Ask Jay: Help!!! My Boyfriend Hits Me But I Still Love Him. What Should I Do?

abused woman

Dear Jay,

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. He lost his job a year ago and since then he’s been beating me up. I’ve tried to reason with him but to no avail. It just keeps getting worse. I believe that he will stop when he gets another job but what if he doesn’t? I don’t want to leave him now when he needs my support the most. I love him but I’m so scared. Please help me! What should I do?


Dear F.O,

I can’t imagine the pain you must be going through from being battered constantly. No woman should have to go through that.

I’ll be frank with you, you need to leave your boyfriend and leave now! It wasn’t your fault that he lost his job so you don’t deserve to be punished for it. The only person you need to be concerned about now is yourself. Saving your own life is the most important thing.

Whatever love you shared with him ended the minute he laid his hands on you. If you don’t leave, he will continue. It will never stop. Summon all your courage and leave him and never look back. I wish you the very best.



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