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Could You Be Dating An Alcoholic? Few Signs To Look Out For…

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Picture it: You’re sitting across from your date at dinner, looking forward to all that the rest of the evening has to offer — and then he orders another drink. And another. You cringe slightly as he starts getting a little louder and more playful. A quick word to the wise: Watch out for the inevitable date who’s an alcoholic.

In today’s day and age, people can get addicted to an almost endless range of substances: alcohol, heroin, cocaine, marijuana, pills, and so on. Yet one of the most common types of addiction that you may see in dating is alcoholism. If you cross paths with someone who has an alcohol problem, the question then becomes, what will you do with that information?

As you meet and – let’s be honest – interview various dates en route to finding your long-term partner, you need to know how to spot someone who uses alcohol in an unhealthy way. For example, having a couple glasses of wine at dinner is probably no big deal, but a third and a fourth? That’s another story. It’s natural to have a drink or two to stave off the inevitable anxiety that comes with date night, but anything more than that tells you that this is someone who relies on alcohol to a fairly extreme degree. In such cases, he uses alcohol to balance his mood, feel happy, and relax. The simple truth is that a glass of wine or two helps you relax; anything more than that is unhealthy coping with issues of which you’re not yet aware.

Sometimes the signs aren’t so obvious.

Sure, if someone orders five beers over the course of the night, you’re going to ask yourself, I hope, is he an alcoholic? But a good alcoholic will also know how to hide the severity of his problem so that you don’t run for the hills. In such instances, listen to the content of what he talks about. Does he talk about drinking? Does he tell stories about events where you imagine he was probably drinking? Does he mention being hung over?

Notice the way he drinks.

Does he suggest that you take shots of liquor? Shot-taking is something that many young men and women do, but as they mature and grow into adulthood, this behavior becomes far less common. The average adult who regularly takes shots of liquor when he’s out on a date or with his friends is someone who uses alcohol in an unhealthy manner. The whole point of shots is that the person taking them can get intoxicated as quickly as possible, and that shows a serious reliance on alcohol to cope. If you’re on a date with someone who suggests that you take shots together, pass and say that you don’t need it. Most importantly, watch how he responds to the fact that you’ve declined. Does he still take shots by himself? Does he egg you on to take a shot, too? Does he think for a minute and refrain from taking one himself?

Tell him how you feel about drinking alcohol.

Many women enjoy having a drink here or there, but they don’t necessarily want to get drunk on the average date night. Early in the dating process, it’s good to tell him your views on alcohol and drugs. If you’re not a big drinker and don’t want to be with a big drinker, tell him from the start in a nice, gentle way. Again, watch how he responds and take note of any defensiveness.

Trust your instincts.

No one wants to believe their new guy is an alcoholic, so any sense you have that he might have a drinking problem is a cause for concern. If your instinct or gut, as some folks say, tells you that he might have a problem with alcohol, odds are that you’re right. If you have such a suspicion, don’t wait around a few more months to prove it. It’s certainly your right to mention your concern to him or ask him directly if he thinks he might have a problem, but whatever he says doesn’t mean much when your instinct – the most powerful self-protective mechanism you have – tells you there’s a problem. The most important thing to remember in dating is to move on when you come across someone who doesn’t meet your needs. Always remember that waiting or hoping that kind of behavior can change is distorted, wishful thinking.

Bottom line: The ugly truth is that alcoholism and drinking issues wreck a lot of romantic relationships. If you end up in a relationship with an alcoholic, you’re co-signing on months – even years – of frustration, anxiety, and disappointment. You will always feel that he prioritizes alcohol over you, and you’ll be right: The drug of choice trumps everything in the lose-lose game of addiction.

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Avoid These Nigerians Food To Burn Stubborn Belly Fat (Video)

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Being overweight or obese can be detrimental to your health. It is not advisable to have excess fat in the abdominal cavity because it can lead to some health issues. Getting your dream body will not be easy and you need to make some sacrifices to your diet. You will also need to turn a blind eye to some fatty foods.

If you’re ready to get rid of the belly fat, then stay put as Information Nigeria brings you some important tips that will help.

