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5 Reasons You’re Drawn To Toxic People And Don’t Realize It



reachforyou.edit_There are likely many kind, good-hearted people in your life who wish you well. Sometimes your needs may clash with theirs, or they might be under stress or simply having a bad day, or they may just have an honest disagreement with you, that doesn’t make them toxic. There are, however, people who are toxic. Those people should be avoided, if possible.

What does toxic behaviour look like?

Toxic people consistently engage in these bad behaviours:

Constantly controls or intimidates.
Lies with impunity.
Perpetual victims, who are always trying to make you feel sorry for them.
Generate almost constant chaos.
Always negative or who constantly gossips.
Call you names, shout at you, or are mean to you either in private or in front of others.
How do you know when you’re in a toxic relationship?

The easiest way to identify a toxic relationship is to be aware of your feelings about the other person. A good relationship is one where you look forward to spending time with someone else. If you always feel angry, frustrated or even depressed when you’re around this person, that relationship is a toxic one for you.

5 reasons you’re attracted to people who are toxic and don’t realize it

Some people find themselves in toxic relationships with family, friends, or coworkers and don’t see it coming. Why does that happen, and what can you do about it?

1. You are in a vulnerable time and place in your life

Perhaps you’ve recently moved to a new area, and you’re trying to adjust. Maybe you’ve lost your job, or a close friend or family member. During these very vulnerable moments, you may be drawn to anyone who is nice to you or who shows you compassion. Toxic people can often be quite charming, at least in the beginning. When you’re at a vulnerable point in your life, spend time with people you already trust.

2. Someone tells you what you want to hear, and you believe them

There may be something you want to do that in your heart you know is inadvisable. Or perhaps objective data suggests that you should act otherwise. Your ego has gotten in the way. So you find someone who will agree with you. People who encourage you to act in ways that are not good for you in the long run, are not people you want in your life.

3. You are so anxious to be in a relationship that you are willing to put up with one that’s one sided.

Ask yourself why this person means so much to you. Why are you the one who’s always giving, and he is the one who is always taking? A good relationship should be mutually beneficial and never one sided. Both people’s needs deserve to be met.

4. You don’t recognize the untrustworthy

Some people simply cannot be trusted. They tinker with the truth when it is in their best interest, and sometimes even when it doesn’t matter. They don’t think that lying to you or anyone else is a problem. A sense of personal integrity is lacking. Run, don’t walk, away from people who distort or stretch the truth. Make sure you know them long enough to find out if what they’re telling you is true.

5. You are an eternal optimist or you like to fix others

What’s wrong with being an eternal optimist? Usually nothing, unless the situation doesn’t call for optimism. When you tolerate intolerable behavior for too long, in the hopes that it will change, even though months or even years of bad behavior suggest otherwise, that’s unfounded optimism. Listen to the voice inside you. And if you are in the habit of thinking you can fix toxic others, stop. It’s not your job.

What if you can’t avoid being in a toxic relationship?

Sometimes you are in a toxic relationship that you can’t avoid. This person may need to be in your life for one reason or another. What do you do then? The most important thing you can do is to be aware of your feelings, so you can manage your response appropriately. Take a step back and don’t get drawn into someone else’s drama Set appropriate boundaries.


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Avoid These Nigerians Food To Burn Stubborn Belly Fat (Video)



Being overweight or obese can be detrimental to your health. It is not advisable to have excess fat in the abdominal cavity because it can lead to some health issues. Getting your dream body will not be easy and you need to make some sacrifices to your diet. You will also need to turn a blind eye to some fatty foods.

If you’re ready to get rid of the belly fat, then stay put as Information Nigeria brings you some important tips that will help.

1. Avoid sugar and carbonated drinks

Did you know that consuming sugary substances like coke, fanta can lead to weight gain and a number of health problems like high blood pressure?. This is due to the high fructose content found in added sugars. Taking sugar-filled drinks may slow your metabolism and this in turn can make it harder for your body to burn fat. Fructose can only be metabolized by your liver. When you consume too much, you push your liver to its limit and it becomes overloaded, then it turns the fructose into fat and it ends up getting stored in your belly. To avoid putting yourself from risk, you should cut back on foods and drinks that contain huge amounts of sugar.


