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7 Things Married People Won’t Tell You About Marriage

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Marriage is the dream of every woman, and every man. Finding a good partner, for life, is like finding your divine blessing, that can last you for a lifetime.
happy-couple44In this part of the world, we are more idealists than realists. If we face setbacks in our businesses, we are always comfortable with reciting the famous words: “it is well”. If rain soaks you on the way to the office, it’s “showers of blessings” and a promotion is probably on the way. If our right palm itches, it means some long lost relative will send cash soon.

It is no wonder that for many ladies, marriage seems to be the escape route from society’s pressures. Many of us fantasize, dream or even start planning a wedding before meeting “the right one”. Worse still, the romantic movies of heroes falling in love with less than perfect women and sweeping them off their feet in a proposal at the airport, add fuel to our flame of fantasy.

The truth is: idealism is great, but the idealist never knows what to do when the real situation hits hard like a deadly punch from a wrestler’s fist.

The Most Glamorous Part Of A Marriage Is The Wedding
A gorgeous cake, fresh flowers, wedding gown by Vera Wang, the exotic honeymoon, the paparazzi – all these come into play at the wedding. From the moment the bride wakes up on her wedding day to the moment she spends her first official night as a married woman, she feels on top of the world. Too bad, the party can’t last forever.

When you see an elderly couple retaking their marriage vows, with tears in their eyes, please note that those tears are not just tears of happiness; there are tears of a story well told – of joy, pain, courage, sadness and victory against all odds. If you’re not ready to deal with these, it’s not a sin to wait a little. Marriage is hard work and sacrifice.

The Word ‘Sacrifice’ Will Suddenly Come Up More Often In Your Dictionary
This word, we all dread – sacrifice. From the first day, you would find out that you may have to place the needs of others before yours, and if you are blessed with children, get ready for more sacrifices.

Will there be times you wish you were single? Yes! Will there be times you wish for one minute to yourself? Definitely! If given the opportunity, would you do it all over again? For most people, YES – especially if you are with the right person.

Marriage Is Not For Pretenses Or Show-Off
Whether you cook with diamonds in your Egusi soup, or look like a goddess, or even know a thousand styles in bed, a man always knows to whom his heart belongs. The meaning is simple: Be yourself before marriage, and don’t try to portray what you are not.

Let him fall in love with the essence of you, not with an image you have created. It’s difficult to fall out of such love, except either of you change sometime during the marriage.

You Never Really Know A Man/Woman Until You Get MarriedForget that you two lived in the same house for a few years before marriage, as far as there is no contract binding the two of you together in matrimony, you have not started.

People tend to let down their hair when they are married, and like an onion, the real us we have kept to ourselves start to unravel. The only thing to do is adjust and move on – you’re in it for real this time.

Marriage Is Team Work
Like a job, if you like team work, this role is for you. Just kidding. What I am saying here is that if you don’t work together as a team, you are heading for a major disaster. The unfortunate thing is that you can’t control the other person’s mind, and vice versa.

So, one just has to respect the other person’s boundaries, and it’s difficult if both of you are always bent on having your way.

Like A Rollercoaster, There Are Ups And Downs
Don’t think that in marriage, every day will be a holiday. You are kidding yourself. In fact, the most ecstatic moments in marriage come after a low period. Like every good story, you will be faced with challenges and tests.

Even if you fail one, life will give you an opportunity to repeat the test. But when you pass one, the rewards are priceless.

Marriage Is The Ultimate Gamble
Sometimes, marriage leads to happily ever after. Sometimes, it doesn’t. All is fair in love and war. If it doesn’t, dust your feet, learn from past mistakes, and start painting a rosy future without giving in to society’s pressures.

Many times, society looks down on divorced women. We are quick to point fingers that it is a woman’s fault that things did not work out. The fact is, it could be anybody’s fault. Either man or woman.

In the end, marriage is about two selfless people living together to achieve each other’s goals. If you find the right person to make that sacrifice with you, you are extremely lucky.

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  1. adeola

    May 5, 2013 at 7:54 pm

    This is wonderful and realistic indeed. Thumb’s up 4 d writer.

    • David

      May 6, 2013 at 1:17 am

      This is the wisest article I’ve ever read,keep it up.

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I Was Three Years Old When I Met My Wife – Nigerian Man Narrates

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A Nigerian identified as Nanpon narrates how he met his wife at age three.

Taking to his Tittwer hndle, he wrote;

“You asked for the full story so here it is: @Heeldarh
’s parents and mine had been friends since before either of us were born and they are till now. So when her mum was pregnant for her, she came to my house one day ( I was three years old at that time). I was told that I reached”

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Nigeria Army Officials Allegedly Beat Lady For Refusing To Greet Them (Video)

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A Nigeria lady in a video said he was beaten by some officials of the Nigerian Army because she refused to greet them.

According to the lady in the video, ”they were wearing Army uniform and whipping me kobokobo because I did not greet them”.

The aggrieved lady in rage said should she kneel down to greet them because they were soldiers?.

It was reported that the incident happened at Eti Osa Local Government Area in Lagos State.

Watch the video below;

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‘Ned Nwoko Dey Chop Better Things’ – Fan Gushes Over Regina Daniels New Photos

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Fans have hailed politician, Ned Nwoko, saying that he is really enjoying after his wife, Regina Daniels shared new adorable photos.

The young Nollywood actress took to her official Facebook page and shared some stunning photos of herself, which got some of her fans praising her beauty.

After sharing the photos, one of her fans who couldn’t just like the photos and keep on scrolling his phone took to the comment section to say his mind.

According to the fan identified as Anthony Boadu, the Nigerian lawyer, politician, and humanitarian, Prince Ned Nwoko, is lucky for having Regina Daniels as his wife because she is very beautiful and he is really enjoying something better.

He wrote; “Old man dey chop better things”

 

Another fan also took to the comment section and asked the mother of one of her billionaire husband marrying another lady to become his 7th wife, as reported.

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