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7 Important Things Engaged Couples Should Discuss Before Marriage

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9-solid-relationshipWe all know the basic things that every engaged couple talks about before marriage, like finance, family planning, religion, hobbies, likes and dislikes, etc. It is always better to know each other’s point of view on these basic topics before you decide to tie the knot.
However, in today’s time, there are a few lesser-explored topics that we feel, a to-be wed couple should talk about. Though they may seem small, they do have the potential to become troublemakers in a marriage. Therefore, we thought it is more important to cover these points that are silent killers in a relationship, and make you aware of them.

#1. Where do you want to settle down?
There might be several questions on your mind before you marry your partner, and one such is your place of living after marriage. This one goes out especially for couples who might not live with their family, or for the ladies, who might not feel comfortable staying with their in-laws.

Ladies, if you have any apprehensions about staying with your in-laws after marriage, we suggest you to discuss this topic with your partner beforehand.
Well, for the couple who might decide to live away from their parent’s home, here are a few things you must talk about. How will you go about choosing the right location? Will it be decided, by keeping the husband’s workplace location in mind, or the wife’s? Do you want to rent a house or purchase one yourself?

Like these, hundreds of questions might pop up in your mind when you think about settling down. Therefore, have a thorough discussion about it before your wedding and make sure that both of you are on the same page.

#2. What if one of you gets transferred?
It is a very likely scenario in today’s world where one partner might get transferred to a different city or country. Well, if either of you are in a transferrable job, it is important to consider this point before marriage.

If such a scenario arises wherein one of you gets transferred, will your spouse accompany you to the new location, or will you consider passing up on the offer? Also, will your spouse consider taking a transfer (if their office allows), or will they look for a new job? Or, will your partner be willing to give up their career and move with you?

If your partner is not ready to move to a new place, then are you ready to step into a long-distance relationship and make it work? Many such parameters will come into play when you work these questions out, so deal with them well before you get married.

#3. Handling adverse situations
May you never have to see that day, but life is full of unexpected twists and turns, and not all of them have positive outcomes. Adverse situations, such as bankruptcy, sudden death in family, losing your job, etc., are a few of the road bumps for which you two need to prepare well in advance for a smooth journey ahead.
A healthy and thorough discussion on who will bear the expense if any of you lose your job is very important. Also, make it a point to discuss on topics related to financial planning and savings. Amount of saving, as well as, mode of saving (like, investing on property, gold or mutual funds) should also be discussed, beforehand.

#4. Division of household responsibilities
In today’s time when both the partners are working, leaving the responsibility of the household chores on the wife is a little impractical. Thus, a couple must share the responsibilities and talk about division of the same prior to the marriage.

You need to decide upon things such as, cooking, cleaning, doing the dishes, etc., beforehand to avoid false expectations in the future.

#5. Discussing your past
Well, now that you have decided to enter the institution of marriage, it is better to clear your mind of any past incidence(s) that might have an impact on your future. We all know the famous idiom ‘let bygones be bygones’. However, if there is any significant event from your past, which might have an impact on your future, then it is better to reveal it to your partner, before he/she learns it from some other source.

Whether it is about past relationships, family history, medical history, or any other significant experiences of your life, talk to your partner about them. These things will help to form a solid base for your future.

#6. Children and their upbringing
Most couples discuss the correct time to have children and how many kids they want, but inclusion of another important topic to this discussion is also necessary. We are talking about, discussing the parenting style you two wish to adopt when it comes to your child’s upbringing.

What are your personal views on parenting? And, what is your would-be’s point of view? Who will take care of the children in case both of you are working? Also, what are your views on day-care, schooling, and things like that?

#7. Involvement of your parents in marriage
In Indian marriages, parents play a major role and are often the ones who are involved from top-to-toe in a couple’s life. However, sometimes the over-involvement of one’s parents might not go down well with the other partner or their family and it can become a cause of concern.

Sometimes people attribute the over involvement of parents (theirs or their partner’s) as one of the main reasons for marital discord. Therefore, it is better if you can have a thorough and straight discussion about the roles and the degree of involvement of your respective parents in your marriage.

