I am a 22 yr. old final year student. I have been dating my boyfriend for 4yrs now. I am from a Muslim family. My boyfriend is not so rich but he’s comfortable and also a Christian and I love him very much and I know we’ll be happy together. He is ready for marriage but my parents insist I must marry a very rich Muslim guy. Even before I met my boyfriend I have been going to church because I don’t want to marry a Muslim. I also believe my happiness is more important than wealth and I also know he has a bright future. What’s your advice?
I understand how you must be feeling. It’s hard, especially in Nigeria, to marry someone your parents don’t approve of. However, it’s not impossible.
First of all, you have to be sure you understand all that’s involved. You’ve said you have no problem with Christianity, so that’s out of the way. However, if you decide to marry your boyfriend against your parents’ wishes, it could mean your whole family will turn against you. I assure you that it will not be an easy journey so you have to make up your mind now and decide if it’s worth it.
If, however, you’re sure that you love your boyfriend enough to stand by him no matter what, then I suggest that you marry him. You’re the one who’s going to live with him and your happiness is paramount. I wish you the very best.
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