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4 Little White Lies You Should Never Tell Your Spouse

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One of the key ingredients for any marriage is honesty. It’s challenging building a life with someone we love but can’t trust. Usually when we think about “honesty”, we believe it only covers those substantial situations, like being truthful about finances, how we feel about one another and whether or not we’ve been faithful. We rarely consider the impact of not being honest in the minor areas of our relationships. Trust begins with the basics. The little white lies we tell aren’t as much of a concern as the reason we tell them. Are we hiding something? Do we think our spouse can’t handle our truth? Are we uncomfortable being completely honest with our partner, and if so, why?

Below are a few of those little white lies and the reasons we should avoid them:

1. “No, you don’t look fat in that outfit”. Seems harmless right? Whenever this question arises, our spouse needs an honest answer. Many of us are concerned with how answering truthfully will make our spouse feel. Our partners need to know we are able to advise them in love. Whenever we share our opinion, it’s how we deliver it that matters most. We can tell them the truth and spare their feelings at the same time. Instead of simply answering “yes, you look fat”, how about saying “That outfit is not as flattering to your shape as your blue dress”.

2. “I have a headache and I’m not in the mood” Intimacy is one of the major ways couples connect physically. Our spouse has needs. When we choose to lie about the reasons we aren’t up for being intimate we cheat ourselves and our spouse. Instead, what if we said “I’m just really tired from work and and I can’t seem to muster up the energy to make love.” Even with this being said, we should still seek ways to replenish our missing energy and add intimacy with our spouse to the top of that to-do list.

3. “That new dress in the closet was a gift”. It’s hard to admit we have a problem with spending or sticking to a budget. Lying about our spending habits only makes the situation worse. It costs us financially and jeopardizes the trust being built in the relationship. We have to be honest and ask for help when we struggle. If given the opportunity most spouses can assist in creating a realistic spending plan that works for the household and our shopping habits.

4. “Nope, nothing’s wrong”. Let’s not play this game. If something is bothering you, why not share and provide your partner with an opportunity to correct the situation and their behavior if needed. When we say nothing’s wrong, we’re ensuring that whatever happened will occur again. Instead let’s say “I felt some kind of way when I heard you say… or when this happened…”. Couples need to be solution focused, but that’s challenging when we aren’t honest about what’s bothering us.

Relationships are stronger when both partners can share honestly what’s on their hearts and minds. We should be able to talk about any and everything. Being mindful of how those little white lies can mount up to one big mess is key. Our partners rely on our truth. Remember, it’s always best when it’s delivered in a loving and gentle way of course.

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Avoid These Nigerians Food To Burn Stubborn Belly Fat (Video)

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Being overweight or obese can be detrimental to your health. It is not advisable to have excess fat in the abdominal cavity because it can lead to some health issues. Getting your dream body will not be easy and you need to make some sacrifices to your diet. You will also need to turn a blind eye to some fatty foods.

If you’re ready to get rid of the belly fat, then stay put as Information Nigeria brings you some important tips that will help.

1. Avoid sugar and carbonated drinks

Did you know that consuming sugary substances like coke, fanta can lead to weight gain and a number of health problems like high blood pressure?. This is due to the high fructose content found in added sugars. Taking sugar-filled drinks may slow your metabolism and this in turn can make it harder for your body to burn fat. Fructose can only be metabolized by your liver. When you consume too much, you push your liver to its limit and it becomes overloaded, then it turns the fructose into fat and it ends up getting stored in your belly. To avoid putting yourself from risk, you should cut back on foods and drinks that contain huge amounts of sugar.

 

2. You also have to forgo junk foods like meat pie, cakes, rolls, candies, burgers, ice cream and cookies. You also need to do away with heavy foods like eba, akpu, pounded yam, rice among others. Switch up your eating habits and opt for a more balanced-diet if you want to burn your belly fat. Avoid consuming refined carbs like bread, pizza, potation chips etc. You should also stay away from processed and heavy foods because they contribute to stubborn belly fat. You should choose to eat proteinous foods like fish, eggs, and milk. starch contains fat, sugar and salt. They help a person feel fuller so you don’t end up looking for something to munch on after eating. It basically keeps hunger at bay.

3. Eat the right amount of fruits, vegetables, fibrous foods and whole grains – You can add vegetables, fruits and whole grains to your weight loss diet. They provide essential vitamins, minerals, fiber and other substances that are good for your body. Examples of fibre rich foods include; beans, broccoli, avocados, apples, oatmeal brown rice and whole grain bread.

4. Try to incorporate exercise into your daily or weekly routine – Exercise helps to speed up your metabolism and helps you shed weight. The bitter truth is that wearing just waist trainers and staying put in one position will not make you lose that stubborn belly fat. You should hit the gym.

5 Reduce alcohol intake – Excess intake of alcohol also leads to a host of health problems especially the build-up of fat in the belly area. Have you ever noticed that those who drink alcohol, especially men, often develop ‘pot-bellies’. Alcoholic drinks like beer provide your body with calories and very little nutrients. It can also increase your appetite. Replace the alcoholic drinks with water or alternate with low calorie, non-alcoholic beverages. Too much alcohol can cause liver damage and other serious health problems.

6. Try out apple cider vinegar – Apple cider vinegar is made in a two-step fermentation process. It is obtained from apples that have been crushed, distilled and fermented. Acetic acid is the main active component of apple cider vinegar. It is safe for consumption in small quantities and can be taken as a supplement. Do not also consume it straight from the bottle or in its pure form. Add 1 to 2 tablespoons to water before you drink. You can also add honey or lemon. It is best to drink it before your meals. Research shows it has many health benefits, such as lowering blood sugar levels.

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Williams Uchemba And His Wife Exchange Wedding Vows In Lagos (Video)

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Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Popular Nigerian actor, Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar have officially solemnized their union.

The couple finally exchanged their wedding vows at Dominion city church in Lagos state.

The beautiful wedding ceremony was reportedly officiated by the founder of the church, Dr. David Chukwudi Ogbueli alias Papa Eagle.

Celebrities, fans and well-wishers poured in congratulatory message for the couple after photos and videos from the ceremony hit the internet.

The actor wore a sleek tuxedo, while his bride,  wore a lovely white gown.

Read Also:Actor Williams Uchemba Set To Walk Down The Aisle With Mystery Woman

Watch the videos below:

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Actor, Model, Comedian, Philanthropist… Meet The Latest Groom, Williams Uchemba

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Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba, who was born on October 22, is an actor, motivational speaker, model, comedian, entrepreneur and philanthropist. The Abia-born thespian graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree in International Relation from the University of Nigeria, Nsukka in Enugu State.

Uchemba began his career in the early 2000s as a child actor and came into the limelight in 2001 after appearing in the Nollywood blockbuster movie, “The Journey of the Dead” along with Olu Jacobs, Ramsey Noah, and Pete Edochie.

Since then, the multi-talented actor never looked back as he has gone ahead to feature in more blockbuster movies like Sugar Rush (2019), Merry Men 2(2019) and Story Story: The African Rideshare (2018). He is the recipient of several awards.

The actor adopted an 18-year-old furniture maker in June and he promised to sponsor his education. He recently got married to his longtime girlfriend, Brunella Oscar at her hometown, Alor in Anambra state. The actor’s wife, Brunella opened up on their love story with Wedding Digest Naija and she disclosed that she made the first move. According to the English trained medical doctor, they both met on Facebook after she sent him a message.

 

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