He picks you up, presents you with roses, opens your door, takes you to an elegant restaurant, and endlessly compliments you throughout the night. He repeatedly tells you, his voice laced with incredulous wonder, that he can’t believe you actually agreed to go out with him since you are so far out of his league. He treats you like a princess and let’s face it, it’s flattering.
It’s a refreshing change to feel so appreciated, especially if you’ve dated a few self-absorbed, insensitive jerks in the past. You begin to think that maybe he’s “the one.” But then things head south. His sweet attentiveness turns to overwhelming obsession.
It no longer feels like he treasures and cherishes you; it feels like overbearing possessiveness. Suddenly it seems to take all your energy to assure (and reassure and reassure again) your man that you love him. It’s sucking the life out of you.
We all have insecurities. It’s human nature. I’m personally insecure about the size of my butt. And the fact that I dance like crippled monkey having a seizure. And my inability to do 5th grade math. And that’s okay.
But for some of us, that insecurity is so pervasive it seeps into every corner of our lives and destroys our relationships.
Here are 15 signs your man may have some big-time insecurity issues.
1. He has no outside friends or interests.
He never mentions any friends and doesn’t hang out with anyone but you. Outside of work, he has no interests or hobbies. He doesn’t go to the gym, play any sports, take any classes, volunteer, or go to church. When he isn’t with you, he’s sitting at home thinking about you. Or maybe he did have friends and hobbies at one time, but he gave them all up in order to spend every minute with you.
2. He thinks you still have feelings for your ex.
He’s convinced you aren’t over your ex even if you’ve been divorced/broken up for years and the only feelings you have for him are disappointment, pity, loathing, disgust, and a smidge of residual hatred. His insecurity is so overwhelming that he can’t see reason and will convince himself that you couldn’t possibly love him so the only “logical” conclusion is that you’re still in love with your ex.
3. He tells you he loves you right away.
Very early in the relationship, he professes his undying love for you. Part of you feels like Rudolph when Clarice tells him he’s cute. You could fly through the air while shouting, “He loves me! He loves me! He loves MEEEEEE!” But the sane part of you feels like, He loves me? Wait what? This is our SECOND DATE! That’s crazy-talk!
It takes time to get to know someone enough to love them and if your new boyfriend is telling you he loves you right off the bat, it should sound warning bells, especially if he pressures you into saying it back to him.
4. He tells you you’re his everything.
You’re his world, the center of his universe, his reason for living. At first it may seem flattering to be valued so highly, but being the center of one’s world, is not all it’s cracked up to be. That’s too much pressure to live up to. And what happens when you hit a bump in the road in your relationship? When things aren’t going smoothly his world falls apart. He falls apart. Because you are his world.
5. He needs constant validation.
He frequently asks you questions like, “Do you love me?” He fishes for compliments. Then when you assure him that you do indeed find him attractive, he doesn’t quite believe you. Everyone likes to hear that they’re loved, pretty, talented, attractive, intelligent, desired, but his needs go beyond those of the rest of us.
He generally suffers from low self-esteem, which incidentally is the driving force behind many of his insecure behaviors.
6. He’s jealous of your friends.
He’s jealous of the time you spend with your friends. He doesn’t like you to meet coworkers after work for happy hour, he doesn’t like you going shopping with girlfriends, and heaven forbid you have any platonic relationships with men. He frequently calls and texts to check up on you when you’re out without him.
At first, his possessiveness may make you feel special and wanted. After some time, that possessiveness will become exasperating when you feel you can’t do anything with your friends without upsetting him.
7. He plays the break-up game.
He plays this sort of game wherein he threatens to leave or break up with you. He says things like, “I don’t feel wanted” or “I don’t think you really love me.” He doesn’t really want to end the relationship; he’s hoping you’ll beg him to stay. If you do, it validates his fragile ego. If you don’t beg him to stay, he’ll take it all back and do whatever he can so that he doesn’t lose you.
He’s just testing your devotion to him and demanding that validation he so craves. Eventually, however, you’ll either be stuck in this unhealthy relationship or you’ll tire of this little game and gladly let him leave the next time he threatens it.
8. He talks about his exes and how they cheated on him.
According to him, his exes never really loved him. He insists that in every past relationship, he was the innocent victim. No one loved him. They used him and cheated on him. This may be true and the reason he is so insecure. Or it may be in his head because of his insecurity.
If you’re a sympathetic person who feels the need to protect and champion the underdog, his tales of woe will tug at your heartstrings. You’ll may decide that you’ll never be the one to leave or hurt him. But take the stories of his exes as a warning if you don’t want to feel guilted into staying in a bad relationship.
9. He stalks you on Facebook and/or other social media.
He is always aware the very second you post a status update on Facebook, a tweet, an Instagram, etc. He follows you and always knows what you are up to. He may even get upset if he reads what you’re up to on Facebook when you didn’t tell him personally before posting it for everyone to read. Unless you’re a Kardashian, there’s just something a little creepy about being stalked.
10. He checks your phone.
He looks over your shoulder when you receive a text. He may nonchalantly ask who you’re texting or he might outright demand to see your phone. He oftentimes feels like you’re hiding something from him if you’re on your computer or phone, even if you’re just checking your work email, or texting a girlfriend your recipe for lasagna.
11. He smothers you.
He smothers you with attention and gifts. At first you’re swept off your feet by his sweet thoughtfulness. After a while, however, you start to question his lavish gifts and attention. Is he motivated to give you gifts out of pure love or out of a desire to buy your affection and ensure you won’t leave him?
