Is it Wrong To Marry Your Dead Friend’s Husband Or Wife?

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Death is an inevitable debt everyone must pay. Some pay theirs in the prime of life while others do so when they become old and gray. At whatever time the death bell tolls, one must exit this life and leave loved ones behind to mourn their loss.

Now that you’re alive reading this article, I’ll like to ask you this question: do you think it is wrong for your best friend to marry your husband or wife when you’re gone?

While you ponder on this question by putting yourself in that same shoe, let’s look at an E-mail we got recently from an avid reader of this column who pleaded anonymity but wants an answer to a bugging question in her life:

Dear Infonaija,

I had a friend who I consider more of a best friend. We’ve known each other since childhood. She passed away awhile back, like four years ago and now her husband wants us to have a serious relationship that will lead to marriage. They had two children. I visit his home regularly to see the kids because I’ve come to love them. Now I think my friend’s husband is seeing me as a mother figure to those kids. I don’t know what to do. Is it wrong for me to marry him?

7 COMMENTS

  1. There is nothing wrong with it. Haven’t you heard of where a man marries his late wife’s sister? Haven’t u seen where a woman is given out in marriage 2 her late husband’s brother simply bcos they want her n his kids to remain in the family? Its common n its even considered to be a custom in some tribes. After all u had no hand in her death. The living has nothing in common with the dead, you are allowed both religiously and morally to marry the man, u are in best position to look after her kids bcos u were best of friends with their late mum n u were there for them when she died. If people are telling u otherwise, pls visit a real man of God and seek his opinion, meanwhile fast and pray about and close ur ears to stupid talks and gossip bcos its only the dead that people stop talking about. Wish u all the best.

  2. I think the man has complete trust on you. He believe you can love and take good care of his kids. The ball is in your court, the decision is yours to take. But if you decide to settle down with him, please don’t maltreat the kids. May God lead you in the right direction.

  3. As for me I see noting wrong becouse the most important issue is how to take good care of the kids but if you have hand in her dead don’t go there,and if you think What people Will say conceder what will happen to the kids if the man married wrong woman