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10 Things Single People Are Tired of Hearing: What An Economist Would Tell Them Instead

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worryingWith all the contradicting dating advice out there, I intend to clean up the mess and make economics useful for people in their daily lives: love-o-nomics!

1. “You’ll find it when you aren’t looking!”

Your economist says nay. To the contrary, I’d recommend to look, and look carefully. First decide WHAT you are looking for, then look. If there aren’t enough members of the opposite gender where you typically roam, roam somewhere else. Men might want to try the arts, yoga, Zumba, prancercise or philanthropy, and women might try stadium sports, outdoors, computer related hobbies and about everything that involves speed: car racing, speed boats and space tourism (examples courtesy of my husband.)

Before you hit the dating game, it makes sense to sit down with yourself and list the top 3-8 MUST HAVE criteria you are looking for. The criteria should be perceivable on the first two dates. (E.g. wants kids, has a stable job, not more than 4 inches shorter/taller, etc).

2) “You can’t be happy in a relationship unless you’re happy with yourself first.”

Partially true, moreover there are many singles who are happy with themselves. This is not the point. What’s more important is to define what will make you happy in a relationship and what won’t — before you get there. The dating game is not all roses and women and men sometimes look for different things. You may need to negotiate until you get what you deserve.

3) “You’re still young, you got all the time in the world.”

Well, exactly. Singles want to USE that time and maybe spend it in a relationship. Good news from your economist: it needn’t take ages or gazillions of dates to find the right one. Dating 12 different people should roughly be enough.

4) “You deserve someone who wants to give you everything.”

Afraid this is a little vague for an economist. What is “everything” supposed to mean? As I said, sit down, clarify for yourself (in clear, not vague) terms, what exactly you are looking for in a person. List the traits, decide how you will find out about them, and swear to yourself that you will not waste more than two dates with someone who fails the list. (As a friend of mine likes to say: who will find an apartment faster, the person that has a list of five criteria, or the person that has no idea?)

5) “You’re looking in the wrong places.”

A “place” is never “wrong.” When it’s about dating, it’s gender ratios that matter. So if you are a man, don’t hang out too much in places with many more men than women (and for women the other way round.) Do the opposite.

6) “You should try online dating!”

This one the economist happens to agree with. It’s good to cast your net widely. Also, knowledgeable intermediaries make markets more efficient. So, choose your intermediary wisely. The traditional matchmaker (aka marriage counselor) may have much more knowledge than Internet sites. But some internet sites also embody a lot of acquired knowledge. (And some don’t.)

7) “You’re too picky.”

I’m all for picky. Dear, you will be happy about every year you waited when you finally find the right one without settling. Trust me.

8) “Oh hey, but also, never settle.”

As I said.

9) “You need to put yourself out there more.”

“Out there”?? Are you kidding me, what is that supposed to mean? Unless advice gets more PRECISE than this it’s just not helpful. Apart from that, it’s not about “putting oneself out there” but more about “leaning in there.” Cultivate your favorite hobbies and values with others. Find a group that practices them, whether a sport, environmentalism, a faith, you name it. The likelihood of meeting someone that matches your criteria is much higher in circles with shared values.

10) “I’m Engaged!”

I know it’s super hard, but just imagine you actually WILL get engaged in 6 or 9 months. Imagine you had that certainty. Just for a minute. Do you realize how much more it would make you savor your last months as a single? I am just saying this because I wish I had spent the last years and months of my singlehood with a more relaxed mind. You will never again have this much control over your time. Enjoy it.

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Avoid These Nigerians Food To Burn Stubborn Belly Fat (Video)

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Being overweight or obese can be detrimental to your health. It is not advisable to have excess fat in the abdominal cavity because it can lead to some health issues. Getting your dream body will not be easy and you need to make some sacrifices to your diet. You will also need to turn a blind eye to some fatty foods.

If you’re ready to get rid of the belly fat, then stay put as Information Nigeria brings you some important tips that will help.

1. Avoid sugar and carbonated drinks

Did you know that consuming sugary substances like coke, fanta can lead to weight gain and a number of health problems like high blood pressure?. This is due to the high fructose content found in added sugars. Taking sugar-filled drinks may slow your metabolism and this in turn can make it harder for your body to burn fat. Fructose can only be metabolized by your liver. When you consume too much, you push your liver to its limit and it becomes overloaded, then it turns the fructose into fat and it ends up getting stored in your belly. To avoid putting yourself from risk, you should cut back on foods and drinks that contain huge amounts of sugar.

