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Something On His Mind? 5 Surprising Things Men Want From Their Girlfriends



article-20141030012012843288000The greatest mysteries of the world are nothing compared to the mystery that millions of women face every day: What does my man really want?

Why do women obsess over what our men think about? Perhaps it’s because we usually say exactly what we are thinking, unless we are angry. When we’re angry, we get quite. However, when aour men are quiet, we have no idea if they’re angry or not. So, how do we decipher our partners?

If you’re curious about what men really want and like from you in your relationship, check out these five common wants and needs that your man will never tell you about.

#1) They Want Compliments

A man will never ask for a compliment. He will never seek out your approval, and he will rarely ask you how he looks. However, deep down, everyone wants to be told that they look nice, smell nice, or they made a great choice in the hairstyle they chose. This goes for men as well.

According to, “It has to be sincere for it to work. Guys seem to have a radar to catch any insincere compliment you give them.”

Make sure when you tell your man what you love about him, you are being honest. This shouldn’t be difficult to do. Just think of all of the reasons you chose him. Think of how he makes you feel, and consider these things as you tell him exactly why he is so great.

#2) They Want to Be Appreciated

You want to be appreciated. You do so much for your man and your relationship. It is time to give back the appreciation. Show your man how much you appreciate what he does for you in a sincere and genuine way.

He brings you flowers when you’re down. He brings you chocolate when you need chocolate. He runs out to buy 7-up and medicine when you are sick. In the end, your man really does a lot for you.

Show him that you recognize his great feats by giving back to him. Go out and buy him a card. Write him a love note explaining how much you care about him. Tell him all of the things that you’ve seen him do for you and how much that means to you.

This will give him enough to help him feel appreciated in your relationship.

#3) They Want Encouragement

This one works on two different levels. First of all, your man wants to know that you consider him smart and strong enough to complete any task he puts his mind to. Next, he wants to know that you are on his side, and that you will be there to support him if the time comes.

According to, “They think that if you believe in them then surely they can accomplish whatever obstacles they are up against in their life. In return, you will find they are always in your corner.”

Show them how much you support their decisions by being honest with them. If you do not fully support something your man does, tell him what portions of his plan work and which portions might need a little bit of work.

This will show your man that you are listening to his wants and needs, and that you are willing to take risks with him. In the end, he will discover that you are there to support him through thick and thin, which is exactly what you want him to do for you.

#4) They Like to Win

This one can be tough sometimes. I was always one to have to have the last word in any argument. With many of my previous boyfriends, this ended up leading to several heated arguments. I have grown to learn that there are times when my man just needs one for the win column in the relationship, so I have learned to step back from the arguments.

Sometimes, your man actually is right in an argument or even a decision that you have a different opinion about. Let him have his victories every once in a while.

The key here is, if you were right, but you stepped down, never (ever) say “I told you so.” Remember that you are an encouraging and supportive girlfriend. He already knows that you were right. You don’t have to rub it in his face. All you have to do is solve the problem from where you stand. Don’t go back in time to relive the fact that he should have listened to you.

Additionally, acknowledge when he is right and you are wrong. This will show him that you are capable of admitting your own faults, and perhaps inspire him to be accountable for his own.

#5) They Want Their Space

There are times, especially in the beginning of a relationship, where we want to be around our men nonstop. This is perfectly fine for a while, but it is important to let him breathe every once in a while.

Not only will giving him his personal space show him how much you trust him, it will also show him how important his happiness is to you.

I remember when my boyfriend and I started discussing moving in together. One of the major things holding him back was the fact that he really just liked living alone. In order to compromise, I told him we should look for a house with many walls and his own personal space. He agreed, but seemed skeptical. In the end, he has his own office, and he settles there every evening after work for his unwind time.

Giving a man his personal space is the perfect way for you to complete tasks that you need to complete, and give him the opportunity to complete tasks that he needs to complete. Every relationship benefits from a little bit of separation from time to time.

Remember, ladies, just because he isn’t asking you for things, doesn’t mean that he isn’t looking for certain things from you. Don’t forget to give your man compliments from time to time. Appreciate what he does for you, and encourage him when he wants to take risks. Admit when you are wrong in an argument, and don’t forget to give him his personal space. What are some of the things you’ve learned your man was thinking about over the course of a relationship? Share with us in the comments below!


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  1. Oke oluwatoyin

    March 27, 2015 at 9:23 am

    I jst met dis guy few months ago on net, any tym we chat on fone he always find sumtin 2 be angry of n get angry easily bt even if he is at fault n he turns anger, I will be d one 2 beg him at last. But I dnt knw maybe am d only one dis guy is dating. Pls how will I knw n wat can I do? Pls reply me

  2. Meg

    March 27, 2015 at 8:23 pm

    I ll advice u to leave him because on the long run he ll break up with you so its pointless. You shouldn’t stop so low in a relationship and call it humility while in the real sense u re just making him see reasons to give u attitude. Pls forget about him. There are over 101 guys out thr who wld appreciate u better.

