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Must Read – What You Should Do About Marital Doubts

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reachforyou.edit_I always wanted to get married. When I was a child I would look through wedding magazines my mom brought home from her job (she worked in a hotel). I would flip through those magazines imagining what my dress would look like, what colors I would choose, and how many bridesmaids I would have. I also pictured marrying this great guy and having four kids.

Yes, marriage has been a part of my plan for years.

Now, more than two decades later, I find myself married to a wonderful man and we have two healthy, beautiful kids. We’ve been blessed and I don’t take it for granted. I come from generations of unmarried women so I had no clue what I was doing when I took this plunge. Six years later, we are still happy together, and we’ve done pretty well. We are figuring things out along the way.

I find that a common question people have is, How do I know if the person I am dating is the one? or Should I even marry this person—or anyone, really?. They are tough questions because the answer is really a combination of life experiences, personal values, observations, and your gut.

How do you know if you married the right person or if marriage was the right choice for you?

It’s really a matter of open communication and honesty. In a relationship, people are often concerned about hurting the other person, but sometimes that protective approach just ends up causing everyone involved more pain. To really assess if your union is going to work, you have to be willing to talk candidly about how you feel. Without that honesty, you will never be able to determine what’s really going on in your marriage and with you on a personal level.

If you feel like your marriage is in a bad place, does it mean you married the wrong person or that marriage isn’t for you?

Not necessarily. You can be with the right person, but you both are doing the wrong things. You can be with the right person, while holding on to some ugly pain from your past. You can be with the right person, while keeping all of your emotions bottled up. You can be with the right person, but giving very little of yourself to them because vulnerability scares the mess out of you. You can even be with the right person, but you aren’t ready to receive the blessing because of your own “stuff” that you haven’t worked through.

Is it possible that you married wrong or that marriage is the wrong choice for you right now?

Sure it is. But to know that for sure, you have to be so honest with yourself that it hurts. You have to ask yourself where the doubt is coming from. Does your spouse mistreat you? Are they disrespectful? Do you rarely feel joy when you are with them? Were you ever in love with them? Do you know deep down that you married them for reasons that once made sense but now feel unsettling? The answers to these questions may hurt you, and they may ultimately hurt your spouse, but to get to the root of the problem and determine if your marriage can be saved or if it should be dissolved, you have to ask and answer the right questions.

When I think about why I got married, I have to consider two things. Why did I ever want to get married to anyone and why did I choose to get married to the particular man I made that commitment to. I feel like I made the right decision because the answers to those questions sit well with my soul.

Ultimately, no one can really tell you if you married the right person or not. Only you know the answer to that. And whether you believe it or not, you do know the answer. Don’t ignore that unsettling feeling in your gut. It’s there for a reason. Consider counseling or therapy to help you communicate and address what’s going on. This can help you get your answers and begin to live the life you truly deserve.

source: blackandmarriedwithkids.com

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Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post

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Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post
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Nigerian actress, Osas Ighodaro penned an emotional note via Instagram as she clocked 30-years-old on Monday.

To mark her birthday, the single mother of one posted a monochrome photo of herself as she wished for people to continue praying for those who lost their lives during these turbulent period.

Ighodaro wrote;

“Thank God for another year. Happy Birthday to me. If you know me, you know I absolutely love birthdays but this year it certainly hits different. I’m overwhelming grateful for life and thankful to God to be able to see another birthday bc unfortunately many haven’t and won’t have that opportunity.

I am hopeful for better days for myself, those that I love and hold dear and most certainly for my country Nigeria. I pray for unity, peace, harmony and togetherness. We all deserve it.

My birthday wish is to please continue to pray for those innocent lives lost. Please remain hopeful and focused because I truly believe better days are soon ahead by God’s grace.

Peace, Love and Blessings.”

See her post below:

The actress’ post

The actress’ post

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Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday

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An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.

Why stay at an exotic resort

Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:

Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.

Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.

Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand

The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf
courses.

The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.

Kurumba, Maldives

Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.

You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.

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Healthcare Workers To Receive Coca-Cola-Funded PPEs From Nigerian Red Cross

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Since the outbreak of the Coronavirus disease in Nigeria, our healthcare workers have continued to lead the charge against the disease. As the number of recorded COVID-19 cases in Nigeria began to increase, these healthcare workers rose to the challenge and fought tirelessly to protect the lives of Nigerians impacted by the disease.

Considering the risks these healthcare workers face, there is a crucial need for adequate protective equipment for these brave frontline workers.

Coca-Cola is excited that over 400,000 Personal Protective Equipment (PPEs) procured to support the intervention efforts of the Nigerian Government and other key stakeholders to fight the COVID 19 pandemic have arrived. We do believe that this will to provide succor to our healthcare workers on the frontlines

These PPEs comprise N95 respirators, surgical masks, examination gloves, face shields, medical gowns, no-touch thermometers, disposable aprons, heavy-duty rubber gloves, rubber boots, basic masks, disposable gloves, and hand sanitizers.

Since the first confirmed case of the disease in Nigeria reported in February, over 800 healthcare workers have contracted the disease. While Nigerians are encouraged to stay home where possible and practice social distancing, these healthcare workers are needed across the country in the continued fight against the disease.

This donation forms part of The Coca-Cola Foundation’s COVID-19 relief interventions in Nigeria. The Coca-Cola Foundation has provided $2.5m in grant to IFRC who seeks to directly impact the lives of 1.4 million people in Nigeria and across other countries in West and Central Africa under this partnership.

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