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3 Things to Look for in a Family Man




“Be a man for your family.”

That is what my dad told me the day of my wedding. That was great advice. The only problem was I didn’t know what that truly meant, or better yet, what being a man for my family looked like.

When I first began blogging a couple years ago, I thought it’d be a great way to share the struggles I was going through in the most important relationships in my life to help me deal with those struggles better. I wasn’t very good at being a man for my family. My marriage almost didn’t last the first year, and like many dads, I was clueless about the whole fatherhood thing.

My hope was that I’d learn, through sharing my experiences in my writing, how to better love my wife and lead my kids. I also believed this would help other men who were struggling with the same things. To say I’ve learned a lot is an understatement.

I’ve learned about myself, my wife, my kids, and other men who desire the same things for their family. Below are 3 things that have helped me get better at being a man for my family. It’s my hope that these things will help all men do the same.

1. You want a man who gives

One of the biggest problems in our relationship when we first got married was selfishness. I had the wrong idea about what marriage was really about. I had pretty much gotten what I wanted when I wanted it up to that point, and I thought marriage would be more of the same.

Nope. I had to give as much, if not more, than I was receiving in our marriage. As a “taker” our relationship was dying. Once I realized this and got intentional about being a giver, things began to change.

2. You want a man who encourages

This is a rule for relationships in general. Think of the relationships you’ve had, or still have, where the other person is discouraging. Talk about the life being sucked out. Discouraging people are draining.

I didn’t realize initially how much of a difference it made in our marriage. There were times I was discouraging and didn’t know it. Those were bad times. Then there were times where I was or said the encouragement she needed to hear. Those times were good.

This quote by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe sums it up: “The way you treat people is what they become.” When I encouraged my wife with words and actions, she lived up to it and returned the favor to me.

3. You want a man who teaches

I’m not talking about a sixth-grade math teacher. I’m talking about a man who seeks to learn from his successes, failures, and the successes and failures of others — then applies them. He first applies them to his life, then he begins to share them with you, your kids, and the other important people in your lives.

This is a man with goals, dreams, and a desire to always be a better husband for you and a better father for your kids. My writing can be considered teaching, but the lessons I’ve learned from preparing to teach and from paying more attention to how things are going have been invaluable.

Ultimately, being a man for your family is rooted in giving, encouraging, and teaching. Fellas, if your relationship is struggling, you should start by creating a foundation based on those three things. Ladies, this is where you should start when considering what you want in a man. When it’s there, your relationship will have the pieces it needs to be fulfilling and lasting.



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Nigerian & Jamaica Celebrates 50 Years Of Diplomatic Relations With Direct Flights to Jamaica



As the festive season approaches, travel enthusiasts and lovers of fun, relaxation or  adventure, will have a chance to create history, by being part of the first direct charter flights from Lagos, Nigeria to Montego Bay, Jamaica. The flights are in celebration of 50 years of diplomatic relations between Nigeria and Jamaica. Both countries have worked hard to promote culture, education, industrial and economic development, at different levels.

The first flight will leave Lagos on 21 December and return on 28 December 2020. A second rotation will take place from 30 December to 6 January 2021. Each flight will last for just over 11 hours and relieves the traveler of the stress of securing transit visas via Europe or the US and the uncertainties associated with multiple connections.

The flights are being coordinated by the Jamaican High Commission in Abuja and Nigerians Travel Too, a leading tour operator based in Lagos and the UK. They are also a reflection of the creative fusion of the Nigerian and Jamaican history and culture, which both partners have dubbed the Nai-Jamaica Project. A dedicated website has been launched, to showcase the range of travel and business opportunities that are available.

In tandem with the upcoming flights, handcrafted holiday experiences and multiple travel packages have been designed with each visitor in mind. The main items covered include: flight tickets, accommodation, airport transfers, tours and meals among others. [Participating tour operators are also offering free visa processing and support].

