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Ask Jay: I Either Marry Her or Lose My Job! What Should I Do?!




Dear Jay,

I am in my early thirties and I have a girl I hope to settle down with. However, there is this other girl in my office who is a close relative of my Managing Director and she insists on being my wife despite knowing that I’m engaged. My MD is aware and in full support of her action. My Job is on d line.I need your advice.


Dear A.S,

I can only imagine your dilemma. You’re faced with either the option of losing the one you love or losing your means of livelihood. However, let’s put aside the issue of your fiancée for now because there’s much more at stake here.

If you succumb to the pressure to marry your boss’ relative, it means that you would have succumbed to being blackmailed for the rest of your life. That woman will be in charge of your life for as long as you work for her relative. She will use your fear of losing your job against you and she will use it to control you. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life as a prisoner?

The most important thing a man has is his dignity and his pride and if you sell that, then you have nothing. I know that doing what’s right in this circumstance will be difficult but you have to do it anyway and hope for the best. I’m sure things will work out better than you imagine. Just have faith. I wish you the very best.



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  1. Sheyi

    April 21, 2013 at 10:28 am

    Who is jay?.follow ur heart abeg.

  2. Annie

    April 21, 2013 at 1:11 pm

    /sheyi, wat do u mean by follow ur hrt? If he wants to follow his hrt he wldnt av asked for advice, pls if u dont know wat to tell d young man, just read tru, shut up n get out. U dont know how to talk. My advice is dat the youngman shld resign with immediate effect n start looking for job elsewhere, involve God, close all ways in which d lady will wanna use to reach u. And u will live ur life happily with d woman u luv, u must never allow urself to b blackmailed into getting married, its sth u will live to always regret n will not forgive urself. Is d job worth ur happiness? Is it d only job in d world? There is no cause for alarm, u are a man, u shld do d right thing pls for ur own sake.

  3. oyinlola grace

    April 21, 2013 at 2:10 pm

    My dear broda,i knw it may b dificult 4 u hear especialy in dis jobles country,but pls quit dat job imediately,turn 2 God he wil make a way 4 u,or else u wil bcom a slave 4 d rest of ur life.

  4. darling

    April 21, 2013 at 3:13 pm

    Just resign and face the reality my brother.

  5. Agbolo Isaac

    April 21, 2013 at 4:21 pm

    my guy sit your fiancy down, tell her all this and that you want to quit the job because of the love you have for her and that if she will be able to bear with you interms of joblessness that your ready to quit the job an put your hope in GOD just because of her,but if she will not be able to bear with you let her tell you so that you will know what to do.that all my guy.

  6. ayemo

    April 21, 2013 at 6:43 pm

    Let ur fiancee knws wht u r facin, seek her advice first b4 u quit. If she can’nt cope wit ur joblessness. So, u may go ahead wit any oda step. Gud luk

  7. Abdulaziz konfirm_ajii

    April 27, 2013 at 12:40 pm

    Ma guy no lose ur job!! If u resign, all dis commentators no go give u job woh! Mk u sef tink am wella…

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Exotic Resorts May Be the Best Bet for a Holiday



An exotic vacation usually means exploring a distant foreign country, whilst resorts are places
to go for rest, sport, or which offers a particular speciality, with many resorts being part of a
popular tourist destination or on or near a beach. If you are planning a vacation to an exotic
resort it can be a once-in-a-lifetime vacation to a far-flung destination or a luxurious place to
stay closer to home where you can enjoy some pampering.

Why stay at an exotic resort

Exotic resorts often offer all-inclusive vacation deals, along with other options that leave you
to plan your stay more precisely to your own wishes. These resorts offer excellent customer
service, superb accommodation and facilities and are usually to be found in beautiful settings.
Here are some of the best resorts from around the world for you to consider:

Four Seasons Resort, Seychelles
This famous resort has made many feel they have entered Paradise. The gentle ocean breeze
floats up the granite hillside and into your tree-house villa tucked away from the other guests
staying at the resort. This is perfect for encouraging you to relax, either by your private pool
or in the clear blue waters of Petite Anse Bay. Perfect for a romantic stay, there is a Spa for
pampering and the chance for a sunset meal on a deserted beach.

Some enjoy simply sitting on their balcony, gazing at the ocean between reading their book,
sketching or checking out international bookmakers and betting sites for the chance of a
flutter. If you want another type of adrenaline kick, check out the resorts excellent kayaking
and snorkelling facilities, which are recommended by nearly all who try it.