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Nigerian & Jamaica Celebrates 50 Years Of Diplomatic Relations With Direct Flights to Jamaica



As the festive season approaches, travel enthusiasts and lovers of fun, relaxation or  adventure, will have a chance to create history, by being part of the first direct charter flights from Lagos, Nigeria to Montego Bay, Jamaica. The flights are in celebration of 50 years of diplomatic relations between Nigeria and Jamaica. Both countries have worked hard to promote culture, education, industrial and economic development, at different levels.

The first flight will leave Lagos on 21 December and return on 28 December 2020. A second rotation will take place from 30 December to 6 January 2021. Each flight will last for just over 11 hours and relieves the traveler of the stress of securing transit visas via Europe or the US and the uncertainties associated with multiple connections.

The flights are being coordinated by the Jamaican High Commission in Abuja and Nigerians Travel Too, a leading tour operator based in Lagos and the UK. They are also a reflection of the creative fusion of the Nigerian and Jamaican history and culture, which both partners have dubbed the Nai-Jamaica Project. A dedicated website has been launched, to showcase the range of travel and business opportunities that are available.

In tandem with the upcoming flights, handcrafted holiday experiences and multiple travel packages have been designed with each visitor in mind. The main items covered include: flight tickets, accommodation, airport transfers, tours and meals among others. [Participating tour operators are also offering free visa processing and support].

Nigeria’s trusted international carrier, Air Peace, will facilitate each trip with its elegant Boeing 777-300ER aircraft. Passengers will be able to travel in style and comfort across the First, Business and Economy Class cabins that are on offer at unbeatable rates.

Jamaica’s High Commissioner to Nigeria, HE Esmond Reid, has hailed the direct flights as, “An historic and unique opportunity, as part of our 50th anniversary celebrations, to reconnect with family and friends from Nigeria, Jamaica, the Caribbean and other parts of the world, in a world class tourist destination”.

Jamaica has won many international travel and tourism awards and has developed special COVID-19 protocols for the tourism sector. These are designed to protect and enhance the tourism experience for visitors and workers in the industry, in the face of the global pandemic.

Widely recognized as the “heartbeat of the world” and the land of Reggae Music, Jamaica is home to various tourist attractions and cultural icons such as Bob Marley, Marcus Garvey and Usain Bolt.

Visitors can never get enough of the opportunities for rafting, diving, golf, tennis, fishing, nature walks or horseback riding, among other exciting activities that are available in Jamaica. Places like the Abeokuta Nature Park and the Calabar High School also add special significance for visitors from Nigeria.

There will be nowhere else like Jamaica this Christmas and New Year. You can’t afford to miss this awesome Nai-jamaica experience!!!

Tickets are selling like hot cakes. Bookings will close on 20 November to guarantee visa processing, so don’t delay.

For more information on travel, tours and packages visit:
IG; @nigerianstraveltoo

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‘I Tested Positive To HIV After Gang Raped By 3 Men – Chef Ayomide



‘I Tested Positive To HIV After Being Gang Raped By 3 Men For Being Gay’ – Chef Ayomide
Ayomide and his lover

Ayomide and his lover

Nigerian chef, Ayomide Idowu, who is also a male rape survivor, has taken to his Instagram page to tell his story.

The openly gay young man recalled how he was allegedly gang raped by 3 hoodlums at the age of 19 because of his sexuality and how he eventually contracted HIV.

Ayomide revealed his life never remained the same as he was also arrested and victimized by the police.

In his words;

“I could remember last 5years ago
What I pass through from 3 hoodlums
I was thoroughly beaten and gang-raped
All because I’m Gay…they took advantage of me
I was 19years old boy then, I suffered humiliation
Arbitrary arrest from police,inhuman degrading treatment,I lost my precious Home at the age of parents no family…it really hurts to be an orphan….after I lost my virginity from the raped….having unprotected sex from those hoodlums I WAS TESTED POSITIVE….being positive my mood changed…I started my medication and think less…I stay away from smoking and alcohol…I eat Good fruits and vegetables…thanks to God I’m a testifier now
I’m undetectable my CD4 850 viral load 10
It really worth testimony 🙏🤦im looking healthy and stunning…being HIV positive is not the end of life…it reveals the other side of you…my aims of sharing my life threatening story as an orphan,so that people can learn from this…. 5years living positively”

Read Also: GAYS are one of the most influential & successful people in Nigeria — Chef Ayomide

See his post below:

The gay activist’s post

The gay activist’s post

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Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post



Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post
Osas Ighodaro

Osas Ighodaro

Nigerian actress, Osas Ighodaro penned an emotional note via Instagram as she clocked 30-years-old on Monday.

To mark her birthday, the single mother of one posted a monochrome photo of herself as she wished for people to continue praying for those who lost their lives during these turbulent period.

Ighodaro wrote;

“Thank God for another year. Happy Birthday to me. If you know me, you know I absolutely love birthdays but this year it certainly hits different. I’m overwhelming grateful for life and thankful to God to be able to see another birthday bc unfortunately many haven’t and won’t have that opportunity.

I am hopeful for better days for myself, those that I love and hold dear and most certainly for my country Nigeria. I pray for unity, peace, harmony and togetherness. We all deserve it.

My birthday wish is to please continue to pray for those innocent lives lost. Please remain hopeful and focused because I truly believe better days are soon ahead by God’s grace.

Peace, Love and Blessings.”

See her post below:

The actress’ post

The actress’ post

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