Guys, here’s how to date more women of worth — and enjoy more dates that lead to meaningful connection.
1. Be your true self
Present yourself as the same person online and offline. Women are pleasantly surprised to meet a man who portrays himself accurately. Trust is necessary and starts with being honest about the superficial things (i.e. height, appearance, age, interests, etc.).
Communicate openly about who you are, your beliefs, your views on life and love, etc., so that your dates gets to know who you truly are. Let her make an honest choice if the real you is right for her.
2. Be a gentleman
Treat a woman the way you’d like a man to treat your sister, daughter or someone you care about; this means dating responsibly. Take care of your appearance and hygiene. Be a man of your word. Be well-mannered, courteous and respectful in your words, behaviors and actions.
Take the time to learn who she is and what she’s about, and share who you are with her. Let things unfold as they’re meant to instead of trying to rush having sex with her. When you are a gentleman, having sex will happen naturally.
3. Have integrity
Be honest. If at the end of a date, you don’t wish to see her again, don’t say, “I’ll call you and let’s do this again.” Empty words and empty promises create false hope and end up being more hurtful. In this situation, kind honesty is best.
Say something like, “Thank you for meeting me. I really enjoyed talking with you, though I didn’t feel a romantic connection. I wish you well in life and love.”
4. Ask her out first
Though women lead every day in their professional lives, many of us prefer men to still make the first move romantically. If you’re interested in her, ask her out.
Contact her based on what you read in her dating profile (i.e. referencing common interests, asking her a question about something that sparked your attention) before the window of opportunity passes.
The caveat is: Don’t make mention of her appearance in a creepy way (i.e. “Hey sexy, love your body.”). A woman of worth doesn’t respond positively to creepy messages.
5. Be open to who she is
Be open to more than a woman’s physical appearance, measurements and age.
Wonderful women come in all packages. Instead of making physical appearance your main criteria, focus 80 percent of your opinion on a woman’s inner appearance and 20 percent on her outward appearance.
This also means dating women who are closer to you in age. You’ll increase your odds of meeting and dating more women.
6. Be thoughtful
Show consideration and caring to a woman’s feelings. A woman of worth must feel connected to a man to keep a positive momentum going. When a woman doesn’t hear from you between dates, a space of negative energy builds up.
A woman likes to know you’re thinking of her in between the times you see each other. You can let her know this with a text, a quick phone call, etc. It’s the little things that matter and add up to make a big difference.
7. Be patient
When it comes to dating, patience is a virtue. Don’t sacrifice short-term urges for your long-term happiness. When you rush things, you sabotage your chances for dating to turn into a meaningful connection with a wonderful woman.
Instead of approaching dating as the destination, approach dating as the journey to finding a meaningful connection.
8. Balance your life
What you place your attention on becomes prominent in your life. Assess the amount of time and energy you spend working, with the amount of time you are with you your friends, dating, etc.
If you tend to work a lot or spend most of your free time with friends, your dating life won’t fall into place by itself.
Dating takes time, effort and energy. Balance your life so that you’re able to work well, date well and spend time with friends. When your life is in balance, life flows better.
9. Get out of your own way
When it comes to dating, the most important thing you can do is take responsibility for your side of the dating equation. This means understanding how you’re getting in your own way and what’s stopping you from having a great dating life.
Identify the common tendencies that show up in your dating life. Then work on changing yourself so these tendencies don’t show up.