Anantara Resort, Hua Hin, Thailand

The ultimate tropical getaway, the Anantara Resort is an award-winning site modelled on a
traditional Thai village and is just three hours drive south of Bangkok. The location is where
Thai royalty and aristocrats have been holidaying for almost one-hundred years. Today, you
can visit historical attractions alongside theme parks and shops as well as vineyards and golf

The resort is set among 14 acres of lush tropical grounds with lotus-filled lagoons and
meandering pathways through exotic foliage, with many rooms overlooking the shoreline.
Each day, chefs prepare freshly caught local seafood alongside Thai specialities. The resort
also has an award-winning spa located within a lagoon-inspired oasis offering you the perfect
opportunity to relax.

Kurumba, Maldives

Kurumba is a well-established resort that opened almost 50 years ago and continues to offer
superb hospitality and contemporary facilities. There are seven speciality restaurants offering
cuisine from Italy to the Middle East as well as Thila, a restaurant which extends out over the
water which offers gourmet breakfasts and seafood dinners.

You can go snorkelling over the nearby reef full of colourful marine life or sign up to a dive
package as part of your stay, or just enjoy a private pool when staying at one of the spacious
villages. There are also deluxe beachfront bungalows offering direct beach access and views
of the crystal-clear waters.

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Healthcare Workers To Receive Coca-Cola-Funded PPEs From Nigerian Red Cross



Since the outbreak of the Coronavirus disease in Nigeria, our healthcare workers have continued to lead the charge against the disease. As the number of recorded COVID-19 cases in Nigeria began to increase, these healthcare workers rose to the challenge and fought tirelessly to protect the lives of Nigerians impacted by the disease.

Considering the risks these healthcare workers face, there is a crucial need for adequate protective equipment for these brave frontline workers.

Coca-Cola is excited that over 400,000 Personal Protective Equipment (PPEs) procured to support the intervention efforts of the Nigerian Government and other key stakeholders to fight the COVID 19 pandemic have arrived. We do believe that this will to provide succor to our healthcare workers on the frontlines

These PPEs comprise N95 respirators, surgical masks, examination gloves, face shields, medical gowns, no-touch thermometers, disposable aprons, heavy-duty rubber gloves, rubber boots, basic masks, disposable gloves, and hand sanitizers.

Since the first confirmed case of the disease in Nigeria reported in February, over 800 healthcare workers have contracted the disease. While Nigerians are encouraged to stay home where possible and practice social distancing, these healthcare workers are needed across the country in the continued fight against the disease.

This donation forms part of The Coca-Cola Foundation’s COVID-19 relief interventions in Nigeria. The Coca-Cola Foundation has provided $2.5m in grant to IFRC who seeks to directly impact the lives of 1.4 million people in Nigeria and across other countries in West and Central Africa under this partnership.

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Taking Care of Tomorrow’s Leaders Today – The itel, Lagos Food Bank Example



Waking up to a special meal or choice gift is the best feeling ever. Hundreds of children in Mushin, mainland Lagos, had a filling taste of this feeling for the October 1 st celebrations. It’s an experience they will remember for a long time.

Being one of the most responsible corporate citizens around, celebrating Independence Day was always going to be on the radar for itel Mobile. To make this possible and memorable, the brand got to work in earnest. The focus of the work was picking the best way to commemorate the 60th independence anniversary of the most populous black nation on earth.

The efforts soon paid off through an impact-driven partnership with the Lagos Food Bank Initiative. With the arrangement, both partners considered a couple of activities capable of affecting communities positively and bringing smiles to people’s faces in Lagos. At the end of the exercise, taking care of children, the leaders of tomorrow, in the commercial city secured the highest votes.

With the decision, itel Mobile set about making this happen. Not surprisingly, the decision was
influenced by giving children the means to excel and prepare them for leadership and nation-building, for them to enjoy better life. For the good of their immediate family, community and the Nigerian society.

Idiko, Mushin, a suburb of mainland Lagos, was chosen as the benefiting community. And the partners strategically reached out to the beneficiaries, children and families, with gifts of love, care, happiness and support made possible by the itel Love Always On CSR initiative.

Over 1,000 families benefited from the gesture as well as 600 children, and each one of them received food packages to celebrate Nigeria’s 60 th Independence Day commemoration.

Speaking on the event and itel’s Love Always On CSR Initiative, Oke Umurhohwo, itel’s Marketing Manager said, ‘We wanted to mark this year’s Independence Day celebrations differently, and that is why we did something so momentous for our children. Children are the backbone of any longstanding community, and as such, we are proud to be able to give back and support them on their journey as leaders of tomorrow and for a better life.’

To meet the demands of the memorable event, 30 volunteers joined the customer-centric brand and the Lagos-based NGO to share smiles, and to convey just how important it is to love and take care of today’s children who will ultimately become leaders of tomorrow.

With the thoughtful activity, there are insights for everyone, from the government to citizens, on partnerships that are capable of making life better for children. Indeed, itel Mobile and the Lagos Food Bank Initiative have offered a great template on bringing this to reality.

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