Thus, a healthy discussion on these crucial topics will help you get an insight on your partners’ perspective on marriage. Going forward, it will also help to sort out your difference of opinions and set a fair level of expectations from each other.

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Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday

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An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.

Why stay at an exotic resort

Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:

Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.

Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.

Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand

The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf
courses.

The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.

Kurumba, Maldives

Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.

You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.

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Healthcare Workers To Receive Coca-Cola-Funded PPEs From Nigerian Red Cross

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Since the outbreak of the Coronavirus disease in Nigeria, our healthcare workers have continued to lead the charge against the disease. As the number of recorded COVID-19 cases in Nigeria began to increase, these healthcare workers rose to the challenge and fought tirelessly to protect the lives of Nigerians impacted by the disease.

Considering the risks these healthcare workers face, there is a crucial need for adequate protective equipment for these brave frontline workers.

Coca-Cola is excited that over 400,000 Personal Protective Equipment (PPEs) procured to support the intervention efforts of the Nigerian Government and other key stakeholders to fight the COVID 19 pandemic have arrived. We do believe that this will to provide succor to our healthcare workers on the frontlines

These PPEs comprise N95 respirators, surgical masks, examination gloves, face shields, medical gowns, no-touch thermometers, disposable aprons, heavy-duty rubber gloves, rubber boots, basic masks, disposable gloves, and hand sanitizers.

Since the first confirmed case of the disease in Nigeria reported in February, over 800 healthcare workers have contracted the disease. While Nigerians are encouraged to stay home where possible and practice social distancing, these healthcare workers are needed across the country in the continued fight against the disease.

This donation forms part of The Coca-Cola Foundation’s COVID-19 relief interventions in Nigeria. The Coca-Cola Foundation has provided $2.5m in grant to IFRC who seeks to directly impact the lives of 1.4 million people in Nigeria and across other countries in West and Central Africa under this partnership.

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Taking Care of Tomorrow’s Leaders Today – The itel, Lagos Food Bank Example

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Waking up to a special meal or choice gift is the best feeling ever. Hundreds of children in Mushin, mainland Lagos, had a filling taste of this feeling for the October 1 st celebrations. It’s an experience they will remember for a long time.

Being one of the most responsible corporate citizens around, celebrating Independence Day was always going to be on the radar for itel Mobile. To make this possible and memorable, the brand got to work in earnest. The focus of the work was picking the best way to commemorate the 60th independence anniversary of the most populous black nation on earth.

The efforts soon paid off through an impact-driven partnership with the Lagos Food Bank Initiative. With the arrangement, both partners considered a couple of activities capable of affecting communities positively and bringing smiles to people’s faces in Lagos. At the end of the exercise, taking care of children, the leaders of tomorrow, in the commercial city secured the highest votes.

With the decision, itel Mobile set about making this happen. Not surprisingly, the decision was
influenced by giving children the means to excel and prepare them for leadership and nation-building, for them to enjoy better life. For the good of their immediate family, community and the Nigerian society.

Idiko, Mushin, a suburb of mainland Lagos, was chosen as the benefiting community. And the partners strategically reached out to the beneficiaries, children and families, with gifts of love, care, happiness and support made possible by the itel Love Always On CSR initiative.

Over 1,000 families benefited from the gesture as well as 600 children, and each one of them received food packages to celebrate Nigeria’s 60 th Independence Day commemoration.

Speaking on the event and itel’s Love Always On CSR Initiative, Oke Umurhohwo, itel’s Marketing Manager said, ‘We wanted to mark this year’s Independence Day celebrations differently, and that is why we did something so momentous for our children. Children are the backbone of any longstanding community, and as such, we are proud to be able to give back and support them on their journey as leaders of tomorrow and for a better life.’

To meet the demands of the memorable event, 30 volunteers joined the customer-centric brand and the Lagos-based NGO to share smiles, and to convey just how important it is to love and take care of today’s children who will ultimately become leaders of tomorrow.

With the thoughtful activity, there are insights for everyone, from the government to citizens, on partnerships that are capable of making life better for children. Indeed, itel Mobile and the Lagos Food Bank Initiative have offered a great template on bringing this to reality.

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