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The Beauty Of Difference! 4 Factors That Could Be Holding Us Back From Unity

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Isn’t it ironic that the same qualities that attracted us to our partners end up being the ones we argue most about? One of the qualities that attracted me to my husband is his diligence to work. I am the complete opposite! But few months into our marriage, I actually began to resent his hardworking nature. He simply had no time for fun. It was work, work, and more work. In fact I began to refer to his laptop as his second wife, it was that bad!

It took many years of complaints for me to realise that, he wasn’t going to change. And I had two options: continue seeing the faults and complaining about them or look at the positive aspects of his ‘faults’ and become more thankful and perhaps even learn something from him. Thankfully I chose the latter option, and I can honestly say we are both happier, and I am learning to be more diligent too.

Like my husband, I believe we will meet many people in life who will do things differently from us. They may have different customs, or speak a different language, or even pray to a different God. Instead of focusing on our differences and using it as a tool to cause disagreements, we could learn from each other and become better.

I had an Indian friend some time ago, and one of my favourite pastimes was learning about her culture, their gods and their lifestyle. As a Christian, it would have been very easy for me to consider her an unbeliever for “worshipping idols” and refuse to be ‘unequally yoked’ with her. I can’t begin to imagine how much knowledge, recipes, and friendship I would have lost if I had adopted that kind of holier-than-thou attitude.

I think most of the stupid wars we fight would cease if we would just let people be. We need to accept that people have a right to be different. It would be a boring world if we all looked the same and did things the same way.

Given that it’s not such a bad thing to be different, why then do some people become suspicious when they meet others who do things differently? Well, I have some reasons, but there are by no means the only ones. Please feel free to add more reasons, perhaps we can all learn from each other and become better.

Fear of change: Change can be scary. Insecure people are especially afraid of change; it somehow makes them feel inferior. However if we approach life as scientists do, then we realise that new ideas improve, rather than stifle us. Remember if we don’t evolve (i.e improve on our ideas, behaviour, mindset, etc), we will go extinct, like the dinosaurs!

I-know-it-all attitude: The Bible says that pride goes before a fall. We limit and deny ourselves a refreshing and fuller life if we cannot appreciate the differences in others. I enjoy eating new foods and learning new things about people’s culture. I love my culture but I find my life is richer and fuller when I learn more about others. I feel balanced and I appreciate the human family more, because I see we are alike in so many ways. Remember these words by Henry ford on being open-minded:
Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty.
Anyone who keeps learning stays young.
The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young

Fear of the unknown: It’s often been said, “the devil you know is better than the angel you don’t know”. It’s understandable to fear anything different. It’s a way of protecting ourselves. That’s why as Nigerians we will vote an under-performing candidate into public office, because he comes from the same tribe, or is of the same religion. And yet we act surprised when the person does not live up to expectation! Sadly, we don’t learn. In two years time, some of us will still vote based on our emotions not with our heads. When we let fear instead of rationality consume us, we will always be full of regrets. Remember fear is often unreal, it is basically ‘False-Evidence-Appearing-Real.’

Fear of being corrupted: Most of us as children growing up, were warned over and over by our parents not to mix with children from a certain neighbourhood or from a certain tribe or religion. Our parents had erroneously generalized certain tribes or religions because of an unfortunate incident they may have experienced. Sadly some of us still walk in the shadow of what daddy or mummy said. They meant good after all. But a time comes, when girls will be women and boys will be men. Part of the growing up process is testing new things, making mistakes and learning. Imagine how boring life would be if we never learnt new things for fear of failing!

Some people like to refer to Nigeria as a mistake; that the amalgamation was like bringing strange bed fellows together. They see division as the only way out. I think that is just a silly excuse! Our problem is not our differences, our problem is our intolerance of different people. Even within local governments that speak the same language, we hear of inter-communal clashes that claim lives and destroy properties. Imagine if Nigerians would learn to love each other and make the effort to understand and learn from each other! We would be unstoppable! We will utilize our potentials in ways we never thought of.

If we could focus on our similarities and use our differences as opportunities to learn, we would have fewer problems. Even though I am from the South South, I enjoy the suya and beautiful basket weavings and leather crafts of my Northern brothers and sisters. I could decide to focus on the traits I admire about them or choose the ugly ones I have read about. My decision will affect my attitude and ultimately determine if I live in fear and hatred of them, or enjoy their uniqueness. Just in case you are wondering, I also enjoy knowing more about my brothers and sisters from the West and the East and enjoy their meals and culture greatly! There is beauty in our diversity, we only need to make the effort to see it that way.

I believe that love, which is essentially the ability to treat others the way we want to be treated, is the way out for us as a nation. When we love people and have an open mind, we will respect each other even when our opinions differ. We will also be humble, because we acknowledge that we might be wrong about so many things, so why not learn something different?

In conclusion, it’s very easy to quickly make opinions about people, it doesn’t require any brainpower at all. But if we call ourselves educated 21st century Nigerians, we need to start thinking higher than beer parlour men or market women (no offense to both). We need to become rational and not just repeat the fearful echoes of our parents. Difference can be beautiful if we will make the effort to see it that way. I really hope we will.

