them for who they are.
We’ve all been in situations where we’ve had to be on our best behavior: at work parties, at church, etc. While this good behavior is a part of who we are, it’s only a part. There are other parts that we’re afraid to let others to see — hence, we don’t show them in public. You don’t want your partner to feel like he can’t be himself in front of you. You want him to know that he can be who he is, and you’ll love him no matter what. Listen to him — no matter what he says — and hold off on any judgment. When your spouse feels judged or afraid to say things in front of you, it’s more a reflection on you than it is on him.
2. Allow yourself to be known
After years of marriage, your relationship can become routine and mundane. You stop talking deeply with your spouse, and you focus more on the day-to-day things. But to be a good spouse, you should never give up on sharing personal things with your partner. You should always be telling your partner your hopes, dreams, fears, etc. Do you ever get into routine conversations or find yourself struggling to say something more than “how was your day?” If so, it’s time to dig deeper within yourself. You’ll soon find that your relationship starts to get deeper, too.
3. Embrace your vulnerability
Everybody has fears. Everybody worries about whether they’re liked by others. Instead of trying to pretend you don’t have any fears, show your fears. Talk about them. Allow yourself to be vulnerable in front of your spouse. This gives your partner the opportunity to get to know you — all of you, warts and all. If you’re not doing this, your spouse will begin thinking you’re “distant” or “unapproachable.”
4. Make love often
Intimacy takes many different forms. Sometimes, you’re intimate just because “it’s been a while.” Sometimes, you’re intimate because you’re stressed. The best kind of intimacy is when you’re so romantically and emotionally connected with your spouse that the only way you can show it is in the bedroom. Even though it’s impossible to do this all the time, this gives you something to strive toward. Challenging yourself to spend this quality time with your spouse often will bring you closer outside of the bedroom as well. It will do wonders for your relationship.
5. Be independent
Marriage is not a 50/50 negotiation. Being a good spouse means that sometimes you have to carry the relationship while your spouse is going through tough times. It means that you can do all the laundry, fix all the meals, find a good plumber and take care of things that are needed around the house. It’s nice to have a spouse who can help, but you don’t need her to. You can do it on your own, and there are a lot of times you do, but you invite your spouse along for the ride because you like her company.
Being a stellar spouse means you’re emotionally involved with your partner. This is much more than simply talking with your partner without getting angry. Work to create an emotional connection and bond with your spouse. Show your love, and create a deep, abiding, irreplaceable relationship.
Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday
An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.
Why stay at an exotic resort
Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:
Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.
Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.
Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand
The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf
The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.
Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.
You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.
Healthcare Workers To Receive Coca-Cola-Funded PPEs From Nigerian Red Cross
Since the outbreak of the Coronavirus disease in Nigeria, our healthcare workers have continued to lead the charge against the disease. As the number of recorded COVID-19 cases in Nigeria began to increase, these healthcare workers rose to the challenge and fought tirelessly to protect the lives of Nigerians impacted by the disease.
Considering the risks these healthcare workers face, there is a crucial need for adequate protective equipment for these brave frontline workers.
Coca-Cola is excited that over 400,000 Personal Protective Equipment (PPEs) procured to support the intervention efforts of the Nigerian Government and other key stakeholders to fight the COVID 19 pandemic have arrived. We do believe that this will to provide succor to our healthcare workers on the frontlines
These PPEs comprise N95 respirators, surgical masks, examination gloves, face shields, medical gowns, no-touch thermometers, disposable aprons, heavy-duty rubber gloves, rubber boots, basic masks, disposable gloves, and hand sanitizers.
Since the first confirmed case of the disease in Nigeria reported in February, over 800 healthcare workers have contracted the disease. While Nigerians are encouraged to stay home where possible and practice social distancing, these healthcare workers are needed across the country in the continued fight against the disease.
This donation forms part of The Coca-Cola Foundation’s COVID-19 relief interventions in Nigeria. The Coca-Cola Foundation has provided $2.5m in grant to IFRC who seeks to directly impact the lives of 1.4 million people in Nigeria and across other countries in West and Central Africa under this partnership.
Taking Care of Tomorrow’s Leaders Today – The itel, Lagos Food Bank Example
Waking up to a special meal or choice gift is the best feeling ever. Hundreds of children in Mushin, mainland Lagos, had a filling taste of this feeling for the October 1 st celebrations. It’s an experience they will remember for a long time.
Being one of the most responsible corporate citizens around, celebrating Independence Day was always going to be on the radar for itel Mobile. To make this possible and memorable, the brand got to work in earnest. The focus of the work was picking the best way to commemorate the 60th independence anniversary of the most populous black nation on earth.
The efforts soon paid off through an impact-driven partnership with the Lagos Food Bank Initiative. With the arrangement, both partners considered a couple of activities capable of affecting communities positively and bringing smiles to people’s faces in Lagos. At the end of the exercise, taking care of children, the leaders of tomorrow, in the commercial city secured the highest votes.
With the decision, itel Mobile set about making this happen. Not surprisingly, the decision was
influenced by giving children the means to excel and prepare them for leadership and nation-building, for them to enjoy better life. For the good of their immediate family, community and the Nigerian society.
Idiko, Mushin, a suburb of mainland Lagos, was chosen as the benefiting community. And the partners strategically reached out to the beneficiaries, children and families, with gifts of love, care, happiness and support made possible by the itel Love Always On CSR initiative.
Over 1,000 families benefited from the gesture as well as 600 children, and each one of them received food packages to celebrate Nigeria’s 60 th Independence Day commemoration.
Speaking on the event and itel’s Love Always On CSR Initiative, Oke Umurhohwo, itel’s Marketing Manager said, ‘We wanted to mark this year’s Independence Day celebrations differently, and that is why we did something so momentous for our children. Children are the backbone of any longstanding community, and as such, we are proud to be able to give back and support them on their journey as leaders of tomorrow and for a better life.’
To meet the demands of the memorable event, 30 volunteers joined the customer-centric brand and the Lagos-based NGO to share smiles, and to convey just how important it is to love and take care of today’s children who will ultimately become leaders of tomorrow.
With the thoughtful activity, there are insights for everyone, from the government to citizens, on partnerships that are capable of making life better for children. Indeed, itel Mobile and the Lagos Food Bank Initiative have offered a great template on bringing this to reality.
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