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My 43-Yr-Old Sister Is A Virgin & Unmarried, Does She Have A Problem?

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I’m worried about my sister. She is 43 years old, a Virgin and unmarried.

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For the marriage part we are believing God he will do something in her life.

Although she still a virgin, she has boyfriends but its not like she has them to have fun or sexual intimacy.

My problem is that she does not disclose to anyone what she’s passing through, and how can we help her if she doesn’t let people in. I’m bothered about her because at this rate she might still be dating after 6 years or  more without getting married.

Please I want to know if there’s something wrong with her and how to help her out or do you think I’m just over-reacting?

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  1. Philip kwada

    October 21, 2013 at 4:10 pm

    Mtn

  2. paul jones

    October 21, 2013 at 4:33 pm

    She is still young beautiful as though she was just in her early thirty. let the guys she keep as a,her friends,be the serious types,that has the intention to marry. don’t keep guys that are only mere friends,that give every other serious guy at there, around you,the impression,that you are in a serious relationship when you are not. Just know the kind of male friend that suit your personal state now, please be wise. this also show’s,our men are not, seeing but blind?for if you have wisdom, you won’t wait to this age, to be a laughing stock again, after, you might have done the right thing,from the on set. for you are an example of woman hood to be encourage. for as I speak with you,I see you laugh,your man is locatig you,amen.

  3. kalam

    October 21, 2013 at 5:49 pm

    God will help her but your statement contradict, can a married woman be a virgin?

  4. luke

    October 21, 2013 at 8:58 pm

    Is there anything wrong with that? This how you guys go looking for trouble in eliens territories… Is your sister complaining that she’s still a virgin @ 43? Have you not heard of the lives of our saints? If how then do you think they did it? Even the bible says; some of these people will remain eunochs for the sake of the word of God, but others will be because, some other person cause them to…knowing not the motive of your sister, you went castigating her publicly…thats not how things are done my dear. She’s old enough to know what is good for her.

  5. Olaleye Kolapo

    October 21, 2013 at 9:03 pm

    She has lots of problems.

  6. muhammad kabir

    October 21, 2013 at 10:12 pm

    she has a problem bcos ( even crab has no head bcos of bad frnds)also [be corteous to all but intimate wz few & let those few be well try b4 you give them your confidance]

  7. Div

    October 21, 2013 at 10:27 pm

    How do u know that she is a virgn do u go to her bedroom while she was sleeping make sure u dnt commit abormination

  8. Akin

    October 21, 2013 at 11:28 pm

    she has problem of which she can not disclose to anyone but u can set her up with a gud and sincere friend who is carering and okay surely she will get over that problem.

  9. Adeshola

    October 22, 2013 at 5:45 am

    kindly check if she does not double as a male n female, meanwhile she need experience man to handle her, for more consultations write pls.

  10. frances

    October 22, 2013 at 6:39 am

    Nigeria,or the society in which we live in has made it a pre-requisite or compulsory for a woman in her 20s at least to be married.
    Now dis isn’t a bad thing in itself but it becomes really wrong where a girl passed her 20s isn’t married and she is looked at as nothing or like d above,people wonder if thr is something wrong with her.
    Have we stopped to think first of all dat maybe the right person for her hasn’t come yet? Each person to his own.some may get married at 18,some 25,some 30.does it really matter at what age they do? Isn’t it better to know u r with someone u can be with for real than settling for anyone dat comes all cuz of pressure on u?
    Have we stopped to think for a moment that these women may want to get married earlier but one thing or d other has held them back.
    Let us not be too quick to declare dat witches r troubling them from d village.
    If a woman just needs d ryt qualities in a man(u knw dem,godliness,hardworking..etc) and one hasn’t come,she may be waiting for him to come instead of taking any dick and harry dat comes her way.and to me,we shouldn’t fault her for dat.
    So no,I do not think anytin is wrong wt ur sister,if u try askn her wats up in a way dat she knows u care and u r nt condemning her,u can find out wat d issue is,like u said,u don’t even knw if she is in a relationship.
    She may also be keeping mute bcuz she feels u guys will castigate her for such a thing as her being unmarried at 43,so to her she may rather keep quiet than receive insults.dat maybe her own way to resolve things.
    U can speak to her,lovingly and gently.she may want to get married and d man hasn’t come,she may b in a relationship,she may not even want to get married,either ways u can never know except u ask her since its so important to u.
    That said,I did a post on dis kind of issue on my blog,u can check it out… http://
    imperfectlyperfect92.wordpress.com/2013/10/20/
    an-unmarried-woman-is-nothing/