Nigeria’s trusted international carrier, Air Peace, will facilitate each trip with its elegant Boeing 777-300ER aircraft. Passengers will be able to travel in style and comfort across the First, Business and Economy Class cabins that are on offer at unbeatable rates.

Jamaica’s High Commissioner to Nigeria, HE Esmond Reid, has hailed the direct flights as, “An historic and unique opportunity, as part of our 50th anniversary celebrations, to reconnect with family and friends from Nigeria, Jamaica, the Caribbean and other parts of the world, in a world class tourist destination”.

Jamaica has won many international travel and tourism awards and has developed special COVID-19 protocols for the tourism sector. These are designed to protect and enhance the tourism experience for visitors and workers in the industry, in the face of the global pandemic.

Widely recognized as the “heartbeat of the world” and the land of Reggae Music, Jamaica is home to various tourist attractions and cultural icons such as Bob Marley, Marcus Garvey and Usain Bolt.

Visitors can never get enough of the opportunities for rafting, diving, golf, tennis, fishing, nature walks or horseback riding, among other exciting activities that are available in Jamaica. Places like the Abeokuta Nature Park and the Calabar High School also add special significance for visitors from Nigeria.

There will be nowhere else like Jamaica this Christmas and New Year. You can’t afford to miss this awesome Nai-jamaica experience!!!

Tickets are selling like hot cakes. Bookings will close on 20 November to guarantee visa processing, so don’t delay.

For more information on travel, tours and packages visit:
IG; @nigerianstraveltoo

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‘I Tested Positive To HIV After Gang Raped By 3 Men – Chef Ayomide



‘I Tested Positive To HIV After Being Gang Raped By 3 Men For Being Gay’ – Chef Ayomide
Ayomide and his lover

Ayomide and his lover

Nigerian chef, Ayomide Idowu, who is also a male rape survivor, has taken to his Instagram page to tell his story.

The openly gay young man recalled how he was allegedly gang raped by 3 hoodlums at the age of 19 because of his sexuality and how he eventually contracted HIV.

Ayomide revealed his life never remained the same as he was also arrested and victimized by the police.

In his words;

“I could remember last 5years ago
What I pass through from 3 hoodlums
I was thoroughly beaten and gang-raped
All because I’m Gay…they took advantage of me
I was 19years old boy then, I suffered humiliation
Arbitrary arrest from police,inhuman degrading treatment,I lost my precious Home at the age of parents no family…it really hurts to be an orphan….after I lost my virginity from the raped….having unprotected sex from those hoodlums I WAS TESTED POSITIVE….being positive my mood changed…I started my medication and think less…I stay away from smoking and alcohol…I eat Good fruits and vegetables…thanks to God I’m a testifier now
I’m undetectable my CD4 850 viral load 10
It really worth testimony 🙏🤦im looking healthy and stunning…being HIV positive is not the end of life…it reveals the other side of you…my aims of sharing my life threatening story as an orphan,so that people can learn from this…. 5years living positively”

Read Also: GAYS are one of the most influential & successful people in Nigeria — Chef Ayomide

See his post below:

The gay activist’s post

The gay activist’s post

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Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post



Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post
Osas Ighodaro

Osas Ighodaro

Nigerian actress, Osas Ighodaro penned an emotional note via Instagram as she clocked 30-years-old on Monday.

To mark her birthday, the single mother of one posted a monochrome photo of herself as she wished for people to continue praying for those who lost their lives during these turbulent period.

Ighodaro wrote;

“Thank God for another year. Happy Birthday to me. If you know me, you know I absolutely love birthdays but this year it certainly hits different. I’m overwhelming grateful for life and thankful to God to be able to see another birthday bc unfortunately many haven’t and won’t have that opportunity.

I am hopeful for better days for myself, those that I love and hold dear and most certainly for my country Nigeria. I pray for unity, peace, harmony and togetherness. We all deserve it.

My birthday wish is to please continue to pray for those innocent lives lost. Please remain hopeful and focused because I truly believe better days are soon ahead by God’s grace.

Peace, Love and Blessings.”

See her post below:

The actress’ post

The actress’ post

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