2. You also have to forgo junk foods like meat pie, cakes, rolls, candies, burgers, ice cream and cookies. You also need to do away with heavy foods like eba, akpu, pounded yam, rice among others. Switch up your eating habits and opt for a more balanced-diet if you want to burn your belly fat. Avoid consuming refined carbs like bread, pizza, potation chips etc. You should also stay away from processed and heavy foods because they contribute to stubborn belly fat. You should choose to eat proteinous foods like fish, eggs, and milk. starch contains fat, sugar and salt. They help a person feel fuller so you don’t end up looking for something to munch on after eating. It basically keeps hunger at bay.

3. Eat the right amount of fruits, vegetables, fibrous foods and whole grains – You can add vegetables, fruits and whole grains to your weight loss diet. They provide essential vitamins, minerals, fiber and other substances that are good for your body. Examples of fibre rich foods include; beans, broccoli, avocados, apples, oatmeal brown rice and whole grain bread.

4. Try to incorporate exercise into your daily or weekly routine – Exercise helps to speed up your metabolism and helps you shed weight. The bitter truth is that wearing just waist trainers and staying put in one position will not make you lose that stubborn belly fat. You should hit the gym.

5 Reduce alcohol intake – Excess intake of alcohol also leads to a host of health problems especially the build-up of fat in the belly area. Have you ever noticed that those who drink alcohol, especially men, often develop ‘pot-bellies’. Alcoholic drinks like beer provide your body with calories and very little nutrients. It can also increase your appetite. Replace the alcoholic drinks with water or alternate with low calorie, non-alcoholic beverages. Too much alcohol can cause liver damage and other serious health problems.

6. Try out apple cider vinegar – Apple cider vinegar is made in a two-step fermentation process. It is obtained from apples that have been crushed, distilled and fermented. Acetic acid is the main active component of apple cider vinegar. It is safe for consumption in small quantities and can be taken as a supplement. Do not also consume it straight from the bottle or in its pure form. Add 1 to 2 tablespoons to water before you drink. You can also add honey or lemon. It is best to drink it before your meals. Research shows it has many health benefits, such as lowering blood sugar levels.

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Williams Uchemba And His Wife Exchange Wedding Vows In Lagos (Video)



Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Popular Nigerian actor, Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar have officially solemnized their union.

The couple finally exchanged their wedding vows at Dominion city church in Lagos state.

The beautiful wedding ceremony was reportedly officiated by the founder of the church, Dr. David Chukwudi Ogbueli alias Papa Eagle.

Celebrities, fans and well-wishers poured in congratulatory message for the couple after photos and videos from the ceremony hit the internet.

The actor wore a sleek tuxedo, while his bride,  wore a lovely white gown.

Read Also:Actor Williams Uchemba Set To Walk Down The Aisle With Mystery Woman

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Actor, Model, Comedian, Philanthropist… Meet The Latest Groom, Williams Uchemba



Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba, who was born on October 22, is an actor, motivational speaker, model, comedian, entrepreneur and philanthropist. The Abia-born thespian graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree in International Relation from the University of Nigeria, Nsukka in Enugu State.

Uchemba began his career in the early 2000s as a child actor and came into the limelight in 2001 after appearing in the Nollywood blockbuster movie, “The Journey of the Dead” along with Olu Jacobs, Ramsey Noah, and Pete Edochie.

Since then, the multi-talented actor never looked back as he has gone ahead to feature in more blockbuster movies like Sugar Rush (2019), Merry Men 2(2019) and Story Story: The African Rideshare (2018). He is the recipient of several awards.

The actor adopted an 18-year-old furniture maker in June and he promised to sponsor his education. He recently got married to his longtime girlfriend, Brunella Oscar at her hometown, Alor in Anambra state. The actor’s wife, Brunella opened up on their love story with Wedding Digest Naija and she disclosed that she made the first move. According to the English trained medical doctor, they both met on Facebook after she sent him a message.


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