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What Men Want: 7 Traits Men Look For In The Lady Of Their Dreams

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We’ve talked about finding the right woman — someone we can ride the waves of life with, who will stand by our side for better or for worse.

As a man, committing to The One is among the most important decisions we make in life; some may even argue it is the most important.

The woman we decide to share our world with is the one who will mother our children, help us plan life, pick us up when we’re down and make us better men than we are right now.

But, what does the right woman look like in our eyes?

For years, women have been sharing what they want in men, but there’s this widely-held stereotype that all we want is the so-called “trophy wife.” I don’t agree with that notion.

You see, there’s so much that should go into deciding whom to share your life with — characteristics, in a sense, that stand the test of time.

So, what is it we men want in a woman?

1. Character

Being truly beautiful has nothing to do with what you look like, but everything to do with who you are.

I’ve met quite a few beautiful women in my life whose personalities were as appealing as the dirty concrete in a New York City subway station.

I’m sorry, but it’s true.

We want people who put as much time and energy into ensuring they look good as they do into being genuine and real. You know “that girl” you are around your girlfriends?

That’s who you really are. Don’t be so hesitant to be that way with us.

We see you laugh uncontrollably with your friends, so laugh with us. We love women who have senses of humor and don’t take life so seriously.

Be yourself. Order a cheeseburger for lunch. Get ketchup all over your face.

Put on sweats and a t-shirt when we come over. Skip makeup and don’t do your hair. It’s all okay; we actually like that.

You know that Drake song when he says, “Sweatpants, hair tied, chillin’ with no makeup on, that’s when you’re the prettiest…”?

Well, he’s right.

We love when you get dressed up and feel beautiful, but know that you don’t need to flip a switch from your real self in order to gain our acceptance.

If there ever comes a point when you feel a need to do that, well, you’re just with the wrong man.

2. Respect

How you present yourself says a lot about who you are.

Wearing clothes that accentuate your body is nothing new, nor do I believe it’s disrespectful. But, that’s not where I am going with this.

In today’s society, there’s something called social media, and it’s basically your résumé for men. Where you go, whom you go with, what you say and how you say it reflects you as an individual.

And, truthfully speaking, men don’t want someone who is everywhere, doing everything, with everyone.

Little boys who want the popular girl might, but real men don’t play those games.

You can’t respect a man if you don’t respect yourself. It’s not a knock, but seriously, how would that be possible?

We prefer the woman who’s sitting home, reading a book as opposed to getting drunk with her friends on the weekends; we prefer the one who’s life is kept more low-key, as it makes her more intriguing.

The less we know about someone’s life, the more interesting that person becomes. It forces us to engage, to inquire, to seek out.

Our conversations with you gain substance, and this becomes appealing.

If we know everywhere you’ve been and everything you’ve done, where does that leave us?

3. Affection

Men are very physical human beings. Everything for us elevates with touch. By nature, we’re drawn to it.

It goes without saying that a woman who is very free with her offerings of affection will entice us. It’s very warm and welcoming to a man.

Just like you, we want a woman to reach out and grab our hand; we want for you to come over and kiss us randomly; we want for you to hug us and ask us how our day was. It evokes this feeling of being wanted.

It just strengthens that connection we have with you and opens up lines of communication, but more importantly, makes us feel comfortable — invited in, so to speak.

4. Intelligence

Stimulating conversations make a man go crazy.

Intelligent women are ones who know so much about the world around them, but even more so, have a keen interest in making it a better place.

They think critically and engage our senses. Furthermore, they have this drive to be successful, which in itself, can be the biggest turn on there is.

There’s more to life than the latest handbag, designer shoe or next episode of your favorite reality TV show.

We’re guilty of it, too, bombarding you with football on Sundays or even forcing you to watch “SportsCenter” every night.

The decisions we face in life can often present us with uncertainty and having someone insightful by our side can help us make the right ones.

This doesn’t require a degree from Harvard, or any degree for that matter, just intellect, reasoning and understanding.

5. Confidence

Life is difficult.

Every day is a struggle to get through and having a confident woman by your side is key to pursuing your dreams.

A woman who loves herself, regardless of her own flaws, will love a man for all of his. Beyond loving you, she will knock down the doors of resistance and reach for the stars with you.

There’s something sexy about a confident woman, and it has nothing to do with looks.

To be truthful, we don’t notice every one of your flaws. You know, the ones you spend hours in the mirror pointing out to yourself.

If we found ourselves attracted to you, know that we aren’t analyzing every inch of your body to find perfection.

That doesn’t exist, and we aren’t looking for it.

Knowing she understands her worth is innately appealing. In essence, you’re looking at someone who can complement you, not just be a trophy at your side.

She knows what she wants and isn’t waiting for you to give it to her.

Beyond that, she’s content with herself and her body.

As crazy as it may sound, confidence is something we can feel from a sexual point of view. It’s almost like an energy that draws us in and makes for an even better sexual experience.

6. Ambition

Men love to be caretakers and “planners” for our families, but we also love a woman who can plan that life with us. We don’t want to have to make every decision alone. We need a visionary, one who can see beyond today.

Determined women are more committed, simply due to the fact that they have laser focus.

