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8 Things That Makes A Man Realise He Is Ready To Settle Down

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Settling down can be a scary thought. Spending your life with the same individual, until the day you die, is frightening for anyone.

What if you pick the wrong person? What if he or she changes over time? What if there’s someone better out there waiting for you?

Settling down and finding The One is scary for anyone, but it’s especially terrifying for men. But here are eight signs that show he’s ready for the future, even if the thought of forever scares the life out of him.

1. He finally understands what it means to be lonely.

Everyone understands the concept of feeling lonely — it’s what we feel when we’re scared there’s no one who’d care if we went missing, if we disappeared or if we never existed in the first place.

For most, loneliness is only a concept we’ve heard about or pondered over. Most people aren’t lonely, and it’s not so much because we’re surrounded by true friends, but because we believe we are surrounded by friends.

The older we get, the more we accept most people that claim to be your friends, claim to care about you, don’t care nearly as much as we thought they did.

Everyone is a friend when it’s convenient to be a friend. When being a friend means inconveniencing yourself, most of our so-called friends vanish into the woodwork.

Understanding, feeling and knowing true loneliness means you’ve realized you don’t have someone to turn to when you need a friend the most.

2. He’s no longer interested in adding notches to his belt.

There comes a time in every man’s life when he realizes every notch just creates another empty hole.

Sex is great. Sleeping with a good assortment of individuals is also a very great time — for a while. Eventually, you get tired of the hunt. You get bored feigning interest in someone you know you aren’t going to see again, much less spend your life with.

It’s important to explore your sexuality and other people to get an understanding of what you are or aren’t missing. Eventually, you’ll realize more notches in your belt isn’t making your life any richer.

3. He has a difficult time enjoying meaningless sex.

The problem with booty calls, friends with benefits and hook-up buddies is that the sex is still meaningless.

4. He needs love in his life.

All people claim they want love in their lives — but not until you need it, are ready for it and are craving it, will you be ready to settle down.

It’s not until we feel we need true love — a kind of love that truly cares, nourishes, forgives and gives — will we be ready to dedicate our lives to another individual.

5. He wants to put your needs ahead of his own.

This is usually harder for men to do than women, and it’s not because they don’t wish they could put the needs of their partners ahead of their own. Instead, it’s because his ego and his upbringing make doing so incredibly difficult.

Women have it more difficult because society often dictates they be more “submissive” to the needs of others — women, men, parents, children, etc. Because women are inherently seen as givers, they’re often more mature, more realistic, more in touch with reality and less ego-driven.

There are plenty of men out there who wish they could put the needs of their partner ahead of their own, and although they sometimes manage to, in the end, their relationships fall apart.

When you truly understand the importance of being selfless in a relationship, you’re ready to take the plunge.

6. He’s already thinking about the prospect of having children.

Children aren’t for everybody — but it doesn’t mean all men want to be child-free.

Of course, you don’t need to be ready to have children before you decide to settle down with the person you love, but if you plan on having kids one day, you should be OK with contemplating such things.

Moreover, you should be all right with discussing it with the person you love.

7. He’s no longer lost.

A loving partner is not the answer. He or she is not the end-goal or the solution. If you don’t know yourself and don’t understand what you want from life, you aren’t ready to settle down.

You may feel like you are, but you aren’t. Too often, people believe finding someone to love will fix all their other problems. It seems realistic… until it doesn’t. A loving partner doesn’t immediately fix you.

Romantic love makes us forget about all our problems, but over time, they resurface, usually causing more problems. Do yourself a favor and fix yourself first.

8. He meets the right mate.

You can be ready for the works — marriage, children, waking up next to the same person day after day — but if you don’t have the right person to share it all with, “the works” seem unexciting. And depressing.

Meeting the right person isn’t easy. So, at the end of the day, when you do meet the person you want to spend your life with, you can be ready to settle as long as you decide to be.

I know how enticing it seems to stay single, meet and sleep with new people and have endless freedom, but if you decide to let go of the right person, don’t expect to find a replacement any time soon.

