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5 Steps To Achieving a Peaceful Mind




I used to be a sucker for worry. I thought the more I dwelt on something negative and brooded about it, the better I would feel. I would whine about almost anything, easily throw a tantrum, cry out so loud, ask God and myself “why?” and end up feeling consumed by the silence that always crept up on me afterwards. Some days I just wanted to stick my head in the sand and just wait for the world to stop revolving. Sometimes I wanted to be still for a minute and hope all the crap would just pass me by. My mind was a home for junk, very messy, nothing valuable springing forth.

I was fast dying on the inside, my mind became a ball of confusion, my thoughts spiraling out of control and I was beginning to lose everything. Until one day, I fervidly decided to get my head straight and my mind cleared. And then it got better, my life drastically and surprisingly improved. Upon reflection, I asked myself “how could anyone just subject their brain and heart to that kind of needless torture.” – A cluttered mind is devastating.

The mind is a very powerful force in humans, it controls the body. Thinking, which is the process of using the mind to meditate or reflect on something is quite different from worrying. Worrying is the process of allowing one’s mind dwell on negativity and obscurity. Thinking clearly and creatively yields productivity. When the mind is cluttered, the man loses clarity, focus, direction and motivation. A clear mind is a healthy mind, healthy minds birth wealthy ideas. The greatest innovations of the world today started in the minds of people who used their thought processes clearly and creatively. Clear your mind of negative worthless thoughts and dwell on positive valuable ideas. A clear mind is the direct opposite of a cluttered mind.

The four areas of life that can be affected by a clear mind:
• The physical- Your body=your health.
• The mental- Your brain=your thoughts.
• The social- Your interactions=your relationships
• The spiritual- Your soul=your purpose

Effects of a cluttered mind

Worry: Most people worry from time to time. A new research study, led by a Case Western Reserve University faculty member in psychology, also shows that worrying can be so intrusive and obsessive that it interferes in the person’s life and endangers the mental health and the health of social relationships.

Stress: Stress stinks (literally). Biological studies have shown that there is a chemical difference between the sweat of a work-out and the sweat of a freak-out. Any sweat can cause body odour but the smell of stress sweat is a stench that comes on real strong and real long. Apart from body odour, stress is also a harbinger of diseases.

Confusion: A person who started out focused on studying to pass an exam will get confused when he suddenly starts thinking of how to cheat his way through that exam. Focus is one of the abilities successful people thrive on.

Frustration: The feeling of fear, failure and defeat are the results of a cluttered mind. A clear mind dwells on positivity. The most common response to frustration is aggression and pathological anger which leads to further frustration.

Depression: People suffering from depression often seek help from a myriad of therapists. The simple cure to depression is the control of the mind where happiness and sense of meaning can be found, not necessarily in many medicines, techniques or religions.

Anxiety: Anxiety is a disorder that is characterized by excessive and uncontrollable worry about everyday things. The frequency, intensity, and duration of the worry are disproportionate to the actual source of worry, and such worry often interferes with daily functioning.

Addiction: Addiction and substance abuse can be conquered when a person decides to channel their thoughts positively and far away from those objects of addiction. ‘Dutch courage’ is actually false courage. Real courage is in employing and deploying the mind positively.

Mental illness: In worst cases, some persons with cluttered minds lose their senses entirely. The term ‘mental illness’ can also be referred to as ‘the disease of the mind’. The effects of a cluttered mind listed above could ultimately result to mental illness.


Here are 5 simple steps to achieving a clear mind

Recognise Anger
Understand that anger comes from hurt. It is advisable to get to the root of the matter by addressing the real issue that caused the hurt in the first place. Turn your focus away from whomever or whatever it is that is making you angry and turn inward to meditating on wholesome stuff. Recognising anger helps you understand how to react to situations that tend to make you lose control of your emotions.

Release Sadness
Sadness is justifiable. But when it stretches and you cannot identify the cause of it, it is time to let go. I once taught one of my clients to learn to immediately replace sadness with gratefulness. That way she can focus on the good and jettison the bad feelings. If you sincerely look, you’ll always find the good no matter what. When she lost her sister, she was very sad but she de-cluttered her mind soon enough to dwell on loving herself and the people around her.

Reprimand Fear
I use this method to regularly clear my mind of fear. I allow myself to fear and then I face that fear and steadily conquer it. I practically slap myself on the wrist whenever I notice fear is almost winning over me. When I face whatever it is I’m afraid of, I feel so relieved and clutter-free.

Reject Negativity
Guilt, jealousy, procrastination, unforgiveness, doubt, low self esteem, lack of trust, etc., are very negative feelings that should never be dwelt on. Reject them the moment they spring up in your mind. Do not spew clutter by using the wrong words, you contaminate those around you and harm your relationships.

Reflect Optimism
When thinking or communicating with others, use positive words. Positive words enhance positive feelings. Always be hopeful, bright, cheerful and calm. You can only be very calculated when you are calm. Also, let the positivity around you reflect on others.

Imagine what you could achieve if your mind is clutter-free. The world is for the grasping only for those who will think clearly and creatively.Relish a relaxed and clear mind.


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  1. Gloria Adaji

    June 24, 2013 at 8:55 pm

    thanks alot i ave learn 4rm it.but is not easy 2 control tke d help of God!

