The 5 Types of Men You Should Run (Not Walk!) From

article-2014139320134321000As women, the loud ticking of our biological clocks sometimes causes us to make some really dumb decisions when it comes to the men we choose to be our mates. I am no exception. Having reviewed past relationships to figure out why they didn’t work out, I realized that I made poor decisions with the men I dated because they were a reflection of how I felt about myself at the time. I was able to recognize my foolishness (and theirs) for what it was: a lack of self-worth that allowed me to settle for less than I deserved. Although I haven’t dated all of these types of men, I certainly know people who have, and now know to steer clear immediately once I see any of these characters coming my way:

1. The Easily Intimidated

There is nothing wrong with being a strong, independent woman who still knows how to let a man take the lead. If you’re a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to walk in her power, then you need a man who isn’t afraid to embrace that fact, and even celebrate it. If a man tells you that he’s intimidated by you, he’s most likely not the one for you.

2. The Cocky One

Confidence in a man is an attractive thing; however, there is a fine line between confident and cocky. A confident man doesn’t need to name drop to prove his importance—his aura does that for him. A confident man doesn’t need to brag about his accomplishments—they will speak for themselves. A confident man is secure in who he is. I’ve learned that the more cocky a man is, the more insecure he is. His bravado is a way of covering up whatever he feels inadequate about. Eventually, those insecurities will play themselves out in your relationship.

3. The Man With “Potential”

We’ve all done it. We’ve dated someone who—although in a different place than we are in life—we’ve given the benefit of the doubt because we saw their “potential.” Unfortunately, that potential often goes unrealized and we become resentful when the broken promises start piling up. This doesn’t mean that you should write off all men who you see are at the beginning of their hustle; it does mean that if all you hear is talk of the hustle and there’s no action to back it up, you should keep it moving.

4. The Overly Spiritual

A man who loves the Lord is a man after my own heart. A man who uses the Bible to condemn, criticize and control can be dangerous. For those of us who put God first, we usually want someone who shares that belief. If a man pulls out a Bible scripture every time he sees you’ve done something wrong, or wants to call out someone else who has, he’s most likely cove
ring up his own transgressions by deflecting attention from them, onto other people.

5. The “Underly” Spiritual

On the flip side, I’ve dated men who didn’t share my spiritual walk; something I overlooked because I thought I could pray some sense into them. The problem with that is that we end up compromising our beliefs to keep a man whose walk is not aligned with our own. My greatest lesson has been not to entertain any relationship where the most important part of who I am—my spirit—is not at peace with theirs. Women’s intuition is a wonderful gift. This is the perfect time to listen to it.

Source: blackandmarriedwithkids.com

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