  11. frances

    October 22, 2013 at 6:44 am

    As regards her being a virging,d fact dat she isn’t married or doesn’t av a man doesn’t mean dat she should gv her body to any1 just to satisfy sexual urges that are what? 15 mins at most? And suffer d consequences for ever?
    Aside frm d fact dat premarital sex is a sin for christians and she may not want to engage in such,she may also b preserving her body for her self dignity and her husband(maybe)
    Our bodies are sacred,we don’t have to open our holies of holies to evry man or gv it for free just to relieve urges.
    I applaud her for dis,its rare to find such a woman dat she keeps herself intact.wow!
    Btw,Kumuyi’s 2nd wife was also a virgin at 65 wen kumuyi married her.
    Dats purity at its peak and God knows we need more of dat in d lives of d young teens and youths 2day,God help us all.

    http://imperfectlyperfect92.wordpress.com

  12. Ogochukuw

    October 22, 2013 at 9:44 am

    Infact, d sister could have approached her sisterwith love and find out what is wrong rather than making it public. She may actually want to settle down long time ago but it did not work out the way she planned. No woman that wants to marry will be happy at 43 unmarried. Pls approach ur sister, try to find at what the problem with her is and see hw to solve it. With God all things are possible to them that believes.

  13. WOLE AKINYEYE

    October 22, 2013 at 2:13 pm

    Your story is difficult to believe! How can a lade of 43 years be a virgin and still not engaged or having serious relationship? Is she a nun or reverend sister? What has she been doing all her life? Was she sick or put out of circulation?

    Definitely she has both problems that could be physical, spiritual, psychological etc

    Let her go for deliverance in a good church and get down into serious life plan. Otherwise, she should remain as she is because time is passing fast on her…

  14. pastorgoddyg

    December 4, 2013 at 12:34 pm

    If she z a christian, who prays so much, definitely, she must be waiting for the right man, cos wats d benefit of marrying early nd divorcing in the later future, I tink she z wise buh, pls d only tin u can do is pray for her.
    #Pastorgoddyg

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‘We counted 15 dead bodies’ – DJ Switch breaks silence on Lekki shooting (video)

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'We counted 15 dead bodies' – DJ Switch breaks her silence on Lekki shooting (video)

 

Popular Nigerian DJ, Switch, has opened up on what happened in Lekki on Tuesday night.

Known as Obianuju Catherine Udeh, Switch said she counted 15 dead bodies during the shoot-out.

 

 

 

In a video she posted on her Instagram page, Switch asked the authorities not to insult the intelligence of Nigerians when giving their own account of what happened on that day.

According to her, the military aimed at endsars protesters as they fired gunshots. She also said that SARS officers came in after the military had left and also attacked them.

According to Switch she and others present counted over 15 bodies.

‘‘I just want to clear a few things that I have been seeing online. To our leaders, I urge you please do not minimize the suffering of families. Do not insult the grief of Nigerians, do not insult the intelligence of Nigerians. Do not insult the pains the families are facing.

People were falling left and right. Yes there were soldiers there. Another part that people are not talking about is that the police also came. The SARS people we are talking about, they also came, some maybe 40-45 minutes after the soldiers left.

We were teargassed. The teargass was like Cotonou pepper mixed with acid. We were running. We would run and we would come back and the only thing we fought with was our flags. We would sit on the floor and we would raise or hands up, raising our flags and singing the national anthem. That was all we had.