12. He thinks you’re cheating.
He can’t quite shake his suspicions that you’re cheating on him. He may accuse you of flirting with the waiter, having an affair with a coworker, or just looking around for someone better. It isn’t necessarily that he doesn’t trust you. It’s more a problem of him feeling like he’s not good enough for you so it’s just a matter of time until you find someone better.
13. He gets upset if you can’t be with him every day.
Within minutes of leaving after your date, he’ll text you that he misses you. At first, his attention is so sweet. Who doesn’t want to feel so desired? It doesn’t take long to start feeling overwhelmed with his obsessive attention though.
He wants to see you every day and gets upset if you have other responsibilities that take you away from him. He has a way of making you feel guilty if you need to work, run errands, or meet a friend and can’t go out with him.
14. His moods depend on you.
It’s normal, and it’s a good thing to be sensitive to the moods of your partner but with an insecure man, his mood will be totally dependent on you. If you’re happy and loving toward him, he will be in a good mood.
If you’re frazzled, trying to juggle a thousand things and don’t have time to constantly assure him that you’re in love with him, he’ll be sad and depressed. His co-dependent behavior puts an extraordinary amount of pressure on you to always make sure you’re in a good mood so he doesn’t get down.
15. He’s overly sensitive to criticism.
No one likes to be criticized, but insecure people take even the kindest, most constructive criticism really badly. They have low self-esteem and cannot bear to have their suspicions about themselves validated when someone points out a flaw.
If you open up and tell your partner that he’s smothering you and you need a little time alone, for example, he’s likely to turn it around on you. Instead of listening to your concerns, reflecting on his behavior, and promising to back off a little and give you space, he’s more likely to turn it around with a response like, “I get it. You don’t want me around. I knew it was only a matter of time until you got sick of me and broke up.”
Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday
An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.
Why stay at an exotic resort
Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:
Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.
Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.
Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand
The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf
The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.
Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.
You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.
Healthcare Workers To Receive Coca-Cola-Funded PPEs From Nigerian Red Cross
Since the outbreak of the Coronavirus disease in Nigeria, our healthcare workers have continued to lead the charge against the disease. As the number of recorded COVID-19 cases in Nigeria began to increase, these healthcare workers rose to the challenge and fought tirelessly to protect the lives of Nigerians impacted by the disease.
Considering the risks these healthcare workers face, there is a crucial need for adequate protective equipment for these brave frontline workers.
Coca-Cola is excited that over 400,000 Personal Protective Equipment (PPEs) procured to support the intervention efforts of the Nigerian Government and other key stakeholders to fight the COVID 19 pandemic have arrived. We do believe that this will to provide succor to our healthcare workers on the frontlines
These PPEs comprise N95 respirators, surgical masks, examination gloves, face shields, medical gowns, no-touch thermometers, disposable aprons, heavy-duty rubber gloves, rubber boots, basic masks, disposable gloves, and hand sanitizers.
Since the first confirmed case of the disease in Nigeria reported in February, over 800 healthcare workers have contracted the disease. While Nigerians are encouraged to stay home where possible and practice social distancing, these healthcare workers are needed across the country in the continued fight against the disease.
This donation forms part of The Coca-Cola Foundation’s COVID-19 relief interventions in Nigeria. The Coca-Cola Foundation has provided $2.5m in grant to IFRC who seeks to directly impact the lives of 1.4 million people in Nigeria and across other countries in West and Central Africa under this partnership.
Taking Care of Tomorrow’s Leaders Today – The itel, Lagos Food Bank Example
Waking up to a special meal or choice gift is the best feeling ever. Hundreds of children in Mushin, mainland Lagos, had a filling taste of this feeling for the October 1 st celebrations. It’s an experience they will remember for a long time.
Being one of the most responsible corporate citizens around, celebrating Independence Day was always going to be on the radar for itel Mobile. To make this possible and memorable, the brand got to work in earnest. The focus of the work was picking the best way to commemorate the 60th independence anniversary of the most populous black nation on earth.
The efforts soon paid off through an impact-driven partnership with the Lagos Food Bank Initiative. With the arrangement, both partners considered a couple of activities capable of affecting communities positively and bringing smiles to people’s faces in Lagos. At the end of the exercise, taking care of children, the leaders of tomorrow, in the commercial city secured the highest votes.
With the decision, itel Mobile set about making this happen. Not surprisingly, the decision was
influenced by giving children the means to excel and prepare them for leadership and nation-building, for them to enjoy better life. For the good of their immediate family, community and the Nigerian society.
Idiko, Mushin, a suburb of mainland Lagos, was chosen as the benefiting community. And the partners strategically reached out to the beneficiaries, children and families, with gifts of love, care, happiness and support made possible by the itel Love Always On CSR initiative.
Over 1,000 families benefited from the gesture as well as 600 children, and each one of them received food packages to celebrate Nigeria’s 60 th Independence Day commemoration.
Speaking on the event and itel’s Love Always On CSR Initiative, Oke Umurhohwo, itel’s Marketing Manager said, ‘We wanted to mark this year’s Independence Day celebrations differently, and that is why we did something so momentous for our children. Children are the backbone of any longstanding community, and as such, we are proud to be able to give back and support them on their journey as leaders of tomorrow and for a better life.’
To meet the demands of the memorable event, 30 volunteers joined the customer-centric brand and the Lagos-based NGO to share smiles, and to convey just how important it is to love and take care of today’s children who will ultimately become leaders of tomorrow.
With the thoughtful activity, there are insights for everyone, from the government to citizens, on partnerships that are capable of making life better for children. Indeed, itel Mobile and the Lagos Food Bank Initiative have offered a great template on bringing this to reality.
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