 

2. You also have to forgo junk foods like meat pie, cakes, rolls, candies, burgers, ice cream and cookies. You also need to do away with heavy foods like eba, akpu, pounded yam, rice among others. Switch up your eating habits and opt for a more balanced-diet if you want to burn your belly fat. Avoid consuming refined carbs like bread, pizza, potation chips etc. You should also stay away from processed and heavy foods because they contribute to stubborn belly fat. You should choose to eat proteinous foods like fish, eggs, and milk. starch contains fat, sugar and salt. They help a person feel fuller so you don’t end up looking for something to munch on after eating. It basically keeps hunger at bay.

3. Eat the right amount of fruits, vegetables, fibrous foods and whole grains – You can add vegetables, fruits and whole grains to your weight loss diet. They provide essential vitamins, minerals, fiber and other substances that are good for your body. Examples of fibre rich foods include; beans, broccoli, avocados, apples, oatmeal brown rice and whole grain bread.

4. Try to incorporate exercise into your daily or weekly routine – Exercise helps to speed up your metabolism and helps you shed weight. The bitter truth is that wearing just waist trainers and staying put in one position will not make you lose that stubborn belly fat. You should hit the gym.

5 Reduce alcohol intake – Excess intake of alcohol also leads to a host of health problems especially the build-up of fat in the belly area. Have you ever noticed that those who drink alcohol, especially men, often develop ‘pot-bellies’. Alcoholic drinks like beer provide your body with calories and very little nutrients. It can also increase your appetite. Replace the alcoholic drinks with water or alternate with low calorie, non-alcoholic beverages. Too much alcohol can cause liver damage and other serious health problems.

6. Try out apple cider vinegar – Apple cider vinegar is made in a two-step fermentation process. It is obtained from apples that have been crushed, distilled and fermented. Acetic acid is the main active component of apple cider vinegar. It is safe for consumption in small quantities and can be taken as a supplement. Do not also consume it straight from the bottle or in its pure form. Add 1 to 2 tablespoons to water before you drink. You can also add honey or lemon. It is best to drink it before your meals. Research shows it has many health benefits, such as lowering blood sugar levels.

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Williams Uchemba And His Wife Exchange Wedding Vows In Lagos (Video)

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Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Popular Nigerian actor, Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar have officially solemnized their union.

The couple finally exchanged their wedding vows at Dominion city church in Lagos state.

The beautiful wedding ceremony was reportedly officiated by the founder of the church, Dr. David Chukwudi Ogbueli alias Papa Eagle.

Celebrities, fans and well-wishers poured in congratulatory message for the couple after photos and videos from the ceremony hit the internet.

The actor wore a sleek tuxedo, while his bride,  wore a lovely white gown.

Read Also:Actor Williams Uchemba Set To Walk Down The Aisle With Mystery Woman

Watch the videos below:

https://twitter.com/gregorogholi/status/1330121905387540483?s=21

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Actor, Model, Comedian, Philanthropist… Meet The Latest Groom, Williams Uchemba

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Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba, who was born on October 22, is an actor, motivational speaker, model, comedian, entrepreneur and philanthropist. The Abia-born thespian graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree in International Relation from the University of Nigeria, Nsukka in Enugu State.

Uchemba began his career in the early 2000s as a child actor and came into the limelight in 2001 after appearing in the Nollywood blockbuster movie, “The Journey of the Dead” along with Olu Jacobs, Ramsey Noah, and Pete Edochie.

Since then, the multi-talented actor never looked back as he has gone ahead to feature in more blockbuster movies like Sugar Rush (2019), Merry Men 2(2019) and Story Story: The African Rideshare (2018). He is the recipient of several awards.

The actor adopted an 18-year-old furniture maker in June and he promised to sponsor his education. He recently got married to his longtime girlfriend, Brunella Oscar at her hometown, Alor in Anambra state. The actor’s wife, Brunella opened up on their love story with Wedding Digest Naija and she disclosed that she made the first move. According to the English trained medical doctor, they both met on Facebook after she sent him a message.

 

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