1. Avoid sugar and carbonated drinks

Did you know that consuming sugary substances like coke, fanta can lead to weight gain and a number of health problems like high blood pressure?. This is due to the high fructose content found in added sugars. Taking sugar-filled drinks may slow your metabolism and this in turn can make it harder for your body to burn fat. Fructose can only be metabolized by your liver. When you consume too much, you push your liver to its limit and it becomes overloaded, then it turns the fructose into fat and it ends up getting stored in your belly. To avoid putting yourself from risk, you should cut back on foods and drinks that contain huge amounts of sugar.

 

2. You also have to forgo junk foods like meat pie, cakes, rolls, candies, burgers, ice cream and cookies. You also need to do away with heavy foods like eba, akpu, pounded yam, rice among others. Switch up your eating habits and opt for a more balanced-diet if you want to burn your belly fat. Avoid consuming refined carbs like bread, pizza, potation chips etc. You should also stay away from processed and heavy foods because they contribute to stubborn belly fat. You should choose to eat proteinous foods like fish, eggs, and milk. starch contains fat, sugar and salt. They help a person feel fuller so you don’t end up looking for something to munch on after eating. It basically keeps hunger at bay.

3. Eat the right amount of fruits, vegetables, fibrous foods and whole grains – You can add vegetables, fruits and whole grains to your weight loss diet. They provide essential vitamins, minerals, fiber and other substances that are good for your body. Examples of fibre rich foods include; beans, broccoli, avocados, apples, oatmeal brown rice and whole grain bread.

4. Try to incorporate exercise into your daily or weekly routine – Exercise helps to speed up your metabolism and helps you shed weight. The bitter truth is that wearing just waist trainers and staying put in one position will not make you lose that stubborn belly fat. You should hit the gym.

5 Reduce alcohol intake – Excess intake of alcohol also leads to a host of health problems especially the build-up of fat in the belly area. Have you ever noticed that those who drink alcohol, especially men, often develop ‘pot-bellies’. Alcoholic drinks like beer provide your body with calories and very little nutrients. It can also increase your appetite. Replace the alcoholic drinks with water or alternate with low calorie, non-alcoholic beverages. Too much alcohol can cause liver damage and other serious health problems.

6. Try out apple cider vinegar – Apple cider vinegar is made in a two-step fermentation process. It is obtained from apples that have been crushed, distilled and fermented. Acetic acid is the main active component of apple cider vinegar. It is safe for consumption in small quantities and can be taken as a supplement. Do not also consume it straight from the bottle or in its pure form. Add 1 to 2 tablespoons to water before you drink. You can also add honey or lemon. It is best to drink it before your meals. Research shows it has many health benefits, such as lowering blood sugar levels.

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Williams Uchemba And His Wife Exchange Wedding Vows In Lagos (Video)

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Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Popular Nigerian actor, Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar have officially solemnized their union.

The couple finally exchanged their wedding vows at Dominion city church in Lagos state.

The beautiful wedding ceremony was reportedly officiated by the founder of the church, Dr. David Chukwudi Ogbueli alias Papa Eagle.

Celebrities, fans and well-wishers poured in congratulatory message for the couple after photos and videos from the ceremony hit the internet.

The actor wore a sleek tuxedo, while his bride,  wore a lovely white gown.

Read Also:Actor Williams Uchemba Set To Walk Down The Aisle With Mystery Woman

Watch the videos below:

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Actor, Model, Comedian, Philanthropist… Meet The Latest Groom, Williams Uchemba

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Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba, who was born on October 22, is an actor, motivational speaker, model, comedian, entrepreneur and philanthropist. The Abia-born thespian graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree in International Relation from the University of Nigeria, Nsukka in Enugu State.

Uchemba began his career in the early 2000s as a child actor and came into the limelight in 2001 after appearing in the Nollywood blockbuster movie, “The Journey of the Dead” along with Olu Jacobs, Ramsey Noah, and Pete Edochie.

Since then, the multi-talented actor never looked back as he has gone ahead to feature in more blockbuster movies like Sugar Rush (2019), Merry Men 2(2019) and Story Story: The African Rideshare (2018). He is the recipient of several awards.

The actor adopted an 18-year-old furniture maker in June and he promised to sponsor his education. He recently got married to his longtime girlfriend, Brunella Oscar at her hometown, Alor in Anambra state. The actor’s wife, Brunella opened up on their love story with Wedding Digest Naija and she disclosed that she made the first move. According to the English trained medical doctor, they both met on Facebook after she sent him a message.

 

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