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3 Big Reasons Why He Won’t Put A Ring On It.

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Ring-on-it-520x260Is it just me, or does it seem like no one wants to date anymore?

Flirtationships have replaced relationships. People are hanging out instead of going out, texting instead of calling and meeting up instead of courting. The definition of dating has definitely shifted and I’m on a mission to figure out why so I can help you enjoy the dating process again.

It’s hard to get him to put a ring on it if no one wants to put a label on it first!

There are three big reasons why I believe our society just doesn’t date anymore.

First, there doesn’t seem to be a modern day definition of dating that everyone can agree to.

There are no real rites of passage for courtship and no one saying when it should begin, what the stages look like and what the end game is.

For example, when I listen to the love stories of my parents who have been married for 37 years and my in-laws who just celebrated 44 years of marriage, I notice a HUGE difference between how couples met, how relationships began and how they progressed into marriage back then and how we go about it now.

Now you have men wanting to get exclusive by date three and therefore no longer feel the need to impress a woman, or even take her out of the house.

Or, you’ll have a couple who is hanging out for three months, and when the topic of commitment comes up, the man says, “Oh, I like you but I’m not looking for a relationship.”

I’ve also heard from both men and women who were unsure about their purpose for dating. Some women recently told me they don’t want to EVER get married for fear of losing their independence. They just want a man who will hold them at night and keep them company during the day.

While the first problem is about how we define dating, the second problem has to do with how we meet and connect.

Online dating has made us more connected than ever! Millions of singles turn to the internet to find love. However, just because there are a lot of folks online, doesn’t mean there’s a lot of dating going on.

We’re revealing more about our private lives to perfect strangers on the internet, but we also distrust people too! Many of my clients don’t want to go on blind dates anymore. They’d rather Google a person first. I can’t say I blame them, though. People lie on their profiles, send offensive emails and make snap judgments about each other based on a picture! Where’s the romance in that?!

We’ve lost touch with how to communicate in authentic ways that create attraction, build trust and foster respect.

No wonder people are giving up on love! Men and women both tell me they’d rather stay alone instead of wasting time and energy on the games people play. It’s just too much work, they say. Dating is outdated.

But there’s a greater problem that really scares me. By opting out of dating, you’ve given up your hope and your faith in love!

Call me old-fashioned, but I believe in walks in the park, ice cream dates, romantic dinners, giving gifts, writing poems and singing songs. I believe in going out of your way to get dressed up, make a connection and explore the possibilities of the future together. I believe in love.

After all, how can you build strong relationships and enduring marriages if you can’t even figure out how to get it started?

Source: Blackandmarriedwithkids.com

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‘I Tested Positive To HIV After Gang Raped By 3 Men – Chef Ayomide

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‘I Tested Positive To HIV After Being Gang Raped By 3 Men For Being Gay’ – Chef Ayomide
Ayomide and his lover

Ayomide and his lover

Nigerian chef, Ayomide Idowu, who is also a male rape survivor, has taken to his Instagram page to tell his story.

The openly gay young man recalled how he was allegedly gang raped by 3 hoodlums at the age of 19 because of his sexuality and how he eventually contracted HIV.

Ayomide revealed his life never remained the same as he was also arrested and victimized by the police.

In his words;

“I could remember last 5years ago
What I pass through from 3 hoodlums
I was thoroughly beaten and gang-raped
All because I’m Gay…they took advantage of me
I was 19years old boy then, I suffered humiliation
Arbitrary arrest from police,inhuman degrading treatment,I lost my precious Home at the age of 19years..no parents no family…it really hurts to be an orphan….after I lost my virginity from the raped….having unprotected sex from those hoodlums I WAS TESTED POSITIVE….being positive my mood changed…I started my medication and think less…I stay away from smoking and alcohol…I eat Good fruits and vegetables…thanks to God I’m a testifier now
I’m undetectable my CD4 850 viral load 10
It really worth testimony 🙏🤦im looking healthy and stunning…being HIV positive is not the end of life…it reveals the other side of you…my aims of sharing my life threatening story as an orphan,so that people can learn from this…. 5years living positively”

Read Also: GAYS are one of the most influential & successful people in Nigeria — Chef Ayomide

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The gay activist’s post

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Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post

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Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post
Osas Ighodaro

Osas Ighodaro

Nigerian actress, Osas Ighodaro penned an emotional note via Instagram as she clocked 30-years-old on Monday.

To mark her birthday, the single mother of one posted a monochrome photo of herself as she wished for people to continue praying for those who lost their lives during these turbulent period.

Ighodaro wrote;

“Thank God for another year. Happy Birthday to me. If you know me, you know I absolutely love birthdays but this year it certainly hits different. I’m overwhelming grateful for life and thankful to God to be able to see another birthday bc unfortunately many haven’t and won’t have that opportunity.

I am hopeful for better days for myself, those that I love and hold dear and most certainly for my country Nigeria. I pray for unity, peace, harmony and togetherness. We all deserve it.

My birthday wish is to please continue to pray for those innocent lives lost. Please remain hopeful and focused because I truly believe better days are soon ahead by God’s grace.

Peace, Love and Blessings.”

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The actress’ post

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Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday

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An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.

Why stay at an exotic resort

Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:

Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.

Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.

Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand

The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf
courses.

The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.

Kurumba, Maldives

Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.

You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.

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