They put off the lights. Even if there was no power in that axis, there was always light at the tollgate. There was no lights. The street lights were off. It was pitch black.” she said

Speaking further, she said

”A boy jumped on me and was shouting cover her, cover her. I didn’t even understand why he did that. They shot that boy on my back. I fell and while the soldiers were picking their shells, we were running around and picking their shells too because we wanted proof.”

She showed photos of bullet shells picked from the ground. She showed the one that was fired close to her ears and the one that was removed from someone’s lap.

The military, they were there on Nigerian soil, killing Nigerian citizens. The police and their SARS like people came doing the same thing, aiming and shooting. They were pointing the gun at us and shooting live bullets. Who takes live bullets to a protest?

To our leaders, I urge you to please not insult the intelligence of Nigerians and the families.”

DJ Switch expressed regrets that she and others allowed the military to take the bodies of the deceased persons.

”Something I think of in hindsight I wish we hadn’t done it but we carried dead bodies and dropped at the feet of the soldiers so that they could see what they did to us. When I asked their unit commander why are you killing us? I wish we didn’t do that because they ended up throwing the bodies in their van. This was up until the next morning.” she said

She dissociated herself from the social media accounts claiming she said 78 persons died. She said she and others counted 15 dead bodies.

”I never said 78 people died. What I do know is that when I was doing the live, 7 people had died. When my phone died, we had counted about 15 people. I don’t know if it was more than that. We had a lot of people stray bullet wound, gunshot wounds, and all that.

People did die. It wasn’t photoshopped. I must be a tech genius to photoshop a live feed.” she said

She dismissed reports that her cousin died in the incident.

Thanking everyone for their prayers and support, DJ Switch said

”We must continue to move. We must continue. If we stop I fear it will probably be the next 60 years before we talk about this again. We must continue peacefully. I condemn any sort of violence. I condemn the burning of buses and peoples livelihood. ”

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Nigeria still needs SARS, Zamfara gov, Matawalle insists

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Nigeria still needs SARS, Zamfara gov, Matawalle insists

Zamfara state governor, Bello Matawalle says that the recently dissolved Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS) unit was important and useful in the state.Nigeria still needs SARS, Zamfara gov, Matawalle insists

The Governor who made this known while fielding questions from newsmen, called for the deployment of officials of the disbanded police unit to Zamfara.

Matawalle said;

“We have recorded tremendous development in the area of peace building the Zamfara state with the commitment and professional contribution and support of the FSARS of the Nigeria Police.

“I will personally seek audience with Mr President on this issue. We need the FSARS or its equivalent in Zamfara state because we have seen their positive impact in spite their alleged excesses.”

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If End SARS protest doesn’t work then it might be over for Nigerian youths – Burna Boy

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If End SARS protest doesn’t work then it might be over for Nigerian youths – Burna Boy

If End SARS protest doesn’t work then it might be over for Nigerian youths – Burna Boy

Popular music entertainer, Burna Boy has stated that if the recent end SARS protest by Nigerian youths doesn’t yield any positive result, then the future holds nothing for the teeming youths in the country.

The ‘On the low’ crooner stated this in an interview with foreign media, Sky News.

The interview comes two weeks after protests began, sparked by a video showing a man being beaten, apparently by police officers from SARS (Special Anti-Robbery Squad).

Burna Boy, who spoke to Sky News from London, said: “It is shocking when you see it happen in that place, in such a place, that was the landmark of everything.

The Lekki Toll Gate, that was the most peaceful place to protest, the most peaceful venue in the whole country and then that is the place where [the shootings] happen. It is not something that you can just wrap your head around.”

The best-selling Afrobeats artist, who has mixed rap, funk and dancehall influences on international hits like On The Low and Ye, said nationwide protests against SARS have changed the nature of politics in his homeland.

This is the most important moment in Nigeria’s history… that is what we are witnessing right now because if nothing changes after this, if this doesn’t work, then it is over.”

When asked what he meant by this, he replied: “Look at what is going on right now: the youth have come together, like something unexplainable (sic), something that no one man could have possibly organised or led, the youth of the largest black nation in the world came together, said enough is enough and this was triggered by police brutality.

“It’s not like it was triggered by all the other things that it should have been triggered by all these years.”

Sky News

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