I don’t know what suddenly came over my girl, I was the one who paid her school fees all through her years in the polytechnic. Now, she sees me as an unworthy man. My friends told me of how they have been seeing her with a particular guy, I did not believe them, I even fought with two of them because I thought they were jealous of our relationship. Last night, I was coming from work and decided to get myself dinner from the eatery. Lo and behold, I saw my own girl with the same man my friends told me about. I made sure our eyes met and she just looked away. I have never felt so embarrassed. I called her when I got home, she did not pick up. Till now, I have not communicated with her. I am devastated here. She is in love with this man from all I see. What do I do?
Dear M. O.,
I am sorry you are in this situation. However, I want you to be strong for yourself right now. People change, understand that. Try to see her and discuss with her. Ask her what she is up to with the man. If she says they are friends, let her introduce you to him as her spouse. If she cannot, then there is probably something going on between the two of them. Then, let her be. You can not force her into loving you. Surely, the one who would see the good features in you and appreciate your efforts would come around. Be strong.
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