  2. Chatta B

    June 24, 2013 at 10:00 pm

    U can also text it nd see if its work

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Nigerian & Jamaica Celebrates 50 Years Of Diplomatic Relations With Direct Flights to Jamaica



As the festive season approaches, travel enthusiasts and lovers of fun, relaxation or  adventure, will have a chance to create history, by being part of the first direct charter flights from Lagos, Nigeria to Montego Bay, Jamaica. The flights are in celebration of 50 years of diplomatic relations between Nigeria and Jamaica. Both countries have worked hard to promote culture, education, industrial and economic development, at different levels.

The first flight will leave Lagos on 21 December and return on 28 December 2020. A second rotation will take place from 30 December to 6 January 2021. Each flight will last for just over 11 hours and relieves the traveler of the stress of securing transit visas via Europe or the US and the uncertainties associated with multiple connections.

The flights are being coordinated by the Jamaican High Commission in Abuja and Nigerians Travel Too, a leading tour operator based in Lagos and the UK. They are also a reflection of the creative fusion of the Nigerian and Jamaican history and culture, which both partners have dubbed the Nai-Jamaica Project. A dedicated website has been launched, to showcase the range of travel and business opportunities that are available.

In tandem with the upcoming flights, handcrafted holiday experiences and multiple travel packages have been designed with each visitor in mind. The main items covered include: flight tickets, accommodation, airport transfers, tours and meals among others. [Participating tour operators are also offering free visa processing and support].

Nigeria’s trusted international carrier, Air Peace, will facilitate each trip with its elegant Boeing 777-300ER aircraft. Passengers will be able to travel in style and comfort across the First, Business and Economy Class cabins that are on offer at unbeatable rates.

Jamaica’s High Commissioner to Nigeria, HE Esmond Reid, has hailed the direct flights as, “An historic and unique opportunity, as part of our 50th anniversary celebrations, to reconnect with family and friends from Nigeria, Jamaica, the Caribbean and other parts of the world, in a world class tourist destination”.

Jamaica has won many international travel and tourism awards and has developed special COVID-19 protocols for the tourism sector. These are designed to protect and enhance the tourism experience for visitors and workers in the industry, in the face of the global pandemic.

Widely recognized as the “heartbeat of the world” and the land of Reggae Music, Jamaica is home to various tourist attractions and cultural icons such as Bob Marley, Marcus Garvey and Usain Bolt.

Visitors can never get enough of the opportunities for rafting, diving, golf, tennis, fishing, nature walks or horseback riding, among other exciting activities that are available in Jamaica. Places like the Abeokuta Nature Park and the Calabar High School also add special significance for visitors from Nigeria.

There will be nowhere else like Jamaica this Christmas and New Year. You can’t afford to miss this awesome Nai-jamaica experience!!!

Tickets are selling like hot cakes. Bookings will close on 20 November to guarantee visa processing, so don’t delay.

For more information on travel, tours and packages visit:
IG; @nigerianstraveltoo

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‘I Tested Positive To HIV After Gang Raped By 3 Men – Chef Ayomide



‘I Tested Positive To HIV After Being Gang Raped By 3 Men For Being Gay’ – Chef Ayomide
Ayomide and his lover

Ayomide and his lover

Nigerian chef, Ayomide Idowu, who is also a male rape survivor, has taken to his Instagram page to tell his story.

The openly gay young man recalled how he was allegedly gang raped by 3 hoodlums at the age of 19 because of his sexuality and how he eventually contracted HIV.

Ayomide revealed his life never remained the same as he was also arrested and victimized by the police.

In his words;

“I could remember last 5years ago
What I pass through from 3 hoodlums
I was thoroughly beaten and gang-raped
All because I’m Gay…they took advantage of me
I was 19years old boy then, I suffered humiliation
Arbitrary arrest from police,inhuman degrading treatment,I lost my precious Home at the age of parents no family…it really hurts to be an orphan….after I lost my virginity from the raped….having unprotected sex from those hoodlums I WAS TESTED POSITIVE….being positive my mood changed…I started my medication and think less…I stay away from smoking and alcohol…I eat Good fruits and vegetables…thanks to God I’m a testifier now
I’m undetectable my CD4 850 viral load 10
It really worth testimony 🙏🤦im looking healthy and stunning…being HIV positive is not the end of life…it reveals the other side of you…my aims of sharing my life threatening story as an orphan,so that people can learn from this…. 5years living positively”

Read Also: GAYS are one of the most influential & successful people in Nigeria — Chef Ayomide

See his post below:

The gay activist’s post

The gay activist’s post

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Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post



Actress Osas Ighodaro Celebrates Her 30th Birthday With Emotional Post
Osas Ighodaro

Osas Ighodaro

Nigerian actress, Osas Ighodaro penned an emotional note via Instagram as she clocked 30-years-old on Monday.

To mark her birthday, the single mother of one posted a monochrome photo of herself as she wished for people to continue praying for those who lost their lives during these turbulent period.

Ighodaro wrote;

“Thank God for another year. Happy Birthday to me. If you know me, you know I absolutely love birthdays but this year it certainly hits different. I’m overwhelming grateful for life and thankful to God to be able to see another birthday bc unfortunately many haven’t and won’t have that opportunity.

I am hopeful for better days for myself, those that I love and hold dear and most certainly for my country Nigeria. I pray for unity, peace, harmony and togetherness. We all deserve it.

My birthday wish is to please continue to pray for those innocent lives lost. Please remain hopeful and focused because I truly believe better days are soon ahead by God’s grace.

Peace, Love and Blessings.”

See her post below:

The actress’ post

The actress’ post

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