Relationships: Can a Guy and a Girl Ever Be “Best Friends”?

We all know that particular guy and girl who claimed they were “best friends” and ended up dating. Maybe we’ve even attempted such a “friendship” ourselves.
Is it possible for a warm blooded human male and a female of the same species to spend every waking moment together and not have any feelings whatsoever for each other? My answer is No.
The fact is, even friendships are based on attraction and feelings and because you can truly be yourself with a friend, your bond is likely to run deeper than with a lover. This is why every successful relationship must begin with friendship.

This is not to say that men and women can’t have platonic relationships. Every one needs a friend of the opposite sex. But “Best Friends”?
Most people start out on the journey to be “Best Friends” with good intentions. They genuinely believe they can achieve this goal. But somewhere along the line, things become confusing. Where do you draw the line between a female best friend and a girlfriend?
Can you really have a girl that you tell everything, even things your girlfriend doesn’t know? Is there a guy in your life you ask to come and stay with you when you’re having period pains while your boyfriend is running for his life?
My question is if you have such a person who will be there for you in the difficult times, why do you need anyone else? It would be very unfair to that girlfriend or boyfriend because all you’re giving them is the leftovers of your “best friend”
Experience has taught me that in most cases where a guy and a girl claim to be “best friends”, there are romantic feelings involved. They just don’t realize it in time. More often than not, one person is in love with the other but can’t say for fear of “losing the friendship”
In my opinion, such girl and guy friendships cause nothing but trouble, especially where other people are involved. The people who the “Best Friends” are dating most times become insecure and jealous and therefore hostile to the “Best Friend”. It almost never ends well.
However, like everything else in life, there can be no generalization in this matter. I’m sure there are guys and girls who have managed to remain best friends and nothing else.
The most important thing is to stay true to yourself. If you really just want to be that person’s friend, then make it clear and be sure you’re both on the same page. However, if u have feelings for your “best friend”, you better speak up or you’ll be stuck in the friend zone forever.

9 COMMENTS

  1. My best friend is a male, we routinely ask ourselves why we weren’t dating but we both know and embrace the fact that there’s no connection of that sort. Whenever we are in relationship we give each other space and we don’t talk bad about our partners while the relationship is ongoing. As for boyfriends if am with someone who’s jealous of the friendship I try to get us to a place of trust. It works for us but it might not work for others

  2. A male and a girl can be best of friends.My best friend is a male we share our deepest secret even pple who happened to know us think we’re dating,but there’s nothing like that.we trusted each other to the extent that,we don’t feel shy in sharing our secrets .we run into each other whenever need arises without holding back.I believe in a guy,girl been best of friends.

  3. They can be friends but not best friends, for them to be best friends they will always be sexual feeling some time both of them are alone together because of d love they have for each other. it happen to me

  4. This is a very tricky issue. From my experience, it is usually a one-sided affair i.e. One person enjoys the best-friend relationship, while the other is suffering in silence. And unlike a normal dating rltnshp, when the suffering person does things to make the other realise the true situation, the other misconstrues it as eida touchy nerves, bad mood or just habit. This so-called “best”-friend relationship is not so healthy after all. It is better to have 2 or more bestfriends for when things get steamy and hot, you can ease out and go clear your head and decide if to extend it further or backout a lil.
    Anyway, each man with his own headache and analgesic.

  5. No man wil tel me he has never had d urge if he had a girl as “a very” close frnd. Most times u spent time with each oda,sleep in dsame bed,d feelings arise,but wil keep shut cos of d respect u hv for urself. For men dat can’t do dat made attempts and most of d girls end up opening their legs before realising. Itzls crazy plss,ladies distant urself frm ur male frnds,u wil destroy ur future,i’m a man.

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