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Single Ladies: 3 Things You Think You Know About Black Men That Are Absolutely False

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Have you or one of your girlfriends ever said the following words?

“Black men are intimidated by my success”

“I’m beginning to believe there are no men out there who are serious about marriage…”

“All the good men are marrying outside the race”

These sayings feel true, but in reality they’re myths that are messing up our relationships! Let’s deal with them, one by one, so we can get to the truth and strengthen our relationships.

Myth #1: Black men are intimidated by successful women

Sisters, if a man is intimated by your success, the answer is simple. He’s the wrong man!

But not all men are intimidated by your accomplishments. Many men report that they don’t have a problem with a sister’s success. They just don’t know where they fit in within her world. They aren’t intimidated. They’re feeling isolated!

It’s true that some men are carrying around outdated ideas about gender roles, family, and what their responsibility is in a relationship. Others are just confused about what the sisters really want.

For example, many men still think they have to be the breadwinner in the family or else they feel less than a man. Their whole sense of manhood is linked to what they do in the boardroom (and in the bedroom too!)

Some accomplished black women still have this expectation of men. In one breath, these sisters will tell me they just want to build a life with someone, but they still require a man who is as ambitious, as successful and as financially independent as they are (and in some cases, they expect him to do better than they do).

We can’t have it both ways, sisters. He’s either your provider or your partner in success.

Myth #2: Black men aren’t serious about marriage

One of the biggest complaints sisters share with me is that they wasted years with a man who made them believe in the beginning that they wanted love, commitment and marriage. But in the end, didn’t ever put a ring on it.

These sisters feel like men were just lying to them. The truth is, the guys may not have been lying. They just changed their mind but didn’t know how to tell you.

They didn’t love you enough to commit to you and they were afraid to say it. That hurts, I know, but embracing that truth can help you move on quickly.

So what do men think about love and marriage?

I’ve had men tell me they feel the pressure to get married and they’re often stigmatized for being single. But they also have fears and insecurities that can keep them from committing fully.

On the one hand, they feel like they don’t have it all together enough for a sister to want them. They have a home, but they’re still in debt. The’ve got a career, but they don’t feel like they’re successful enough. So they keep pursuing the moving target called “Good Enough” and they won’t settle down, because they don’t believe they can make a woman happy.

You may feel like a good man is hard to find, but the bottom line is there are many men who are serious about marriage. You just have to know where to position yourself to be found by one.

Myth #3: Black men don’t want black women

The census data does show that Black men marry women outside their race more than any other race of men. However, that doesn’t mean that ALL brothers prefer to date and marry interracially. The census data also shows that 88% of married Black men have African American wives.

If a brother is married to someone outside his race, don’t take it personally. It’s just his preference!

What should we do about these myths?

First, we need to do the work of sorting out what the modern shifts in gender roles mean for us in 21st Century dating, relationships and marriage. Guys, you can’t let a sister’s success shape how you define yourself as a man. Sisters, we have to open up and let the guys in. Make him feel needed and appreciate what he does contribute.

Second, both men and women need to replace all these sayings with one simple phrase: “All men aren’t like that.”

Third, let’s keep the lines of communication open and stop making assumptions about each other. Clarity is power!

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Travel

Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday

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An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.

Why stay at an exotic resort

Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:

Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.

Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.

Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand

The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf
courses.

The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.

Kurumba, Maldives

Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.

You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.

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Healthcare Workers To Receive Coca-Cola-Funded PPEs From Nigerian Red Cross

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Since the outbreak of the Coronavirus disease in Nigeria, our healthcare workers have continued to lead the charge against the disease. As the number of recorded COVID-19 cases in Nigeria began to increase, these healthcare workers rose to the challenge and fought tirelessly to protect the lives of Nigerians impacted by the disease.

Considering the risks these healthcare workers face, there is a crucial need for adequate protective equipment for these brave frontline workers.

Coca-Cola is excited that over 400,000 Personal Protective Equipment (PPEs) procured to support the intervention efforts of the Nigerian Government and other key stakeholders to fight the COVID 19 pandemic have arrived. We do believe that this will to provide succor to our healthcare workers on the frontlines

These PPEs comprise N95 respirators, surgical masks, examination gloves, face shields, medical gowns, no-touch thermometers, disposable aprons, heavy-duty rubber gloves, rubber boots, basic masks, disposable gloves, and hand sanitizers.

Since the first confirmed case of the disease in Nigeria reported in February, over 800 healthcare workers have contracted the disease. While Nigerians are encouraged to stay home where possible and practice social distancing, these healthcare workers are needed across the country in the continued fight against the disease.

This donation forms part of The Coca-Cola Foundation’s COVID-19 relief interventions in Nigeria. The Coca-Cola Foundation has provided $2.5m in grant to IFRC who seeks to directly impact the lives of 1.4 million people in Nigeria and across other countries in West and Central Africa under this partnership.

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Taking Care of Tomorrow’s Leaders Today – The itel, Lagos Food Bank Example

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Waking up to a special meal or choice gift is the best feeling ever. Hundreds of children in Mushin, mainland Lagos, had a filling taste of this feeling for the October 1 st celebrations. It’s an experience they will remember for a long time.

Being one of the most responsible corporate citizens around, celebrating Independence Day was always going to be on the radar for itel Mobile. To make this possible and memorable, the brand got to work in earnest. The focus of the work was picking the best way to commemorate the 60th independence anniversary of the most populous black nation on earth.

The efforts soon paid off through an impact-driven partnership with the Lagos Food Bank Initiative. With the arrangement, both partners considered a couple of activities capable of affecting communities positively and bringing smiles to people’s faces in Lagos. At the end of the exercise, taking care of children, the leaders of tomorrow, in the commercial city secured the highest votes.

With the decision, itel Mobile set about making this happen. Not surprisingly, the decision was
influenced by giving children the means to excel and prepare them for leadership and nation-building, for them to enjoy better life. For the good of their immediate family, community and the Nigerian society.

Idiko, Mushin, a suburb of mainland Lagos, was chosen as the benefiting community. And the partners strategically reached out to the beneficiaries, children and families, with gifts of love, care, happiness and support made possible by the itel Love Always On CSR initiative.

Over 1,000 families benefited from the gesture as well as 600 children, and each one of them received food packages to celebrate Nigeria’s 60 th Independence Day commemoration.

Speaking on the event and itel’s Love Always On CSR Initiative, Oke Umurhohwo, itel’s Marketing Manager said, ‘We wanted to mark this year’s Independence Day celebrations differently, and that is why we did something so momentous for our children. Children are the backbone of any longstanding community, and as such, we are proud to be able to give back and support them on their journey as leaders of tomorrow and for a better life.’

To meet the demands of the memorable event, 30 volunteers joined the customer-centric brand and the Lagos-based NGO to share smiles, and to convey just how important it is to love and take care of today’s children who will ultimately become leaders of tomorrow.

With the thoughtful activity, there are insights for everyone, from the government to citizens, on partnerships that are capable of making life better for children. Indeed, itel Mobile and the Lagos Food Bank Initiative have offered a great template on bringing this to reality.

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