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Avoid These Nigerians Food To Burn Stubborn Belly Fat (Video)

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Being overweight or obese can be detrimental to your health. It is not advisable to have excess fat in the abdominal cavity because it can lead to some health issues. Getting your dream body will not be easy and you need to make some sacrifices to your diet. You will also need to turn a blind eye to some fatty foods.

If you’re ready to get rid of the belly fat, then stay put as Information Nigeria brings you some important tips that will help.

1. Avoid sugar and carbonated drinks

Did you know that consuming sugary substances like coke, fanta can lead to weight gain and a number of health problems like high blood pressure?. This is due to the high fructose content found in added sugars. Taking sugar-filled drinks may slow your metabolism and this in turn can make it harder for your body to burn fat. Fructose can only be metabolized by your liver. When you consume too much, you push your liver to its limit and it becomes overloaded, then it turns the fructose into fat and it ends up getting stored in your belly. To avoid putting yourself from risk, you should cut back on foods and drinks that contain huge amounts of sugar.

 

2. You also have to forgo junk foods like meat pie, cakes, rolls, candies, burgers, ice cream and cookies. You also need to do away with heavy foods like eba, akpu, pounded yam, rice among others. Switch up your eating habits and opt for a more balanced-diet if you want to burn your belly fat. Avoid consuming refined carbs like bread, pizza, potation chips etc. You should also stay away from processed and heavy foods because they contribute to stubborn belly fat. You should choose to eat proteinous foods like fish, eggs, and milk. starch contains fat, sugar and salt. They help a person feel fuller so you don’t end up looking for something to munch on after eating. It basically keeps hunger at bay.

3. Eat the right amount of fruits, vegetables, fibrous foods and whole grains – You can add vegetables, fruits and whole grains to your weight loss diet. They provide essential vitamins, minerals, fiber and other substances that are good for your body. Examples of fibre rich foods include; beans, broccoli, avocados, apples, oatmeal brown rice and whole grain bread.

4. Try to incorporate exercise into your daily or weekly routine – Exercise helps to speed up your metabolism and helps you shed weight. The bitter truth is that wearing just waist trainers and staying put in one position will not make you lose that stubborn belly fat. You should hit the gym.

5 Reduce alcohol intake – Excess intake of alcohol also leads to a host of health problems especially the build-up of fat in the belly area. Have you ever noticed that those who drink alcohol, especially men, often develop ‘pot-bellies’. Alcoholic drinks like beer provide your body with calories and very little nutrients. It can also increase your appetite. Replace the alcoholic drinks with water or alternate with low calorie, non-alcoholic beverages. Too much alcohol can cause liver damage and other serious health problems.

6. Try out apple cider vinegar – Apple cider vinegar is made in a two-step fermentation process. It is obtained from apples that have been crushed, distilled and fermented. Acetic acid is the main active component of apple cider vinegar. It is safe for consumption in small quantities and can be taken as a supplement. Do not also consume it straight from the bottle or in its pure form. Add 1 to 2 tablespoons to water before you drink. You can also add honey or lemon. It is best to drink it before your meals. Research shows it has many health benefits, such as lowering blood sugar levels.

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Williams Uchemba And His Wife Exchange Wedding Vows In Lagos (Video)

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Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar

Popular Nigerian actor, Williams Uchemba and his wife, Brunella Oscar have officially solemnized their union.

The couple finally exchanged their wedding vows at Dominion city church in Lagos state.

The beautiful wedding ceremony was reportedly officiated by the founder of the church, Dr. David Chukwudi Ogbueli alias Papa Eagle.

Celebrities, fans and well-wishers poured in congratulatory message for the couple after photos and videos from the ceremony hit the internet.

The actor wore a sleek tuxedo, while his bride,  wore a lovely white gown.

Read Also:Actor Williams Uchemba Set To Walk Down The Aisle With Mystery Woman

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Actor, Model, Comedian, Philanthropist… Meet The Latest Groom, Williams Uchemba

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Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba

Williams Uchemba, who was born on October 22, is an actor, motivational speaker, model, comedian, entrepreneur and philanthropist. The Abia-born thespian graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree in International Relation from the University of Nigeria, Nsukka in Enugu State.

Uchemba began his career in the early 2000s as a child actor and came into the limelight in 2001 after appearing in the Nollywood blockbuster movie, “The Journey of the Dead” along with Olu Jacobs, Ramsey Noah, and Pete Edochie.

Since then, the multi-talented actor never looked back as he has gone ahead to feature in more blockbuster movies like Sugar Rush (2019), Merry Men 2(2019) and Story Story: The African Rideshare (2018). He is the recipient of several awards.

The actor adopted an 18-year-old furniture maker in June and he promised to sponsor his education. He recently got married to his longtime girlfriend, Brunella Oscar at her hometown, Alor in Anambra state. The actor’s wife, Brunella opened up on their love story with Wedding Digest Naija and she disclosed that she made the first move. According to the English trained medical doctor, they both met on Facebook after she sent him a message.

 

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