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Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday

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An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.

Why stay at an exotic resort

Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:

Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.

Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.

Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand

The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf
courses.

The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.

Kurumba, Maldives

Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.

You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.

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Healthcare Workers To Receive Coca-Cola-Funded PPEs From Nigerian Red Cross

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Since the outbreak of the Coronavirus disease in Nigeria, our healthcare workers have continued to lead the charge against the disease. As the number of recorded COVID-19 cases in Nigeria began to increase, these healthcare workers rose to the challenge and fought tirelessly to protect the lives of Nigerians impacted by the disease.

Considering the risks these healthcare workers face, there is a crucial need for adequate protective equipment for these brave frontline workers.

Coca-Cola is excited that over 400,000 Personal Protective Equipment (PPEs) procured to support the intervention efforts of the Nigerian Government and other key stakeholders to fight the COVID 19 pandemic have arrived. We do believe that this will to provide succor to our healthcare workers on the frontlines

These PPEs comprise N95 respirators, surgical masks, examination gloves, face shields, medical gowns, no-touch thermometers, disposable aprons, heavy-duty rubber gloves, rubber boots, basic masks, disposable gloves, and hand sanitizers.

Since the first confirmed case of the disease in Nigeria reported in February, over 800 healthcare workers have contracted the disease. While Nigerians are encouraged to stay home where possible and practice social distancing, these healthcare workers are needed across the country in the continued fight against the disease.

This donation forms part of The Coca-Cola Foundation’s COVID-19 relief interventions in Nigeria. The Coca-Cola Foundation has provided $2.5m in grant to IFRC who seeks to directly impact the lives of 1.4 million people in Nigeria and across other countries in West and Central Africa under this partnership.

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Taking Care of Tomorrow’s Leaders Today – The itel, Lagos Food Bank Example

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Waking up to a special meal or choice gift is the best feeling ever. Hundreds of children in Mushin, mainland Lagos, had a filling taste of this feeling for the October 1 st celebrations. It’s an experience they will remember for a long time.

Being one of the most responsible corporate citizens around, celebrating Independence Day was always going to be on the radar for itel Mobile. To make this possible and memorable, the brand got to work in earnest. The focus of the work was picking the best way to commemorate the 60th independence anniversary of the most populous black nation on earth.

The efforts soon paid off through an impact-driven partnership with the Lagos Food Bank Initiative. With the arrangement, both partners considered a couple of activities capable of affecting communities positively and bringing smiles to people’s faces in Lagos. At the end of the exercise, taking care of children, the leaders of tomorrow, in the commercial city secured the highest votes.

With the decision, itel Mobile set about making this happen. Not surprisingly, the decision was
influenced by giving children the means to excel and prepare them for leadership and nation-building, for them to enjoy better life. For the good of their immediate family, community and the Nigerian society.

Idiko, Mushin, a suburb of mainland Lagos, was chosen as the benefiting community. And the partners strategically reached out to the beneficiaries, children and families, with gifts of love, care, happiness and support made possible by the itel Love Always On CSR initiative.

Over 1,000 families benefited from the gesture as well as 600 children, and each one of them received food packages to celebrate Nigeria’s 60 th Independence Day commemoration.

Speaking on the event and itel’s Love Always On CSR Initiative, Oke Umurhohwo, itel’s Marketing Manager said, ‘We wanted to mark this year’s Independence Day celebrations differently, and that is why we did something so momentous for our children. Children are the backbone of any longstanding community, and as such, we are proud to be able to give back and support them on their journey as leaders of tomorrow and for a better life.’

To meet the demands of the memorable event, 30 volunteers joined the customer-centric brand and the Lagos-based NGO to share smiles, and to convey just how important it is to love and take care of today’s children who will ultimately become leaders of tomorrow.

With the thoughtful activity, there are insights for everyone, from the government to citizens, on partnerships that are capable of making life better for children. Indeed, itel Mobile and the Lagos Food Bank Initiative have offered a great template on bringing this to reality.

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