Knowing what gifts to give your loved ones can be hard. Here are a few tips to ensure that your gifts please them and in essence please you too.
1) Give others what THEY want
Finding the right present is about putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. Looking at the world from their perspective. Just because you find that thing attractive, doesn’t mean your spouse or lover will like it.
Given that, it is important to give something that they (not you) would like. Look for a gift that relates to their values, interests, or hobbies. Think long and hard about what your lover enjoys and what makes them happy. Then, go out and get it!
2) Always be prepared to reciprocate
Sometimes, as with very new relationships, it is difficult to know whether a gift is warranted. Other times, we are explicitly told that “no gift is necessary”. Nevertheless, at the last minute, others may change their minds.
In those instances, there is nothing worse than being faced with a present…with nothing to give them in return. The solution here is simple – buy some small gifts “just in case”. This will save you a lot of embarrassment and give an impression that you’re thoughtful and sensitive.
3) Keep them guessing
People generally prefer a secret. They enjoy the surprise. The uncertainty and suspense is part of the fun! With that in mind, Don’t tell others what you are getting them. Let the anticipation and uncertainty build. Whatever it is, they will enjoy it more, if you keep them guessing.
4) Let others give back
The old saying “it is better to give than receive” is true. Relationships are about exchange, not just one-way giving. In fact, there is evidence to suggest that others come to care about you more when they give and invest in you than when you give to them Essentially, others come to love you by the gifts they give – rather than the gifts they get!
5) Practice gratitude
Gift-giving, exchanges, and relationships are built on the foundation of gratitude.
Therefore, whatever you ultimately get from others, be grateful for their time, attention, and consideration. Share that notion of gratitude and thanks with them too. It will bring you both closer and motivate further giving, sharing, and love.