Breaking News: He is into you! He just doesn’t have the balls to admit it.
With all the analyzing women (regardless of age) do about every single move a man does, oftentimes, gutlessness is miscalculated. They are misconstrued as being an insensitive arse or just downright apathetic. Most likely, he’s neither. Chances are, he’s just really, really shy.
Brian G. Gilmartin (Psychology professor) coined a term for this unfortunate hindrance to a would-be good relationship: Love-Shyness. Simply put, the person’s too shy to allow himself/herself to have an intimate relationship (a date even) with another.
It affects 60 million people worldwide. The digit is miniscule given the fact that there are billions of souls roaming the earth, but if one of them is your man, then in your eyes, this number is massive.
Okay, let us ask you first this question before we go any further: Do you want him?
If your answer is a resounding “yes!” then take him. Here’s how:
Change your The-World-Owes-Me attitude
Stop being too much of a ‘taker’. Many often say that if someone truly likes you, he will move heaven and earth to be with you. Here’s the reality: we are born different. A few can be like that, but not all. He has things to do to live aside from laying his world at your feet, y’know?
Doing one’s best is highly subjective. Your definition of best is him flying 20,000 miles just to give you a bouquet of peonies tied with silk and peppered with glitters. To him, ‘best’ is saying hi without turning beet red and stuttering.
See the difference?
Don’t be aggressive
Yes, we said that you should take him but you have to do it. Men who are timid value subtlety. Let him know that you like him by using the art of finesse. Avoid being touchy-feely unless you see signs that he’s okay with it. Start by ‘accidentally’ brushing his hand with yours or touch his forearm while pretending to stabilize your stance. Basically, you just don’t want to freak him out. If you feel that he’s too scared to ask you for another date, make your move. “Oh, you like going to museums too? There’s a new installation at MoMa. Do you want to criticize it with me this Friday?”
Keep it light
Don’t delve into the heavy. Keep your conversations light and cheerful. Ask him about his day or the things he likes. Make him open up to you. Once he becomes more comfortable, start injecting personal questions.
Really listen. Most often than not, these types of men are more sincere than the confident ones. The latter are experts in getting a woman’s attention by saying things that she wants to hear. The former, given their low self-esteem and little love for verbosity, will only utter what is necessary and true. Also, pay attention to his stories and let him know the next time you see him that you remember what he said.
Give him compliments that come from the heart. Saying thank you is good, but being specific is much better. For example, if you like where he took you for dinner, tell him why you like the place and what made your first date special. This is also one way for him to get to know the type of things you prefer without him asking for it.
Don’t easily dismiss shy guys. It is not a disease that needs to be cured. There’s more to them than meets the eye. Susan Cain (author of Quiet) said it best: “I worry that there are people who are put in positions of authority because they’re good talkers, but they don’t have good ideas. It’s so easy to confuse schmoozing ability with talent. Someone seems like a good presenter, easy to get along with, and those traits are rewarded. Well, why is that? They’re valuable traits, but we put too much of a premium on presenting and not enough on substance and critical thinking.”
Now, translate everything in the world of dating. See?
Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post
Nigerian actress, Osas Ighodaro penned an emotional note via Instagram as she clocked 30-years-old on Monday.
To mark her birthday, the single mother of one posted a monochrome photo of herself as she wished for people to continue praying for those who lost their lives during these turbulent period.
“Thank God for another year. Happy Birthday to me. If you know me, you know I absolutely love birthdays but this year it certainly hits different. I’m overwhelming grateful for life and thankful to God to be able to see another birthday bc unfortunately many haven’t and won’t have that opportunity.
I am hopeful for better days for myself, those that I love and hold dear and most certainly for my country Nigeria. I pray for unity, peace, harmony and togetherness. We all deserve it.
My birthday wish is to please continue to pray for those innocent lives lost. Please remain hopeful and focused because I truly believe better days are soon ahead by God’s grace.
Peace, Love and Blessings.”
See her post below:
Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday
An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.
Why stay at an exotic resort
Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:
Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.
Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.
Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand
The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf
The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.
Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.
You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.
Healthcare Workers To Receive Coca-Cola-Funded PPEs From Nigerian Red Cross
Since the outbreak of the Coronavirus disease in Nigeria, our healthcare workers have continued to lead the charge against the disease. As the number of recorded COVID-19 cases in Nigeria began to increase, these healthcare workers rose to the challenge and fought tirelessly to protect the lives of Nigerians impacted by the disease.
Considering the risks these healthcare workers face, there is a crucial need for adequate protective equipment for these brave frontline workers.
Coca-Cola is excited that over 400,000 Personal Protective Equipment (PPEs) procured to support the intervention efforts of the Nigerian Government and other key stakeholders to fight the COVID 19 pandemic have arrived. We do believe that this will to provide succor to our healthcare workers on the frontlines
These PPEs comprise N95 respirators, surgical masks, examination gloves, face shields, medical gowns, no-touch thermometers, disposable aprons, heavy-duty rubber gloves, rubber boots, basic masks, disposable gloves, and hand sanitizers.
Since the first confirmed case of the disease in Nigeria reported in February, over 800 healthcare workers have contracted the disease. While Nigerians are encouraged to stay home where possible and practice social distancing, these healthcare workers are needed across the country in the continued fight against the disease.
This donation forms part of The Coca-Cola Foundation’s COVID-19 relief interventions in Nigeria. The Coca-Cola Foundation has provided $2.5m in grant to IFRC who seeks to directly impact the lives of 1.4 million people in Nigeria and across other countries in West and Central Africa under this partnership.
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