There are no uncertainties about their futures because they understand what it takes to get there.

Failure isn’t a choice for them.

Ultimately, a woman who is willing to push forward to be the best mother to her children or have a successful career is one who will strive for a successful relationship.

When things get tough, she won’t be so easy to quit and walk away. If she lacks ambition, however, odds are that result might look a bit different.

Aspiring people, in general, usually figure out how to make things work.

7. Humility

Naturally, humble people focus their energies outward. When searching for a life partner, this becomes very attractive to a man.

Humble women exude this compassion for others, putting others’ happiness before their own. But, they do this in such a way that brings them peace and protection.

Knowing that someone has this desire to put us first immediately shows that your ego won’t get in the way of creating a strong partnership.

I think we understand the whole “let’s play hard to get” mentality, but tell me how wasting all of that energy really serves you well? It doesn’t.

If we decide to tell you how we feel about you, or even tell you how beautiful we think you are, don’t look at us as if we have 10 heads.

It takes a tremendous amount of courage to do that.

Be humble and have the decency to acknowledge it, even if you don’t necessarily feel the same way.

There’s this misconception that looks, popularity or even social status will find you true love, but it won’t.

So, stop trying. What matters is whom you are — that’s what a real man wants.

Just you, flaws and all.

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Travel

Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday

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An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.

Why stay at an exotic resort

Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:

Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.

Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.

Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand

The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf
courses.

The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.

Kurumba, Maldives

Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.

You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.

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Healthcare Workers To Receive Coca-Cola-Funded PPEs From Nigerian Red Cross

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Since the outbreak of the Coronavirus disease in Nigeria, our healthcare workers have continued to lead the charge against the disease. As the number of recorded COVID-19 cases in Nigeria began to increase, these healthcare workers rose to the challenge and fought tirelessly to protect the lives of Nigerians impacted by the disease.

Considering the risks these healthcare workers face, there is a crucial need for adequate protective equipment for these brave frontline workers.

Coca-Cola is excited that over 400,000 Personal Protective Equipment (PPEs) procured to support the intervention efforts of the Nigerian Government and other key stakeholders to fight the COVID 19 pandemic have arrived. We do believe that this will to provide succor to our healthcare workers on the frontlines

These PPEs comprise N95 respirators, surgical masks, examination gloves, face shields, medical gowns, no-touch thermometers, disposable aprons, heavy-duty rubber gloves, rubber boots, basic masks, disposable gloves, and hand sanitizers.

Since the first confirmed case of the disease in Nigeria reported in February, over 800 healthcare workers have contracted the disease. While Nigerians are encouraged to stay home where possible and practice social distancing, these healthcare workers are needed across the country in the continued fight against the disease.

This donation forms part of The Coca-Cola Foundation’s COVID-19 relief interventions in Nigeria. The Coca-Cola Foundation has provided $2.5m in grant to IFRC who seeks to directly impact the lives of 1.4 million people in Nigeria and across other countries in West and Central Africa under this partnership.

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Taking Care of Tomorrow’s Leaders Today – The itel, Lagos Food Bank Example

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Waking up to a special meal or choice gift is the best feeling ever. Hundreds of children in Mushin, mainland Lagos, had a filling taste of this feeling for the October 1 st celebrations. It’s an experience they will remember for a long time.

Being one of the most responsible corporate citizens around, celebrating Independence Day was always going to be on the radar for itel Mobile. To make this possible and memorable, the brand got to work in earnest. The focus of the work was picking the best way to commemorate the 60th independence anniversary of the most populous black nation on earth.

The efforts soon paid off through an impact-driven partnership with the Lagos Food Bank Initiative. With the arrangement, both partners considered a couple of activities capable of affecting communities positively and bringing smiles to people’s faces in Lagos. At the end of the exercise, taking care of children, the leaders of tomorrow, in the commercial city secured the highest votes.

With the decision, itel Mobile set about making this happen. Not surprisingly, the decision was
influenced by giving children the means to excel and prepare them for leadership and nation-building, for them to enjoy better life. For the good of their immediate family, community and the Nigerian society.

Idiko, Mushin, a suburb of mainland Lagos, was chosen as the benefiting community. And the partners strategically reached out to the beneficiaries, children and families, with gifts of love, care, happiness and support made possible by the itel Love Always On CSR initiative.

Over 1,000 families benefited from the gesture as well as 600 children, and each one of them received food packages to celebrate Nigeria’s 60 th Independence Day commemoration.

Speaking on the event and itel’s Love Always On CSR Initiative, Oke Umurhohwo, itel’s Marketing Manager said, ‘We wanted to mark this year’s Independence Day celebrations differently, and that is why we did something so momentous for our children. Children are the backbone of any longstanding community, and as such, we are proud to be able to give back and support them on their journey as leaders of tomorrow and for a better life.’

To meet the demands of the memorable event, 30 volunteers joined the customer-centric brand and the Lagos-based NGO to share smiles, and to convey just how important it is to love and take care of today’s children who will ultimately become leaders of tomorrow.

With the thoughtful activity, there are insights for everyone, from the government to citizens, on partnerships that are capable of making life better for children. Indeed, itel Mobile and the Lagos Food Bank Initiative have offered a great template on bringing this to reality.

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